Does your doctor have a chaperone present when examining you?
Also, he doesn't bother with me putting on a gown..he just asks me to lift my shirt up.
So how common is this? Does your doctor/nurse do this or not so much?
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Speak up....lynn1950 said:Yes, a Nurse....Yes, A Gown
And yes a courtesy knock. Sometimes, they forget the gown part and last time was awkward as I am very shy about my scars and really prefer a gown. But for the most part my NP and MO are terrific about my feelings. xoxoxox Lynn
Tell the NP you'd prefer a knock and a gown.....nothing wrong with you asking for these two courtesy......when I see my onc instead of the PA, who is a female, he always knocks and he gives me a gown, he disappears for about 5 minutes and then knocks...again....my husband has always been in the room except for my last exam...(first time he's missed in 3 years)...no one in the room but the onc and me...he's been my onc for 3 years...we know each other well, so it doesn't bother him or me...now my radiation onc always had his nurse in the room when he checked my skin, weekly...
So...if you are uncomfortable speak up....the NP wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable...
Hugs, Nancy0 -
No, but Danny (husband) is
No, but Danny (husband) is always with me. I guess he is chaperone enough...lol.0 -
Make them knock
Jendrey,
Please don't allow anyone to intimidate you. Request that he knock before entering and ask for a gown from the nurse who takes your vital signs before you see the doc.
If he doesn't knock after you request this courtesy, make him go out and come in again. It is a courtesy to knock before entering a closed door no matter who you are.
There should be a female nurse if he is examining your privates. I don't know if breast are today considered privates. However, if you are not comfortable alone with him, you should definitely ask the nurse to be in the room with you.
Your the consumer and you can request these normal courtesies.
I have mostly female doctors now. All do knock before entering.
Best,
Doris0 -
I'm so glad they finally showed up that I didn't care.
And the hospital I go to is a teaching center so it was a veritable party in my exam room and more just kept coming in. I threatened to open the door and invite the whole darn place once after yet another one came in the room. These breasts haven't gotten this much attention since I was 18...
I didn't need a chaperone...I needed a caterer!0 -
Me
Hi,
My doctor and nurse practioner (depending on who I see) always knock before they come in. It states directly on the wall where I go if you want a nurse present during your exam you can ask for it. Personally I never do I've gone there for so long and am comfortable. The NP does a gown as did my doctor before he retired this past month. My new oncologist doesn't have me put on a gown which I LOVE. Sometimes I felt like I spent a lifetime in those things and they never fit right or the strings are broken. This is just my opinion of course.
If you want a knock, gown or a nurse in the room ask for it you are entitled!
Terry0 -
You are so funny!rallendorfer said:I'm so glad they finally showed up that I didn't care.
And the hospital I go to is a teaching center so it was a veritable party in my exam room and more just kept coming in. I threatened to open the door and invite the whole darn place once after yet another one came in the room. These breasts haven't gotten this much attention since I was 18...
I didn't need a chaperone...I needed a caterer!
Bless your heart. xoxoxox Lynn0 -
I would say something if it
I would say something if it bothers you. I always bring someone with me into the room, but there's always a nurse present. I wouldn't feel comfortable with just a male Dr. (or even a female!lol). You want to feel relaxed and confident when you go into that room. The stress of going to your appt. should be sufficient.
I always get asked to change into a gown.
In a way, I've lost some shame. I'm not shy anymore! I now expose them to the world. But I would still feel uncomfortable with only one person present.
If it really bothers you, please ask.
XOXO0 -
My previous answer to you,
My previous answer to you, although joking was insensitive and bothering me.
I believe, like some of the others, that whenever you are uncomfortable, you should immediately speak up. If a provider is at all worthwhile, they will reassure you and provide you with an attendant.
Personally, I don't care if I have an attendant unless I am getting a weird vibe. As to the knocking, I think that is rude and unusual. He may just be rushed, but that is no excuse. I believe strongly that we all should really trust that inner voice that warns us if someone is off. I am sensing that this NP's approach may be concerning you and that could be serious.
If you are uncomfortable with his approach, you should either let him and/or let someone else in the office know. Do not keep quiet, because, if he is up to anything (which I sincerely hope he is just insensitive), others must be made aware. Look at it this way, if he is "off", you may be protecting someone else by speaking up.0 -
Exam
Yes always a knock on the door at every appt including GP. I do not wear gown when seeing oncol just pull up my top. Also oncol has a chaperone called in before exam.0 -
All give a courtesy knock,i
All give a courtesy knock,i have female Dr's and don't have a chaperone but did when i had to see the surgeon as he was a male.Some times they will give me a gown some times not.But i'm not shy of my scares so it doesn't bother me.
