my mom is passing away...thank you for all your help and suppor

marc24 said:

my mom passed away at 3pm yesterday
Before i dissappear from these message boards, i would just like to comment on how strong my mom was. My mom technically lost her battle two days ago at 2pm, but she miraculously woke up and was able to speak and laugh with my other family members for another 3 hrs...then it got harder and harder for her to breathe....she was in a 100% oxygen for the next 17 hrs, just waiting on my brother who was flying from Virginia, and he got here at around 2pm yesterday. He had about an hr with her and us praying around her, until we all decided to take her out of life support, which is one of her wishes when she was able. She was asked this question just three days ago but it still surreal that it just happened. SO my mom is gone, but i know she will live on forever. Thank you all for the support and i definitely wish each and everyone one of u, whetehr u are a caregiver or a patient/survivor yourself, to not give up as my mom didnt. The last few words she uttered was "i am tired" but before that, she was mentioning, "i want to get ready to go home" which means all this time during her hardship, she just wants to get better. Take care everyone - MARC

marc24 said:

3 1/2 years later

i wonder if any of you are still using these message boards...yesterday was my mom's wouldabeen 66th bday..its crazy how i look back 3 1/2 years ago writing this and how life has changed......anyways just checking to see if yall stil around this post and wish you all the best of luck...you ALL helped me through a tough stretch in 2009.

this website really needs to be given more credit, it is self therapy.

 

I hate that you have to celebrate your mom's birthday without her physical presence, but I LOVE that you still carry her in your heart!!!!

I 'lost' my mom 2 years ago, April.  I still think of her often.  Like you, I celebrate her birthday (May 5) with fond memories.

I agree, this site is AMAZING!  I have 'met' people from all over the world...fighting a common cause, and the same monster...

How are YOU doing now?  I hope living life has gotten in the way of the terrible memories!!!

BIG hugs from the past....AND the FUTURE!!!

Hugs, Kathi

marc24 said:

3 1/2 years later

i wonder if any of you are still using these message boards...yesterday was my mom's wouldabeen 66th bday..its crazy how i look back 3 1/2 years ago writing this and how life has changed......anyways just checking to see if yall stil around this post and wish you all the best of luck...you ALL helped me through a tough stretch in 2009.

this website really needs to be given more credit, it is self therapy.

 

I agree with Trubrit.   My husband gets upset with our daughter's (15) lack of concern and her attitude.  I think it's her way of dealing with things, but  reading your posts could be helpful.  Thanks for sharing your feelings and I'm very sorry about your mom.   Please take comfort in knowing that moms do know their kids care even if they don't always know how to show it. 

annalexandria said:

I wasn't here when you were posting before,

but just wanted to say that I'm sorry you lost your mom to this terrible disease.  My mom died in November.  It's just very difficult losing a parent, but especially our mothers.  No one else can take her place.  Hugs~Ann Alexandria

Hey Marc:

I totally remember you...because I just lost my Mom two months before you lost your Mom...and at that time I was 12 years old. So, yes, I totally remember you, and believe it, or not, there's no single day I do not think of my Mom (or even my Dad and brother who passed away in 2007). I do think of them. I often wonder how my life would've turned out to be...I often imagine "going home" and having a family table in the kitchen where we would all sit around and eat yummy dinner together and ask each other how was school. We would be eating my Mom's yummy warm food...like real food! Instead of living on spagthettios (don't take me wrong I like them, but sometimes a big real warm soup, or baked food would be lovely). Anyway, I do remember you, and I want to tell you that your Mom will never really go away. I often look up the sky and see the shiniest star and I know that is her! AND I'm dreaming about being on an airplane....I want to be on an airplane 24/7....because that is probably the closest I'll ever be to her. It would be sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo awesome! Until then I'm just surviving...but every step I'm taking I'm thinking it has to be steps that my Mom would approve and be proud of me choosing. She whispers to me and gives me signs what I should do and how. She will never leave me, and same for you. Your Mom will never really leave you! This is a Mom nature...they just stick around. All the best to you in your life's journey!