2 months

mr steve
mr steve Member Posts: 285
in Grief and Bereavement #1
It has now been two months. The eyes still water when I think about her. Day by day drags on with the hope that it will get easier. Maybe when that day comes I can look at her picture and smile.

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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #2
    Month Days
    Those month days are hard for awhile. Tearing up over things? I still do that and I'm over 2 1/2 years. Grieving takes time. I remember counting the months. Mine was also the 20th, Oct. 20th. I don't count any more, but I still feel a twinge when I realize it's the 20th. Yesterday was my birthday, so I have trouble forgetting that 20th. I had not foreseen the problems with month days. It's strange what things will set is off. Feeling particularly down on those days does seem to be pretty common. It does mellow with time as one friend who recently turned 90 said. Take care, Fay
  • mr steve
    mr steve Member Posts: 285
    #3
    grandmafay said:

    Month Days
    Those month days are hard for awhile. Tearing up over things? I still do that and I'm over 2 1/2 years. Grieving takes time. I remember counting the months. Mine was also the 20th, Oct. 20th. I don't count any more, but I still feel a twinge when I realize it's the 20th. Yesterday was my birthday, so I have trouble forgetting that 20th. I had not foreseen the problems with month days. It's strange what things will set is off. Feeling particularly down on those days does seem to be pretty common. It does mellow with time as one friend who recently turned 90 said. Take care, Fay

    Happy Birthday
    Happy belated B-day...

    I have read your post for quite some time and remember hope that I can be as strong as you. Don't know if I can since I'm just a man...LOL

    Happy Birthday Fay!!!
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #4
    one day at a time
    Sorry to hear of your loss. My husband died a little over 2 years ago. I still have bad days, so don't feel bad that you're feeling the way you do after only 2 months. When you love someone for a long time and all of a sudden they're gone it's not easy. My husband & I were married for 46 years and had known each other since we were in first grade. I miss him so much every day and am angry that he was taken away from me before he retired and we never had the time to do things we planned.
    Please take each day at a time and I promise you it does get easier but you will never forget. Come here for support cause we all understand. "Carole"
  • eibod
    eibod Member Posts: 160
    #5
    Five months since I lost my
    Five months since I lost my hubby. Just as lonely now as the day I lost him. Life has
    changed. 43 years with someone, and then suddenly you are alone. I don't cry as much
    now, just feel hollow inside.
    I find that if I keep busy I am better.
    Hopefully it will get better for you. Wishing you the best.
  • mr steve
    mr steve Member Posts: 285
    #6
    eibod said:

    Five months since I lost my
    Five months since I lost my hubby. Just as lonely now as the day I lost him. Life has
    changed. 43 years with someone, and then suddenly you are alone. I don't cry as much
    now, just feel hollow inside.
    I find that if I keep busy I am better.
    Hopefully it will get better for you. Wishing you the best.

    thanks
    eibod,

    I afraid if I get any busyer I'll have to quit my job... Days do go by and some sleep does come. Its so strange that I am not a caregiver any more. I didn't know that it took sooooooo much of my time. I did find out that I still hate house work....

    Steve
  • eibod
    eibod Member Posts: 160
    #7
    mr steve said:

    thanks
    eibod,

    I afraid if I get any busyer I'll have to quit my job... Days do go by and some sleep does come. Its so strange that I am not a caregiver any more. I didn't know that it took sooooooo much of my time. I did find out that I still hate house work....

    Steve

    Steve, sorry about the
    Steve, sorry about the house work. You miss your wife's help in that I am sure. I miss
    my husband's help too. Found a snake in the yard Saturday and had to call someone to
    come help. I missed hubby so much then. He was a forester and wouldnt have minded the snake at all. Now I am scared to be alone so much of the time. I think that is one way
    it is so hard in a different way for women. We miss the protection of our husbands. But
    life is different now. Sometimes I want to just sleep through the days and not even answer the phone. But I know that would be so disappointing to John for me to do that.
    Before he became ill, he was always working and staying busy. I tell myself I have to
    stay busy and find away to live this new life. I hope and pray that things will get
    easier for you. The pain will stay, I can promise you that, but hopefully we all will
    learn how to manage it better.

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