Hugs Frankie0 -
rallendorfer said:
I'm so glad they finally showed up that I didn't care.
And the hospital I go to is a teaching center so it was a veritable party in my exam room and more just kept coming in. I threatened to open the door and invite the whole darn place once after yet another one came in the room. These breasts haven't gotten this much attention since I was 18...
I didn't need a chaperone...I needed a caterer!
O Rebecca thats how I felt this past weekend at my hospital..teaching hospital.. I have a drain hanging out my Butt cheek and all these "kids" keep coming in and lifting my gown to see how things are going! I though my goodness talk about showing your a$$!0 -
Always a knock
I always get the Knock at the MO office, hubby is always there so I never had her nurse but I would not care if I didn't have anyone. I really like and trust my MO. MY PS ALWAYS knocks.. in office or at hospital. Always has a nurse..in office or at hospital. My BS always knocks, no nurse but again, hubby is always there and again she is a she and I love her and trust her and would not care if it was just us. You need to feel comfortable so speak up. Listen to your gut, if you think there is a reason this makes you uncomfortable maybe you should calol and speak to a nurse and ask that your conversation be confidential but that you are requesting another presence in your exam room.0 -
I have always prefered to
I have always prefered to deal with my Drs 'one on one'. Do not want 'someone' else standing there staring. You can 'bet your Sweet Bippy' that if something went on 'strange' - I have the voice that will 'bring down the rafters'. (How do 'you' know the other person 'watching's is who they should be?) Personally I'd rather pull up my shirt and mast. bra rather than 'de-robing' with someone else standing there standing stating at my scar ( it a nice litttle/llong line).
We are all different and need to do what we (personally) are comfortable with! There is no right/wrong. If you want someone other then Dr. there - it's what you to
Winyan - The Power Within
Susan0 -
...Rague said:I have always prefered to
I have always prefered to deal with my Drs 'one on one'. Do not want 'someone' else standing there staring. You can 'bet your Sweet Bippy' that if something went on 'strange' - I have the voice that will 'bring down the rafters'. (How do 'you' know the other person 'watching's is who they should be?) Personally I'd rather pull up my shirt and mast. bra rather than 'de-robing' with someone else standing there standing stating at my scar ( it a nice litttle/llong line).
We are all different and need to do what we (personally) are comfortable with! There is no right/wrong. If you want someone other then Dr. there - it's what you to
Winyan - The Power Within
Susan
Thanks for all the great responses!
LOL @ CCynthia - your comment didn't bother me in the least! (Something I might've said myself back when he used to go with me.
LOL @ rallendorfer on the caterer! I also go to a 'teaching hospital' with only occasional residents and student nurses I excuse the latter from the room just on principle!
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It's not that I feel uncomfortable with this NP, not exactly. He always listens to me and never once gave me the feeling of being rushed like that oncologist does. That being said, he has made a couple/few unsolicited comments. Which, since I don't know him this may very well be just his manner. For instance, he told me that he thought the plastic surgeon did a good job on the mammary fold line. I think he said something like 'they look pretty good and rest along the same line'...okaaay.
Oh, and then there was the comment about my sunglasses. I have these Harley Davidson brand sunglasses that this biker guy gave to me at the auto swap meet. They remind me of how people are so different yet essentially the same. The lenses are light enough that I usually forget to take them off inside. Or maybe I just hide behind them or maybe revel in the bravado of a rough and tumble biker when I wear them, i dunno!!! (Could be it's the slight rose tint that makes everything so much sharper!)
Anyhoo, the NP says to me those glasses really look good on you. Huh?
I'm considering exploring vaginal dryness with him next time, just to see what that topic brings about! No, I'm kidding. Well, sort of...maybe I'll mention how all the weight gain makes me so unattractive and move on to the vaginal dryness...
But yeah, a courtesy knock if nothing else. (No matter what planet of rudeness he's from!!!
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I love it when students arejendrey said:...
Thanks for all the great responses!
LOL @ CCynthia - your comment didn't bother me in the least! (Something I might've said myself back when he used to go with me.
LOL @ rallendorfer on the caterer! I also go to a 'teaching hospital' with only occasional residents and student nurses I excuse the latter from the room just on principle!
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It's not that I feel uncomfortable with this NP, not exactly. He always listens to me and never once gave me the feeling of being rushed like that oncologist does. That being said, he has made a couple/few unsolicited comments. Which, since I don't know him this may very well be just his manner. For instance, he told me that he thought the plastic surgeon did a good job on the mammary fold line. I think he said something like 'they look pretty good and rest along the same line'...okaaay.
