Hello My Sweet Semi-Colons:

geotina
geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1
First, thank each and every one of you for your words of sympathy and love expressed to me upon losing my precious George. The days have gone by in a blurr and it was difficult to stay strong but I did and took care of the necessary. I really had no idea there was so much to do when death occurs but with the help of my daughter, almost all is now done. Next week I meet with the financial planner to go over monthly expenses and work on a budget. Ugh. George always took care of bills and such so all of this is new to me but I did a spreadsheet today so hopefully that end will go smoothly.

I was totally overwhelmed with how many people attended the visitation and funeral. George's friends and business associates honored him in ways I never dreamed. We are in Michigan and people came from Texas, Kentucky, Tennessee, Louisiana, Ohio, Illinois, Indiana, Alabama and Pennsylvania. Just goes to show what a great guy he was. I never imagined more than 200 people would come thru the doors. I am so greatful and appreciative of their love and concern for our family.

George would have been pleased with the memorial luncheon. I had it at an Italian restaurant we went to often especially before cancer. A buffet of the food that I remember him liking. The owner remembered me and went out of her way to make sure everything was perfect, down to the linen tablecloths. His picture was surrounded by roses in the middle of the room. Dignified and perfect.

I miss him so terribly each day. The evenings are especially hard without his physical presence but I have his photo on the table next to the couch and his ashes are up on the dresser so in a a wierd way, he is still here.

I will try to check in more often and perhaps answer a few posts.

Love to all - Tina

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  • Deena11
    Deena11 Member Posts: 199 Member
    #2
    Bless You
    You tackled so many hurdles. You're strong and brave. my Girl. Many hugs to you.
    Deena
  • Jaylo969
    Jaylo969 Member Posts: 824 Member
    #3
    Love back atcha' Tina
    Hello Tina,

    I am so happy to see your post and know that you are doing fairly well. I think of you often. You have been such a good friend to our community and I thank you for that.

    Please do continue visiting and posting, as your input has always been very helpful and interesting.I could always feel the love you had for your George and I believe you are right...he IS still with you and a part of you.

    -Pat
  • dmj101
    dmj101 Member Posts: 527 Member
    #4
    Tima I am sure George knows
    Tima I am sure George knows how much you loved him and continue to love him and how much others did as well.
    You are a trooper and will always be wanted here for your info and friendship.
    George will always be there with you.. don't feel funny speaking to him... he will guide you more than you know..
    I hope you find some peace in this..especially at this difficult time..
    love ya.. Donna
  • k44454445
    k44454445 Member Posts: 494
    #5
    Tina
    so good to hear from you. still praying for you. i think that is good you have his picture & ashes close. that is a comfort.
    hugs
    judy
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #6
    Thank you, dearest, for checking in....
    Sending big hugs...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • steveandnat
    steveandnat Member Posts: 886
    #7
    Thanks for sharing
    I'm so happy you had such a good turnout. It seem George would be so proud of everything you did since his passing. Praying for the best for you and your family. Jeff
  • Aud
    Aud Member Posts: 479 Member
    #8
    Dear Tina
    you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
    hugs,
    Audrey
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #9
    Aud said:

    Dear Tina
    you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
    hugs,
    Audrey

    Tina
    Tina it is snowing and 8 oclock in the morning and I am sitting here weeping away as I read your post.

    I am just picturing that restaurant and all those people paying tribute to your darling boy.

    sending best love Tina....thinking about you....I am sure evenings are difficult....

    mags
  • mukamom
    mukamom Member Posts: 402
    #10
    maglets said:

    Tina
    Tina it is snowing and 8 oclock in the morning and I am sitting here weeping away as I read your post.

    I am just picturing that restaurant and all those people paying tribute to your darling boy.

    sending best love Tina....thinking about you....I am sure evenings are difficult....

    mags

    What a wonderful
    tribute to your George. A very special man, indeed.

    Continued prayers for you and your family.

    Angela and Robert
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member
    #11
    Thank you
    Thank you for sharing that with us. You input is always welcomed and valued here.

    Steve
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #12
    We'll Leave the Light On for You:)
    That sounds like a wonderful tribute to George...I think we'd all like to be thought of and remembered in such a special way as that.

    I've been learning this year as well about how hard handling a death is...though for a different relationship and much different feelings...but the logistics have been a nightmare and a real challenge...and from that standpoint, yes, there is much to do...so many t's to cross and i's to dot.

    I've sure learned about it though...

    Thank you for your contributions to the community, Tina...a caregiver's perspective is invaluable...I've always tried to grasp for your perspectives, but have always come up short, because I've not been in that position to truly understand what happens afterwards when the tears stop and you have to move on.

    I can tell you that the passing of George and my thoughts of you...and another very special dear friend of mine, who recently lost her husband after you did...have changed my understanding of how death affects the one that remains behind.

    It's opened my eyes in ways that I may never have understood otherwise.

    Your love story with George has been timeless - a poignant reminder to all that true love really does exist. That is so very refreshing in the times in which we live now...

    Cancer never took that love away from either of you.

    I hope you do stay in contact - and you can always contact me, if you would ever like to.

    Hugs!

    -Craig
  • Kathryn_in_MN
    Kathryn_in_MN Member Posts: 1,252 Member
    #13
    So sorry
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't been on this site for quite a while - been quite ill.

    George was lucky to have such a wonderful caregiver. I'm glad you had lots of support for the memorial.
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #14
    Tina
    Tina,
    I continue to think of you and pray for you. I can only imagine how much you miss your wonderful husband. It sounds like his friends really honored him. It is special that the luncheon was at a restaurant that the two of you enjoyed together.

    We're here for you. (((hugs)))

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #15
    Tina
    I'm so glad for you that the dinner was dignified and perfect, and that so many were there to remember and honor George with you.
    We're here for you if you ever need us.
    I'm glad his presence is still there with you, I think it always will be.
    Love to you,
    Winter Marie
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #16
    Hey!
    Tina,

    It's lovely to hear from you. You have been in my thoughts so much. I know this is very tough for you, but praying you will have some peace with all of it.

    *hugs*
    Gail

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