funeral assistance?

candice91
candice91 Member Posts: 1
in Lymphoma (Hodgkin and Non-Hodgkin) #1

My dad died this morning. He had leukemia and was diagnosed 10 years ago, he overcame a lot of obsticles but found out only few months ago he had lymphoma which they say can manifest as leukemia and it overtook him, he was only 45. We are trying to find some place that can help with funeral costs but no luck. I tried the trustee but they wont give him a showing or a proper burial and the funeral home wont take installments. We live in Indiana and I just want a propper burial that he deserves. He is a great father to me and my 3 brothers and I don't think it has completely set in just yet. We've been with him the past few days and have seen him get worse and worse and I still had hope that he would just jump up, I just wish I could have one more conversation with him. He hadn't been able to really know we were there for a week and wasn't able to talk, but I could see in his eyes that he knew what was going on, and I saw that he wanted to reassure us but he couldn't and all I could do was hold his hand and tell him that everything is going to be okay. And I want everything to be okay.

Can anyone help with information on a place that can help with funeral assistance? 

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  • DadysGirl
    DadysGirl Member Posts: 346
    #2
    I'am so very sorry about your

    I'am so very sorry about your loss. I don't have any information as my Dad was buried overseas but I can relate to your pain as I lost my wonderful Father in August after only 13 months battling cancer... My love and prayers to your family during such a painful difficult time...

  • epicc
    epicc Member Posts: 137
    #3
    DadysGirl said:

    I'am so very sorry about your

    I'am so very sorry about your loss. I don't have any information as my Dad was buried overseas but I can relate to your pain as I lost my wonderful Father in August after only 13 months battling cancer... My love and prayers to your family during such a painful difficult time...

    a local charity

    Some local charities will help.  I work with one that pays for furnerals for families with sick children.  Most times a family has spent all of their money on medical expenses and there is nothing left for a funeral.  Is there anything in your community that would help?  I am so sorry to hear about your father.  My prayers are with you and your family. 

  • illead
    illead Member Posts: 884 Member
    #4
    So sorry

    Hi Candice,

         We are so very sorry.  Your father was so young, we know this must be a horrible loss for you.  You and your siblings are way too young to be facing this.  Please be assured that you did everything possible for your father and he for sure knew and took comfort in knowing you were caring for him and that you all loved him very much.  I hesitate to even mention this because it seems very cold.  There is the Neptune Society but it is "just the basics"   Perhaps though your local one can give you other reccommendations. Please know that our thoughts and sadness are with you at this time.  Take care,  Bill and Becky

  • jimwins
    jimwins Member Posts: 2,107
    #5
    Sorry for your loss

    Hi Candice.  I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  I did a little searching and looks like there's a lot out there on the web.  You can also contact a funeral director and they may be able to help you.  If your father was a veteran, they can provide help also.  I do know cremation is less expensive but that may not be what you or he wanted.  I truly hope you find some help and again, I'm sorry for your loss.  Below is a link with some information:

    http://m.voices.yahoo.com/where-find-help-burial-expenses-10253035.html

    Jim

  • Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3
    Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3 Member Posts: 3,819 Member
    #6
    VA

    Candice,

    If he was a veteran, the VA will do a lot toward funeral expenses. In most parts of the country, they will provide a free plot inside a VA cemetary, usually with no "opening" fee. It is that way where I live. My wife and I both qualify for this (she is not a Vet herself, either). 

    Most funeral homes also have "bare bones" policies, which they do not discuss initially.  This usually, but not always, involves cremation verses interrment.

    max

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  • ThisisLife
    ThisisLife Member Posts: 101 Member
    #7
    So very sorry

    Candice, I'm so very sorry for your loss.  It's a very difficult time for sure.  Please take care of yourself.

  • DadysGirl
    DadysGirl Member Posts: 346
    #8
     
    How did you do

     

    How did you do sweetie?

    Thinking of you and your family

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