Oh, and then there was the comment about my sunglasses. I have these Harley Davidson brand sunglasses that this biker guy gave to me at the auto swap meet. They remind me of how people are so different yet essentially the same. The lenses are light enough that I usually forget to take them off inside. Or maybe I just hide behind them or maybe revel in the bravado of a rough and tumble biker when I wear them, i dunno!!! (Could be it's the slight rose tint that makes everything so much sharper!)
Anyhoo, the NP says to me those glasses really look good on you. Huh?
I'm considering exploring vaginal dryness with him next time, just to see what that topic brings about! No, I'm kidding. Well, sort of...maybe I'll mention how all the weight gain makes me so unattractive and move on to the vaginal dryness...
But yeah, a courtesy knock if nothing else. (No matter what planet of rudeness he's from!!!
((Hugs)))
I love it when students are there! How are they supposed to learn if not by dealing with patients? Actually I've learned quite bit from the questions they ask and the answe4rs given.
We all see things differently.
Winyan - The Power Within
Susan0 -
I was concerned because,jendrey said:...
Thanks for all the great responses!
LOL @ CCynthia - your comment didn't bother me in the least! (Something I might've said myself back when he used to go with me.
LOL @ rallendorfer on the caterer! I also go to a 'teaching hospital' with only occasional residents and student nurses I excuse the latter from the room just on principle!
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It's not that I feel uncomfortable with this NP, not exactly. He always listens to me and never once gave me the feeling of being rushed like that oncologist does. That being said, he has made a couple/few unsolicited comments. Which, since I don't know him this may very well be just his manner. For instance, he told me that he thought the plastic surgeon did a good job on the mammary fold line. I think he said something like 'they look pretty good and rest along the same line'...okaaay.
Oh, and then there was the comment about my sunglasses. I have these Harley Davidson brand sunglasses that this biker guy gave to me at the auto swap meet. They remind me of how people are so different yet essentially the same. The lenses are light enough that I usually forget to take them off inside. Or maybe I just hide behind them or maybe revel in the bravado of a rough and tumble biker when I wear them, i dunno!!! (Could be it's the slight rose tint that makes everything so much sharper!)
Anyhoo, the NP says to me those glasses really look good on you. Huh?
I'm considering exploring vaginal dryness with him next time, just to see what that topic brings about! No, I'm kidding. Well, sort of...maybe I'll mention how all the weight gain makes me so unattractive and move on to the vaginal dryness...
But yeah, a courtesy knock if nothing else. (No matter what planet of rudeness he's from!!!
((Hugs)))
I was concerned because, many years ago when I was 18 (before I had any training as a nurse), I had a roommate who complained about an OB/GYN saying weird things. All of her roommates (including me) kind of dismissed her as being overreactive. Suffice it to say, she was not.
Now, I think it is important for women to be conscious that sexual assaults, unfortunately, are fairly common. The very worst to me is when someone you inherently trust (like a healthcare provider) betrays that trust. But there are bad apples in every profession, so be on your guard for awhile. He may be innocent, but it is best to be safe without being paranoid. And do speak up. You have a perfect right to have your privacy and wishes honored and protected. Big (((hugs)))0 -
I always get a knock
Today there was no gown or nurse, but after so many years I don't have a problem with it, but he is just checking my hips, ribs and lymph nodes now for changes, so I don't really need a gown.
But I would tell him if you want both, and CC, I too laughed at that remark, as it is something that would come out of my mouth without a thought!
Carol0 -
My husband is always with memom62 said:Me
Hi,
My doctor and nurse practioner (depending on who I see) always knock before they come in. It states directly on the wall where I go if you want a nurse present during your exam you can ask for it. Personally I never do I've gone there for so long and am comfortable. The NP does a gown as did my doctor before he retired this past month. My new oncologist doesn't have me put on a gown which I LOVE. Sometimes I felt like I spent a lifetime in those things and they never fit right or the strings are broken. This is just my opinion of course.
If you want a knock, gown or a nurse in the room ask for it you are entitled!
Terry
My husband is always with me for every appointment, so, I have never been alone at any doctor's appointment. And yes, the doctors and nurses always knock on the door before they enter the room.
Hugs, Lex0 -
...Rague said:I love it when students are
I love it when students are there! How are they supposed to learn if not by dealing with patients? Actually I've learned quite bit from the questions they ask and the answe4rs given.
We all see things differently.
Winyan - The Power Within
Susan
Yeah, when there is a resident or student PA, I invite them to step closer or to feel the spot in question. They are always surprised and invariably look to the doctor first! LOL
Student nurses on the other hand are a whole different story. Sometimes, they are like on day 1 of their nursing career and/or on a field trip or something...no thanks I'd rather skip that!
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