NancyJac Thank You!

NancyJac said:

Thank you all for your
Thank you all for your support. I will try to check in on these boards from time to time as my time permits. I participate in a couple of other boards, and as I think I posted here before, by comparison, this one is just not as good a fit for me. I guess based on my personality, preferences, and needs, I am just more into research, experience, and info sharing more so that social networking. Not a thing wrong with social networking, it just isn't my thing. Dealing with cancer at any point and at any stage is tough enough both emotionally and physically without the extra and unnecessary drama that I find way more prevalent here than at other site. I bear no ill will towards anyone using this site, but like everyone, I have to chose my priorities and how I expend my limited energy. So I am choosing to focus more of my time and energy on those places and people where there isn't as much "extra" drama and less here. I hope you all can understand and respect that.

BTW, I only happened to see this thread because I got an email about some PMs I had received on this site. So for any of you, if there is ever anything I might be able to provide info on, feel free to PM me through this site, and that way I will be sure to see it and respond.

The best of everything to all of you.

Nancy

NancyJac said:

http://community.breastcancer
http://community.breastcancer.org

and

http://www.whatnext.com

NancyJac said:

Sigh....yet again
First of all, "the other" has a name.

Secondly, which one of us outweighs the other in anything is totally irrelevant. For the umpteenth time, IT IS NOT A COMPETITION.

Thirdly, Bubba most certainly is NOT the one driving me away from this site.

What IS driving me away from this site is the pervasive sense of competition, us vs. them, and the denigration and lack of respect for those who have a different perspectives, interests, opinions, and viewpoints.

On most every thread I have participated in since joining this site, at some point it gets hijacked and degenerates from a discussion of a topic into a situation where several people take one side or another and the rest end up trying to referee and the original topic becomes merely a battleground for badmouthing and disrespecting who ever is on "the other" side.

I get that there is a group of you that have been on this board together for a long time. And sometimes you rally around each other to defend and protect one or more of the flock, and other times you bicker among yourselves like a sibling rivalry. I get that the sense of familiarity and belonging that comes with any culture is a need and comfort for some people. And I respect that and have never intentionally tried to offend or denigrate or compete with anyone here who has those needs, even though they differ from the reasons I am here.

There is certainly plenty of room for all of us to be here whatever our individual reasons may be. If you are here for emotional support, I see lots of that here. If you are here to exchange information and experiences, there is plenty of that too. But it needn't be a case of one being the Sharks and the other being the Jets, ala West Side Story, where everything becomes a turf war.

cathyp said:

I wonder what happened to
I wonder what happened to it. Was it my response that I valued the information from all that was posted plus some other insights and opinions that got it banished?

NancyJac said:

Sigh....yet again
First of all, "the other" has a name.

Secondly, which one of us outweighs the other in anything is totally irrelevant. For the umpteenth time, IT IS NOT A COMPETITION.

Thirdly, Bubba most certainly is NOT the one driving me away from this site.

What IS driving me away from this site is the pervasive sense of competition, us vs. them, and the denigration and lack of respect for those who have a different perspectives, interests, opinions, and viewpoints.

On most every thread I have participated in since joining this site, at some point it gets hijacked and degenerates from a discussion of a topic into a situation where several people take one side or another and the rest end up trying to referee and the original topic becomes merely a battleground for badmouthing and disrespecting who ever is on "the other" side.

I get that there is a group of you that have been on this board together for a long time. And sometimes you rally around each other to defend and protect one or more of the flock, and other times you bicker among yourselves like a sibling rivalry. I get that the sense of familiarity and belonging that comes with any culture is a need and comfort for some people. And I respect that and have never intentionally tried to offend or denigrate or compete with anyone here who has those needs, even though they differ from the reasons I am here.

There is certainly plenty of room for all of us to be here whatever our individual reasons may be. If you are here for emotional support, I see lots of that here. If you are here to exchange information and experiences, there is plenty of that too. But it needn't be a case of one being the Sharks and the other being the Jets, ala West Side Story, where everything becomes a turf war.

Rague said:

"One size does not fit all!"
I have been at one of the other sites you have mentioned for almost as long as here - it is not the friendly open site you try to say it is. Yes - it does have a multiude of different sections BUT each section has a 'ruler' and those under who do not question what is handed down. Anyone who has a different idea/info to present, is rapidly squashed by the clique of whatever section it is in. Different cliques inter rule different sections but is definately not an open and learning place - it is "I tell you what is right" and you better believe it cause that's what I say.

Why should this site (or any site for that matter) be turned into a clone of another one? It shouldn't! Certainly, give what we can to others and when there is new (or newly found) info - post it. We are all able to decide what is appropriate for US - that is not the same for all. I am quite capable of seeking info on what I need to and culling out the shaft. We all are in our own ways.

As I say so often (AND IT IS TRUE!) We are each unique. We are capable of making our own decisions. The more education we can get the better but as said before every site on the internet is not factual nor does it apply to all.

Ask questions - yes! Research - yes! Educate yourself! Listen to your Drs and health care providers.

cathyp said:

I wonder what happened to
I wonder what happened to it. Was it my response that I valued the information from all that was posted plus some other insights and opinions that got it banished?