My mum has adenocarcinoma - we're devastated

alliball
alliball Member Posts: 11
My mum was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma in November. She has a tumour in her right lung, deposits in her left, chest and pelvic bone. She started chemo in Jan, 3 weeks apart for 4 sessions, but after the 1st, found a lump on her side. She was told this may be taken care of with chemo but after her 2nd session and at her pre-assessment they advised they were concerned about the lump and gave her an x-ray. The original tumour has not shrunk and she has been incredibly ill with the chemo so they have stopped it and are scanning her Monday to find out more about the new lump. She gets the results on Weds. We are all terrified and it's like going backwards a couple of months but with the additional fear that one treatment has already been unsuccessful. Is this quite common? We know it's incurable, but 2 months before she was diagnosed we were on holiday together and she was chasing my 2 year old down the hotel corridor. This has devastated our family and I would like some hope. My mum needs to hear positive stories and similar experiences and I need to know there are options..............

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  • ellenm4
    ellenm4 Member Posts: 124
    there is always hope
    Your mum has to dig deep into her heart to find her hope and faith. As she looks into the eyes of that 2 year old and your eyes she will find that hope. I know this is horrible news and the treatment can make her feel so much more ill...but she needs hope and faith along with a good support team. Sounds like she has a great support team at home and you and her will find one here as well. There are many here with stage 4 and still going strong! Personally I am not at that stage, but all the same we all have the same pains, fears, but we all have found love here. I am so sorry for you and your mum. Take one day at a time. Live for the moment and love without questions. Stay strong and your mum will strength in you as well. Please keep us informed as to the results and I shall keep you and your mum in my prayers. God Bless!
  • alliball
    alliball Member Posts: 11
    ellenm4 said:

    there is always hope
    Your mum has to dig deep into her heart to find her hope and faith. As she looks into the eyes of that 2 year old and your eyes she will find that hope. I know this is horrible news and the treatment can make her feel so much more ill...but she needs hope and faith along with a good support team. Sounds like she has a great support team at home and you and her will find one here as well. There are many here with stage 4 and still going strong! Personally I am not at that stage, but all the same we all have the same pains, fears, but we all have found love here. I am so sorry for you and your mum. Take one day at a time. Live for the moment and love without questions. Stay strong and your mum will strength in you as well. Please keep us informed as to the results and I shall keep you and your mum in my prayers. God Bless!

    Thank you. I have 2 girls,
    Thank you. I have 2 girls, Piper is 3 in April & Siena is 7 months. My mum idolises them & all I want is for them to know her. I don't want them to miss out on her, she's amazing & will fight hard to see them grow. Last week was such a blow, hearing about a new lump & that the chemo had not shrunk the tumour has made us all panic. My dad is doing his beat to stay strong but I know he's terrified of losing my mum. They've been married almost 44 years. We need some positive news Weds. I would love to know they will continue to treat her. Has anyone had a similar experience?