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  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #22
    Texas_wedge said:

    Sponge Bob
    Is Sponge Bob an American cultural hero? Education please!

    Everyone...Grasping at straws I guess.....
    Sorry for getting a little short with you all..You all told me so and yes I knew going in that the biopsy was probably a waste of time..Always has been before..I was grasping at straws this time. Feeling a little angry and mostly sad about all this cancer stuff. Talk to you all later just can't do it right now..

    LD
  • icemantoo
    icemantoo Member Posts: 3,361 Member
    #23
    littledarlin said:

    Everyone...Grasping at straws I guess.....
    Sorry for getting a little short with you all..You all told me so and yes I knew going in that the biopsy was probably a waste of time..Always has been before..I was grasping at straws this time. Feeling a little angry and mostly sad about all this cancer stuff. Talk to you all later just can't do it right now..

    LD

    Serious stuff
    littledarlin,

    This surgery is serious stuff. We all went thru it. We were all scared to hear the big C word and being told we had to have surgery right out of the gate. Each of us has a little different experience. The only good thing for most of us is that when you go thru the surgery and it is over that most (over 50%) of us are cured. None of us voluntered to have RCC. We are trying to get the newbies thru this as easy as possible. Sometimes we are blunt. Sometimes too blunt. Sometimes we try to instill a little humor. Usually it works. Sometimes it doesn't. The really difficult cases are those where the RCC has spread and more than surgery is necessary. So far your diagnosis is not in that catagory.

    As for the surgery it hurts a little. Maybe more than a little. Most of us got thru it without any complications, including myself. Just try and get the surgery behind you as quickly as possible. Then you can help me with the newbies. Between Faye across the street from me and myself we have almost 27 years of survival. Lets see if you can have those many years youself.

    Icemantoo
  • j_rod
    j_rod Member Posts: 125
    #24
    littledarlin said:

    Everyone...Grasping at straws I guess.....
    Sorry for getting a little short with you all..You all told me so and yes I knew going in that the biopsy was probably a waste of time..Always has been before..I was grasping at straws this time. Feeling a little angry and mostly sad about all this cancer stuff. Talk to you all later just can't do it right now..

    LD

    for what it's worth...
    ...I have been 'in the system' since Sept. 2011. That is when a ct scan picked up 'a worrisome mass.' I went into all kinds of denial. "not me...i'm too young...I eat right and exercise..." etc. etc. Then came anger, then depression, then anxiety, ... in short ... all of the stages of grief. I have been on this site for a month. It has helped me get to a point of acceptance of my situation. Even as I type this message, I feel sadness. A little depressed. Yes, I have started threads. Yes, they have gotten off topic sometimes WAY off topic. At times I felt left out because everyone knows everyone. Yes, it made me angry, too. But I stuck with it and it is the only place to come and talk about my diagnosis because my family - although very supportive - don't understand what I am thinking and feeling like the people on this site. What I get from the survivors on this site is that the operation will be over soon. I will go home. I will recouperate. My life will go on. And with luck, I will be cured and there will be no more cancer. I have a 90% cure rate predicted. I am sorry your biopsy did not go well. But the operation will be the definitive part. Even after my biopsy there are too many questions that can only be answered with the operation. So I am waiting until Tuesday for my operation so I can begin life again - without cancer.
  • garym
    garym Member Posts: 1,647
    #25
    littledarlin said:

    Everyone...Grasping at straws I guess.....
    Sorry for getting a little short with you all..You all told me so and yes I knew going in that the biopsy was probably a waste of time..Always has been before..I was grasping at straws this time. Feeling a little angry and mostly sad about all this cancer stuff. Talk to you all later just can't do it right now..

