Hi everyone, just wanted to let you know I'm leaving the group

antcat
antcat Member Posts: 270
in Ovarian Cancer #1
Hi everyone, I was going to stay on group & keep posting, but unfortunately, I've gotten very few responses to my postings. I miss Nancy dearly as we seemed to have alot in common and as sick as she was, she always corresponded back and forth. But, I guess not everyone can relate to everyone's questions. I am holding my own and going for a CT scan today. Not sure how it's going to turn out but one can only hope for the best.

Again, I wish everyone on this discussion board the best with their treatment and cancer.

Thank you again.

AntCat
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  • EnglishGal
    EnglishGal Member Posts: 101
    #2
    Oh please don't
    Hello antcat, I am sorry to learn that you want to leave the group here because you feel no one replies to your posts. Well, I have noticed this happens to other posters as well. My feeling is that every single one of us is important on this board. We are all here to help one another. There are a lot of us on the board now so it is likely not possible that everyone can reply or comment on others' posts.

    Please rethink your decision to leave and hope your scan turns out well.

    Ann
  • anicca
    anicca Member Posts: 334 Member
    #3
    I know how you feel, as it
    I know how you feel, as it has happened to me too. Sometimes I just feel very sensitive and in need of "recognition" that I exist, and other times I am the one who is unable to respond when someone else may need that. I ALWAYS read your posts, but I do not respond much and sometimes I take time off the board because it makes me too anxious to read about all the pain and suffering. Often, though, it is encouraging, and I encourage you to stay.
  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    #4
    PLEASE DON'T LEAVE!
    I truly understand how you feel. When I was in treatment (twice), I looked forward to logging in everyday to see what responses I had gotten to my posts. They all brought a great deal of comfort, and over these last 11+ years I've met many wonderful women, and friendships were created. Bonnie and I communicated via email, would send eachother things, and I miss her so much. Not just for me, but for the wonderful person that she was. That goes for Nancy, Linda and all the others that have left too soon. Even though I am NED (and hopefully will still be NED after my February appointment), I still visit when I can and hopefully have been of some help to someone. I still like to keep in touch - this dreaded disease will always be a part of my life. More importantly, everyone here will always have a special place in my heart.

    If nothing else, could at least let us know how the CT scan comes out? We ARE very interested and would like to offer anything that we can. Please reconsider, at least until you get your next report. If you still don't want to come back, I'll respect that.

    Take care, AntCat. Hope to hear from you soon.
  • garden gal
    garden gal Member Posts: 212 Member
    #5
    anicca said:

    I know how you feel, as it
    I know how you feel, as it has happened to me too. Sometimes I just feel very sensitive and in need of "recognition" that I exist, and other times I am the one who is unable to respond when someone else may need that. I ALWAYS read your posts, but I do not respond much and sometimes I take time off the board because it makes me too anxious to read about all the pain and suffering. Often, though, it is encouraging, and I encourage you to stay.

    Sorry that you want to leave us
    I don't reply much, but it's only because I don't feel like I know enough to reply like all of you ladies. I did just read an old post of yours, about alimta, this is one of the drugs that is being discussed for my chemo. Sounds like you had a hard time with it. So hoping you stay on the board and feel bad about how you feel. hope you realize that you are important and although I don't reply that much I do read the post and appreciate all the info. Kathy
  • mom2greatkids
    mom2greatkids Member Posts: 528
    #6
    mopar said:

    PLEASE DON'T LEAVE!
    I truly understand how you feel. When I was in treatment (twice), I looked forward to logging in everyday to see what responses I had gotten to my posts. They all brought a great deal of comfort, and over these last 11+ years I've met many wonderful women, and friendships were created. Bonnie and I communicated via email, would send eachother things, and I miss her so much. Not just for me, but for the wonderful person that she was. That goes for Nancy, Linda and all the others that have left too soon. Even though I am NED (and hopefully will still be NED after my February appointment), I still visit when I can and hopefully have been of some help to someone. I still like to keep in touch - this dreaded disease will always be a part of my life. More importantly, everyone here will always have a special place in my heart.

    If nothing else, could at least let us know how the CT scan comes out? We ARE very interested and would like to offer anything that we can. Please reconsider, at least until you get your next report. If you still don't want to come back, I'll respect that.

