I am losing my warrior...

Vee1
Vee1 Member Posts: 59
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

My dad’s battle with cancer has been stopped.  A few weeks ago I wrote about his parotid gland infection.  Well, that turned-into a fast-moving sepsis, hospitalization, cessation of radiation treatments, insertion of g-tube, and scans that indicate the cancer has metastasized to the neck area of C3-4; C4-5.  I guess I was “prepared” for lung/liver metastasis, but not the spine.  All of this led to him becoming a DNR code.  He spent two weeks in ICU/Pulmonary care and then was transferred to a SNF.  Speech is unintelligible. Hallucinations and “visions” are common.

 

He is now re-hospitalized with aspiration pneumonia and palliative care has been assembled.  When he learned that he was back in the hospital to be treated for his low O2 saturation, he clapped and mumbled, “One more chance.”

 

I know a lot of what I am writing has little to do with H&N cancer, but I thought his fellow warriors would want to know.  You have helped me more than I can express and I thank you all for that.

 

I humbly ask for prayers for him and my family. And, selfishly, me.  Know that I love you all and hope you continue your fight.

 

With heartfelt blessings…

-Vee

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  • D Lewis
    D Lewis Member Posts: 1,581 Member
    #2
    So very sorry to hear this news

    Vee

    I am so sorry to hear this news about your warrior dad.  Holding you both in my thoughts.

    Deb

  • donfoo
    donfoo Member Posts: 1,773 Member
    #3
    I will pray

    Vee,

    So sorry to hear about the turn for the worst. I will pray for you and your family. stay strong. don

  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
    #4
    donfoo said:

    I will pray

    Vee,

    So sorry to hear about the turn for the worst. I will pray for you and your family. stay strong. don

    Vee

    Prayers to your family

     

    Candi

  • fishmanpa
    fishmanpa Member Posts: 1,227 Member
    #5
    On the way!

    Vee,

    So sorry to hearr this news. Please know positive thoughts and prayers are on the way. And please, there is nothing selfish in asking for yourself, so a double scoop for you!

    "T"

  • fisrpotpe
    fisrpotpe Member Posts: 1,349 Member
    #6
    your in mine

    you, your dad and family are in my prayers

    bless you and your warrior

    john 

  • katenorwood
    katenorwood Member Posts: 1,912
    #7
    Oh my dear

    Vee,

    If I could I would take all the pain away from your Dad and the family.  I have walked this path and it is such a personal unexplainable journey.  My prayers and thoughts are with you, and if you ever need to vent you can pm me anytime.  My Mother was Irish and loved this so I'm including it for you my friend.    Katie

    May the road rise up to meet you.  May the wind be always at your back.  May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon your fields.  And until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #8
    Family...

    As John mentioned, you and yours are family....cancer is cancer no matter how it plays out.

    You, your father and family are in my prayers.

    John

  • Pumakitty
    Pumakitty Member Posts: 652
    #9
    So very sorry

    I am sorry that you are going through this my heart is breaking for you.  Prayers and hugs for you and your family.

     

    Kathy

  • rachel12yrsuv
    rachel12yrsuv Member Posts: 435
    #10
    Vee,
    We have never spoken
    Vee,

    We have never spoken because I am new to sight, but it doesn't mean I don't feel your pain.
    I will pray for your father, you and your family. May God take him quickly if that's his plan, or heal him quickly if that's His plan and aid you emotionally and physically in whatever path your father, the warrier, must take. In Jesus' name Amen
  • Grandmax4
    Grandmax4 Member Posts: 723
    #11
    May Peace

    surround you and your family and your Dad...

  • Grandmax4
    Grandmax4 Member Posts: 723
    #12
    May Peace

    surround you and your family and your Dad...

  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
    #13
    Oh Vee....

    I'm so so sorry to hear this news....you dad is one tough warrior, there is no two ways about it.  My heart breaks for you.....you have stood by his side and done everything a person could do to help him fight this horrible disease.  You too, are one tough cookie.  Sending out heartfelt prayers to you and your poppa....as T said, there is never any shortage of those.

    p

  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,724 Member
    #14
    for your Dad

    Vee,

     

    I am very sorry to hear this news.  He will be in my thoughts and prayers.

     

    Matt

  • Tim6003
    Tim6003 Member Posts: 1,514 Member
    #15
    CivilMatt said:

    for your Dad

    Vee,

     

    I am very sorry to hear this news.  He will be in my thoughts and prayers.

     

    Matt

    The news stinks Vee...and I'm sorry...

    Your Dad is 94 (I thinkyou said) and for you to tend to him as you do shows what a great man he is, and how you have turned out.  I wish there was more we could do.  However, at 94 I'd would not lay odds against himSealed  I'm sure he has had his share of close calls, but who knows.

    I honor your dad with three cheers as the fellow warrior he is and a salute (my dad passed away as a Navy Officer) and the small ceremony they did for him in his bed just days before he died meant to much to him....so in my own way I saluter your father and pray he has no pain and peace in his heart.  I pray the same for you Vee.

    Bless a great man and his wonderful caretaker daughter.

    Tim

  • Ingrid K
    Ingrid K Member Posts: 813
    #16
    heartbreaking news. So sorry

    heartbreaking news. So sorry that you have to go thru this now.

    sending prayers your way.

     

  • NJShore
    NJShore Member Posts: 429 Member
    #17
    Vee

    Vee,

    Our prayers are with you and your Dad and your families.

    I am so sorry you have to go through this.

    Kari & Dan

  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #18
    prayers for comfort for you

    prayers for comfort for you and yours. BIG HUG

    Debbie

  • josh r.
    josh r. Member Posts: 264 Member
    #19
    peace

    Vee,

    Prayers to your dad, you and your family. josh r.

  • luv4lacrosse
    luv4lacrosse Member Posts: 1,410 Member
    #20
    Prayers headed your way

    Sorry to hear of the change of events. Prayers headed your way from my family to yours.

    Mike

  • VivianLee5689
    VivianLee5689 Member Posts: 546
    #21
    luv4lacrosse said:

    Prayers headed your way

    Sorry to hear of the change of events. Prayers headed your way from my family to yours.

    Mike

    Sorry

    Sorry to hear your news. I will say a prayer for your family.

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