Thanks for the welcome

Yes, Dad was diagnosed with stage 3, and just recently offered hospice.

I believe hospice has been suggested, as he just can't get well enough for much of anything. He has been battling so many, many things. I listed many of them in my initial post. When he fell, he seemed to lose all ability to walk; so he has been bed-ridden since June. PT has been started at the rehab, with very limited success. Docs felt his overall health was simply not good enough for surgery. Not an option they said; he would not survive. He has had pneumonia 3 times, and can't shake the C-diff. The cardiac events are getting more frequent - blood pressure plunging to nothing, or a fib events. Stability just can't be reached. Every week there has been a new "development". He was able to sustain 3 wks of radiation in July, but almost died from that, once. The oncologist would like to do gentle chemo, but as soon as she suggested it, he went into a fib, then spent last week in the hospital trying to stablize. I don't think the docs are optimistic. And when he has to travel to the doc's office, from rehab, he suffers so much with dehydration, that ends back in the hospital again. EVERY WEEK!! We can't even catch our breathe. We all would love to send him to a VA, but fear the trip would take too much out of him; about a 3 hour trip. 20 min trips put him back in the hospital. Yet, after each event, he comes back, very strong mentally.
Yes, he paid Dana Farber in BOston for a second email opioion, and they offered nothing, nothing that he wasn't doing. The many docs involved are never on the same page either. Terrible health care. He is surviving in spite of, I believe.
My poor dad has not eaten or drunk anything since June. Unbelieveable.