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It will be okay
I don't know how to say this without yelling, please get a second opinion from a supportive team of doctors who a trustworthy and knowledgeable of cancer and brain cancer.
I am spewing with anger reading the what has been told to your employers, Ted and Holly. I highly recommend UAB as a great medical and learning hospital. Know that students will practicing almost 100% at UAB. I've had 2 family members' lives saved there. One for liver cancer, blood cancer, heart surgery (all the same person) and another for an aneurysm in the brain. Both alive and well from UAB. The surgeons were not students.
As far as your questions. Please know my experience comes from having an anaplastic astrocytoma stage 3 also. Mine was removed by surgery in Florida. It was located in the left parietal occipital lobe. I have many deficits but I have not lost who I am.
I recommend this. Depending on Ted's current age, he automatically qualifies for social security disability compassionate allowance. Which is speedy approval, compared to a 6 month wait he gets a 3 month wait.
Also insurance.
Now to the questions....please ignore all statistics because NONE of them apply to Ted! Not one! It angers me that any doctor in the helping profession would give a patient survival statistics, unless asked for. If you want to know what they are www.cancer.gov. They are harsh and to the point. But my point is and any good caring doctor will tell you....you are not a statistic, have hope, your body senses hope.
Unfortunately, without treatment it is possible that Ted may not survive the tumor. When I was in my darkest moment, I actually googled, how does cancer kill the brain. It's nasty. I'd have to say its scary. I chose treatment for my loved ones more than I wanted it for myself. With treatment, Ted may out live Holly. With treatment, Ted will always have to have an MRI every month, and then every three months, and then every 6. Some survivors actually go out as far as an MRI every year. It's worth celebrating each milestone. Sometimes there are setbacks. As for me, I'm a 2.5 year survivor and I've never been over 3 months MRI but each has been slightly stable.
The cancer will always BE there. It will never go away. So when someone says, are you cancer free, or in remission I can say yes to soothe their spirits yet I know better. The dormant cells remain. It's like being an HIV carrier, or TB carrier. The doc has to tell you truths you don't want to hear like the cancer will never be completely gone, because it won't, but the tumor itself will stop growing inside if you start a particular treatment...you see.
I recommend visiting a website also, www.virtualtrials.com and joining a group for caregivers of brain tumor patients and it is also for patients. It can also help answer more technical questions such as the one you have about the location of the tumor. I recommend looking up a map of the brain. That's what I did, to see what I may be losing of be affected by this tumor business.
Also the standard treatment is right. 42 days temodar (dosage based on weight) 33 days radiation and then hair falls out with plenty of tiredness!!!!!, he will need you the most during this time! And then 6 to 12 months temodar which mostly well tolerated with a prescribed anti nausea pill like zofran.
I hope this helps you!

It was a ride for me. I'm still on it. I'm a social worker as well. So I tried to include details that I felt you may need. I wish them all three of you journey of strength and recovery.