I am very scared!

geanninem said:

am I wrong..?
I told our girls about what all we know at this point.. Everyone handled it well. or as well as can be expected. but now that we told my stepdaughters they told their mom with is fine they need someone close to confide in but she talked with my mother in law this weekend (her ex mother in law) told them that I had my biopsy! Wow what a betrayal. One reason we had not told MIL is because she is having surgery on Thurs for her breast cancer that has come back & we didnt want to stress her with this...hoping we never had to bother her with it that my results would be good. So now they are angry with me because we didnt confide in them. Am I wrong for keeping this within my "house" until I get all the information & answers? I dont want to cause anyone undue stress.!

I would say you aren't wrong
I would say you aren't wrong and I understand completely. This is happening to YOU and YOU have the right to tell or not tell whomever you want and if someone doesn't understand it, try to not worry about them. This is a time for YOU!

I pray that you can tell everyone good news, but for now, you just do what you want to do and try to not worry about anyone else or their feelings. They are being very selfish and self centered to get mad over your not telling them or someone when you are dealing with this.

Take care of yourself and try to not worry about anything else.

Hugs, Jan

geanninem said:

Biopsy results are back
I spoke with my dr today.. she wanted to tell me personally instead of just having her PA tell me. I have Invasive Lobluar Carcinoma. i will get my MRI scheduled tomorrow, meet with genitics counslor & then meet with my Dr when she returns to town on May 7. let my fight begin!!

BUMMER!
I am just recovering from invasive Loblular Carcinoma - stage 4. I had it 27 years ago and now again. I had 9 months of chemo and then a mastectomy. I feel truly blessed because the margins were very wide and clear. The chemo worked wonders and I feel great. I had a second ductal carcinoma 17 years ago and had a mastectomy and reconstruction the same day. Had I known all this would happen I would have had a double mastectomy 27 years ago. But things were a lot different then than they are today - we have much better treatments today.

Just do the next right thing. Breathe all fear and anxiety out of you - every 5 minutes if necessary, and share as much or as little information as feels right with other people - any other people. This is all about you and you get to make your decisions with your husband and whomever else you want on this journey with you.

God bless you

Pam

geanninem said:

Biopsy Done
Thanks so much for everyones support & advise. I have told both of my daughters that live with us. We will let my Stepdaughters know what is going on this weekend. My biopsy went ok & I have an appointment for next Thursday for my results. We will have a wonderful weekend & keep busy next week till we have answers then We will do what is needed..
Again Thanks for making me feel welcomed!
Geannine

Hi there, I just read your
Hi there, I just read your post and realized your results are tomorrow. I know it's going to be a long night. Please know that I am taking you to the Lord tonight. He's the master comforter He;s gotten me through many long nights in the last eight months. Try to get rest. God bless you. Your Friend, Victoria

Pam5 said:

BUMMER!
I am just recovering from invasive Loblular Carcinoma - stage 4. I had it 27 years ago and now again. I had 9 months of chemo and then a mastectomy. I feel truly blessed because the margins were very wide and clear. The chemo worked wonders and I feel great. I had a second ductal carcinoma 17 years ago and had a mastectomy and reconstruction the same day. Had I known all this would happen I would have had a double mastectomy 27 years ago. But things were a lot different then than they are today - we have much better treatments today.

Just do the next right thing. Breathe all fear and anxiety out of you - every 5 minutes if necessary, and share as much or as little information as feels right with other people - any other people. This is all about you and you get to make your decisions with your husband and whomever else you want on this journey with you.

God bless you

Pam

Right or wrong...
As has been said, there are no real rights or wrongs on who and when to tell. This is your thing and you need to do what feels right to you. I have 5 children between 19 and 26. I was first diagnosed about 1.5yrs ago with Anal cancer (and thats a hard one to discuss with people who don't have), and then last month with Secretory Carcinoma...a very rare Breast Cancer. I never made specific plans for talks with family, just kind of knew when the time was right. I did find my kids (oldest a boy, the rest girls) to be much more relaxed about hearing the info than I thought. We have had a few unexpected emotional breakdowns over the year that when I think about it are due to botteled up worry and concern, those kids need hugs and reassurance as much as we do through this....but you will all come out with a renewed strength and closness that is an unbelievable blessing. It is always easier to answer questions as you have more info and feel more confident yourself. This site is full of people with great advice and support so seek help as needed. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers as you continue on this adventure.

geanninem said:

Biopsy results are back
I spoke with my dr today.. she wanted to tell me personally instead of just having her PA tell me. I have Invasive Lobluar Carcinoma. i will get my MRI scheduled tomorrow, meet with genitics counslor & then meet with my Dr when she returns to town on May 7. let my fight begin!!

Praying for you
Sorry about the biopsy results. Let us know when your MRI will be.


Big hugs,


Diane

geanninem said:

am I wrong..?
I told our girls about what all we know at this point.. Everyone handled it well. or as well as can be expected. but now that we told my stepdaughters they told their mom with is fine they need someone close to confide in but she talked with my mother in law this weekend (her ex mother in law) told them that I had my biopsy! Wow what a betrayal. One reason we had not told MIL is because she is having surgery on Thurs for her breast cancer that has come back & we didnt want to stress her with this...hoping we never had to bother her with it that my results would be good. So now they are angry with me because we didnt confide in them. Am I wrong for keeping this within my "house" until I get all the information & answers? I dont want to cause anyone undue stress.!

Yes, let your fight begin,
Yes, let your fight begin, but, look at the new cheerleaders you've gained. US! Very sorry for your results and know that we're here for you.


Hugs

geanninem said:

Biopsy results are back
I spoke with my dr today.. she wanted to tell me personally instead of just having her PA tell me. I have Invasive Lobluar Carcinoma. i will get my MRI scheduled tomorrow, meet with genitics counslor & then meet with my Dr when she returns to town on May 7. let my fight begin!!

I am sorry about your news.
I am sorry about your news. It sounds like you have a plan set in motion which is good. Keep us updated on your appointments and tests.


Good luck,

Noel

survivorbc09 said:

How did your MRI go? Do you
How did your MRI go? Do you have your results from it yet?


Good luck and praying,


Jan

Sending Prayers
and postive thoughts your way. Was hoping for better news on your biopsy, but we'll all be here with you on this journey. As you've have already seen, the support here on this site is amazing.

Keep us updated. Hugs, Debi