    LD

    Grasping at straws I guess....
    LD,

    No need to apologize, we all understand how you feel, sometimes you just need a place to scream where the real world can't hear you and that's perfectly fine here. This is not a ride anyone chooses to be on, the emotional ups and downs just keep coming in waves and it seems unbearable at times. Add to that caring friends and family that don't understand, scary medical procedures that sometimes don't work, and a trip to the O.R. on the horizon, and you have a formula for fear, anger, and frustration to reach a boiling point. Laughter has been very therapeutic for many of us, myself included, but it doesn't work for everyone, especially in the early stages and I suspect it is just a bit too soon for you. In any event, remember that you are always welcome here regardless of mood and we will help you any way we can, I promise.

    A fellow survivor,

    Gary

    PS; The relief of hearing NED (no evidence of disease) when this is behind you, will allow you to breath easily and laugh again, and that's a promise too!
  • livealive
    livealive Member Posts: 127
    #26
    littledarlin said:

    Everyone...Grasping at straws I guess.....
    Sorry for getting a little short with you all..You all told me so and yes I knew going in that the biopsy was probably a waste of time..Always has been before..I was grasping at straws this time. Feeling a little angry and mostly sad about all this cancer stuff. Talk to you all later just can't do it right now..

    LD

    Straws and Grasping
    LD, attribute it to human nature. We are programmed to "solve" things, know the plan, and sometimes we confuse the map for the terrain. It is what it is in terms of the biopsy, the quicker you get over it (there I am telling you something again, so listen), the closer you will move to surgery. I have shared with these guys here quite a bit, they know how anxious I have been, my doctor had asked me to "man up", and not be a "chicken", well, the truth is, the tumor has to be taken out. What happens after is not within 100% control, as much as I would like it to, so do what YOU can, do the surgery, schedule it, understand it, get a good doctor, at a good hospital. Remember, each one of us, has our own fears, some real, some imaginary which feel real, and some we don't even know about. If you want to share information, that's fine, we all will try and help - if you allow us.
  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #27
    livealive said:

    Straws and Grasping
    LD, attribute it to human nature. We are programmed to "solve" things, know the plan, and sometimes we confuse the map for the terrain. It is what it is in terms of the biopsy, the quicker you get over it (there I am telling you something again, so listen), the closer you will move to surgery. I have shared with these guys here quite a bit, they know how anxious I have been, my doctor had asked me to "man up", and not be a "chicken", well, the truth is, the tumor has to be taken out. What happens after is not within 100% control, as much as I would like it to, so do what YOU can, do the surgery, schedule it, understand it, get a good doctor, at a good hospital. Remember, each one of us, has our own fears, some real, some imaginary which feel real, and some we don't even know about. If you want to share information, that's fine, we all will try and help - if you allow us.

    Well my Neph. Doctor called this morning with the results..and has sent the report over to my surgeon/cancer doctor..I am waitng for a call from him and we will discuss it and a date for sugery. I am feeling a little stunned about now "no one wants to hear they have cancer" of course you all know that already..and sad of course, but I am relieved to know that I am doing the right thing and that it looks like we caught it in time..Will update later..

    On to the next step..
    littledarlin..
  • MikeK703
    MikeK703 Member Posts: 235
    #28
    littledarlin said:

    Well my Neph. Doctor called this morning with the results..and has sent the report over to my surgeon/cancer doctor..I am waitng for a call from him and we will discuss it and a date for sugery. I am feeling a little stunned about now "no one wants to hear they have cancer" of course you all know that already..and sad of course, but I am relieved to know that I am doing the right thing and that it looks like we caught it in time..Will update later..

    On to the next step..
    littledarlin..

    Caught in time
    "Caught in time." Those are the key words, littledarlin. We're pulling for you.
    Regards,
    Mike
  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #29
    MikeK703 said:

    Caught in time
    "Caught in time." Those are the key words, littledarlin. We're pulling for you.
    Regards,
    Mike

    Caught in time
    Thanks mike for the well wishes and for bringing my attention to the Key phrase here.
    "Caught in time"
    LD...
  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #30
    littledarlin said:

    Well my Neph. Doctor called this morning with the results..and has sent the report over to my surgeon/cancer doctor..I am waitng for a call from him and we will discuss it and a date for sugery. I am feeling a little stunned about now "no one wants to hear they have cancer" of course you all know that already..and sad of course, but I am relieved to know that I am doing the right thing and that it looks like we caught it in time..Will update later..

