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  • janellie
    janellie Member Posts: 18
    #22
    bugs_mommy said:

    thank u

    thank u everyone for ur kind words :) it was very hard to see him die, everynight it gets harder for me, but my baby girl makes my days go by, she makes me laugh sp much i just love her and i will miss my husband each and every day :)

    last hoorah...

    I had this same experience with my father....I was following your thread and wanting to share with you the signs that would come and the last hoorah is definitely one..and is normally just before the end.  Miraculously they perk up and often talk, eat and accomplish tasks unheard of just days before.....That last time with my dad was our most fun....he was engaging, silly, fun, snacking, drinking and frankly we told him to pipe down and get some sleep, but we definitely laughed, had fun, shared a glass of wine, and then the next day.....the sky went dark.  I think God gives the living the last hoorah, so we can remember and enjoy them.  I pray for you and your baby.  I cannot imagine having to lose a husband and the father of my children.  I lost both of my parents prematurely and yet, I know it does not compare to the loss of a spouse or child.

    God bless you and your sweet child.

     

    Much love,

    Janelle

  • nikist100
    nikist100 Member Posts: 3
    #23
    bugs_mommy said:

    strong

    thank u i have been trying to stay so strong but i dont know if i can witness my husband dying. its going to be hard but if i know what to expect then it should be a litle easier.

    Hi, Bugs.  :)  I too, am in a

    Hi, Bugs.  :)  I too, am in a similar situation.  My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 Glioblastoma in June.  Every day, I get the exciting task of waiting and watching to see what other skills have declined that day.  I'm not trying to be depressing, but I'm in the medical field too.  I'm a speech pathologist, so I usually work with patients that have TBIs and have to relearn their skills.  Exciting...  But not when it's your husband.  So far, he's doing well, but I know it's just a matter of time, realistically.  I do have to say that I did talk to my doctor about getting on some anti-depressants b/c watching your soul mate die a little bit everyday is a little tough to handle.  It's been almost a year, and he's doing well, by the way.  I asked my husband's doctor, and knowing from my own (be it limited) experience that he will most likely go quickly from a seizure.  He is, and will, experience more loss of skills, but his death, I was reassured, will most likely be very quick.  I know this appears to be a somewhat depressing post to outsiders, but I think the quicker and less painful way anyone can go, the better.  This is a tough road for anyone, but God has given us this experience for a reason....no matter if we know/agree with the reason or not.  I like to look at it that my husband's work on Earth is almost done-he was such an exceptional person that he doesn't need to be here anymore.  He gets to return to the Heavens and look down and make sure I'm taken care of.  Lots of love and prayers, Bugs.  Stay strong.

  • janellie
    janellie Member Posts: 18
    #24
    cindysuetoyou said:

    I'm so very sorry

    Absolutely heart wrenching. Watching your children having to say goodbye, then seeing your husband die.....this is so wrong. It's not supposed to be this way. I'm so very sorry for your pain and the loss of your husband and the father of your children. Im crying for you, for your family, for me, and for our friends here on CSN who have lost and are losing their loved ones. May God give you strength and grace and peace for these days ahead.

    When my son David died, I laid next to him like your mother in law did and I held him in my arms one last time. He was 29 years old.

    Love and blessings,

    Cindy in Salem, Oregon

    David

    Cindy,

    I have followed your story and David's life on this site.  I left for quite a time after losing my father so quickly but have come back to catch up with all the "family" members who supported us and prayed for us.  I CANNOT imagine how you square each sunrise without David.  But I pray you will find a way to go on and honor his life and spirit.

    I am throwing myself into fundraising, and research and really no longer work for a check....but donate most of my company to LLS and other forms of research that have great success and cross over drugs.  I don't know how you will do it, but i'm confident you will

    Much love,

     

    Janelle

  • bugs_mommy
    bugs_mommy Member Posts: 24
    #25
    jbaumgarten said:

    Thank you for your words of Love!

    I don't know if you still check this network but my experiences about your husband are similar to mine.

    After his first Surgery he kept talking about how beautiful it was on the other side. The surgeons in the room laughed at him and told him it was because of the medication.

    But before his Surgery, he received a blessing and received a sacred and spiritual manifestation which calmed him in preparation for his surgery. He told me that as he was coming back out of anesthesia, he spoke about how beautiful life was on the other side and his family...many that had passed on were also there to prepare him for what was to come. They were all the same age if u will (20-25) and as he came back, he began to excitedly speak of the things he saw and especially how we all are brothers and sisters.

    Since then he relates to this experience as a confimation of the love of God and the power of love that comes from that divine world on the otherside. He has also seen the resurrection of some of those persons who have passed on. 

    These are his words:

    "Is there Life after Death? Yes. I have already been there and have seen all our brothers and sisters that have already passed on. 

    How? Think about it when you are near to death and your hope for continued existence becomes a reality and everything you have not been taught in religion is made more plain in the life beyond. That hope and faith still continues without our bodies to the other side where all answers and agency are still alive. And I will also add, that a Pure Repentive Life is a Life worth Living in Eternity."

    Please consider these words as a feeling of hope. Though we suffer as in Christ, we all will return again, and with gratitude... hold our loved ones in our arms again.  

    JBAUMGARTEN

    thank u

    thank u jbaumgarten for sharing that with me :) its been almost two months since cory passed and the only real memory i have of him is the last day when we were looking at each other while he took his last breath :( and i dream of him but when i do its bad he is sick and so much worse then he really was, when will i get the good dreams, the happy moments we had of each other ? i need to know he is ok where he is i need to know!

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