I'm hesitant to post this, because I don't want to discourage any of us

mom2greatkids
mom2greatkids Member Posts: 528
in Ovarian Cancer #1
However, how do we cope when we know we are losing another "teal sister." I know a lady who was diagnosed with OVCA maybe two years ago? Anyway, I just learned tonight that they're giving her only 3-4 months to live. She is the head librarian where my daughter attends college (a small private, Christian school). My daughter just called me earlier tonight to tell me about Hope. Of course, now my daughter is scared as am I.

I know we're all different. But how do you cope when you lose a friend to the same disease? Hope's was bad when found. She had 4 months of chemo before surgery, then four more months of chemo afterwards. She had a brief break, then it became active again. I haven't talked to her in a while, but I know she is still working every day and she continues to run, even competiting. I think she is around 57 yrs. old.

Please tell me how you cope with this kind of news?

And please, ladies, don't let this discourage you. I know it's hard though.

Thanks,

Carla

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  • Cafewoman53
    Cafewoman53 Member Posts: 735 Member
    #2
    I don't know
    I don't know what the answer is to your question. I grieve for each woman we lose to this disease knowing my time is limited also. All I can do is try to stay strong enough to do what my doctor reccomends, also maybe they are learning how to treat us better.
    For each loss there are also success stories, women are living longer and I would like to live to see them "cure" us. Sorry no answer for you but the friendships we share here comes with a heavy price of not being long term but they are priceless and beautiful. This is my lifeline that I turn to almost everyday.
    I am sorry about your friend, here is what I want my family and friends to do; grieve and then move on life is too precious, take that energy that saddness takes and put it towards being proactive about their own health and spreading awareness about this and other cancers.

    Colleen
  • Mwee
    Mwee Member Posts: 1,338
    #3
    Hi Carla
    This is not easy... I, too have experienced the loss of two teal sisters that and the three of us used to go to lunch about once a month. One was dxed before me and sadly one was dxed six months after me. I'm a 6 1/2 year survivor and Gail survived only six months after her diagnosis. Her OVCA was discovered in late stages and chemo never worked for her. I had lots of difficulty with what I would call survivors guilt. I would think "why her?" Gail is one of the reasons I fight so hard against this monster. By mere chance, I have had the opprotunity to experience so much in the last six years. When I start bemoaning chemo, etc., I think of Gail, how hard she fought and consider that it is my duty to fight on. ((((HUGS)))) Maria

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