    On to the next step..
    littledarlin..

    "Update" Setting a date....
    Well that was fast. My Surgeon just called. He told that before we did the biospy he felt I had a strong 50% chance of it being cancer and that I should have surgery but with the new information that we got from the biospy that, he now feels that number is 80%. So we talked about the next steps I that I need to take and we will be setting a date for the end of April for my surgery..I have to say this even though it may sound strange, I am feeling really relieved now and good about the plan we have put in place..I can rest assured that everything will be ok..

    This has been a good day..
    Littledarlin...
  • j_rod
    j_rod Member Posts: 125
    #31
    littledarlin said:

    "Update" Setting a date....
    Well that was fast. My Surgeon just called. He told that before we did the biospy he felt I had a strong 50% chance of it being cancer and that I should have surgery but with the new information that we got from the biospy that, he now feels that number is 80%. So we talked about the next steps I that I need to take and we will be setting a date for the end of April for my surgery..I have to say this even though it may sound strange, I am feeling really relieved now and good about the plan we have put in place..I can rest assured that everything will be ok..

    This has been a good day..
    Littledarlin...

    That's great
    You sound upbeaat. Mine was also scheduled for a month out, Then they called and pusehed it BACK another week. Someone remonded me "thank god they paushed it back a week - if they had said get here right away, you might have a reason to worry." I keep focusing on the positive side of whatever they tell me.
  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #32
    j_rod said:

    That's great
    You sound upbeaat. Mine was also scheduled for a month out, Then they called and pusehed it BACK another week. Someone remonded me "thank god they paushed it back a week - if they had said get here right away, you might have a reason to worry." I keep focusing on the positive side of whatever they tell me.

    That's great j_rod...
    I guess we will be going in about the same time..I feel the same way it could be a good sign that we don't have to have surgery next week..Like you I keep focusing on the positive side of whatever the doctors tell me..I think being positive will help us in the end..We are going to get through this with flying colors..

    littledarlin..
  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    #33
    littledarlin said:

    That's great j_rod...
    I guess we will be going in about the same time..I feel the same way it could be a good sign that we don't have to have surgery next week..Like you I keep focusing on the positive side of whatever the doctors tell me..I think being positive will help us in the end..We are going to get through this with flying colors..

    littledarlin..

    that's the attitude!
    that's the attitude! Your plan is in place. You have time to get everything in order. Now spend some time reading and learning. I didn't know much about kidney cancer specifically, but I knew alot about medicine, hospitals, surgery, and rehab. I've seen thousands go through the process. The only thing really new to me was in being the patient. That made it easier for me to get through it. I'll admit I wasn't very anxious about it. So..what I'm saying is experience and knowledge is valuable. Especially when you know thee right questions to ask. Good luck!
    Fox.
  • littledarlin
    littledarlin Member Posts: 102
    #34
    foxhd said:

    that's the attitude!
    that's the attitude! Your plan is in place. You have time to get everything in order. Now spend some time reading and learning. I didn't know much about kidney cancer specifically, but I knew alot about medicine, hospitals, surgery, and rehab. I've seen thousands go through the process. The only thing really new to me was in being the patient. That made it easier for me to get through it. I'll admit I wasn't very anxious about it. So..what I'm saying is experience and knowledge is valuable. Especially when you know thee right questions to ask. Good luck!
    Fox.

    Fox that's the attitude!
    Thank you for your support and advice this morning..I have been reading up and even watched the robotic surgery on line. This has done a lot to ease my fears. My biggest fear right now is pain control after surgery..Like you I will be the patient this time. I am a retired Certified Nurses Aid/Home Health Aid and have seen and taken care of others facing the challenages of cancer and also dementia..Lots of Hospice work..So pain control is something I am concerned about and of course I am hoping to show others here at home how to help me get in and out of bed and such. Being a caregiver is no easy task..

    little darlin..

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