    Take care, AntCat. Hope to hear from you soon.

    Please don't leave us! We
    Please don't leave us! We all do care about you!! Please keep us updated on your progress!! Carla
  • clamryn
    clamryn Member Posts: 508
    #7
    Please stay
    Oh antcat, please stay. We all want to feel wanted. We all need each other. I am sure there a lot of reasons if someone didn't respond. Maybe they didn't know about the question you were asking, maybe they were having a rough time themselves, maybe they hadn't checked the board in a while and were taking a break, etc. Please, please stay with us. We are all in this fight together. I too miss those that we have lost this past year. I couldn't even log on without crying and I just wanted to take my computer and throw it. But the fight must go on because those who have gone before us would want us to and we also need to be there for those that are new. And most important, for ourselves.

    ((((Hugs))))
    Linda
  • Cafewoman53
    Cafewoman53 Member Posts: 735 Member
    #8
    I also always read your posts!
    I may not have had answers for you but don't leave we do care about you. You have your experiences to share too. Send me a personal message and I will give you my personal contact info.
    When you don't feel well it makes you more sensitive, I think we have all felt like you at some point, lol actually I think that when I post it is the 'kiss of death' for a topic, it just seems to end. But not for this one you will hear from many more asking you to stay.
    Colleen
  • jbeans888
    jbeans888 Member Posts: 313
    #9
    I noticed
    I noticed not many replies as well. I personally just read a lot and not respond because it's a pain to log in from my phone, it takes forever for some reason. I sometimes get offended as well., but I could just be sensitive. I always read your posts and I hope you stay even if you don't respond but if you do that is great. Please keep us posted on your well being. We are all so far, yet bonded by the same fears.
  • kikz
    kikz Member Posts: 1,345 Member
    #10
    jbeans888 said:

    I noticed
    I noticed not many replies as well. I personally just read a lot and not respond because it's a pain to log in from my phone, it takes forever for some reason. I sometimes get offended as well., but I could just be sensitive. I always read your posts and I hope you stay even if you don't respond but if you do that is great. Please keep us posted on your well being. We are all so far, yet bonded by the same fears.

    I have felt like you many times.
    I excitedly post about my current CA 125 and get only a couple of replies. I am sometimes so anxious to get a reply to a post that I keep checking back and I have gotten so frustrated when I find no reponses that I just x out of the site.

    But more often than not I have received so much support and encouragement from all of the wonderful women here.

    I try to respond as much as possible but there are times when I have no experience with a certain question or situation a sister is going through.

    It seems like others have had the same experience so please stay and hopefully we can all try harder to make sure that everyone is acknowledged.

    Best of luck with your scan.

    Karen
  • Kaleena
    Kaleena Member Posts: 2,088 Member
    #11
    kikz said:

    I have felt like you many times.
    I excitedly post about my current CA 125 and get only a couple of replies. I am sometimes so anxious to get a reply to a post that I keep checking back and I have gotten so frustrated when I find no reponses that I just x out of the site.

    But more often than not I have received so much support and encouragement from all of the wonderful women here.

    I try to respond as much as possible but there are times when I have no experience with a certain question or situation a sister is going through.

    It seems like others have had the same experience so please stay and hopefully we can all try harder to make sure that everyone is acknowledged.

    Best of luck with your scan.

    Karen

    Wow. I thought I was the
    Wow. I thought I was the only one who felt that way. In fact, I was thinking about doing the same thing but I decided to keep checking back.

    Don't leave, AntCat. I believe with the recent passing of several members of this board, it has been hard for many to get back into the posting and responding. It's like we are just kind of floating up and down. Given the holidays, too.

    Also, I realize too that sometimes when we read a post it is not taken as it is read. I believe everyone can read my mind and I am not very good with putting my thoughts into words.

    Please let us know about your CT scan. Sending caring and warm thoughts your way.
    ((((AntCat)))

    Kathy
  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    #12
    Kaleena said:

    Wow. I thought I was the
    Wow. I thought I was the only one who felt that way. In fact, I was thinking about doing the same thing but I decided to keep checking back.

    Don't leave, AntCat. I believe with the recent passing of several members of this board, it has been hard for many to get back into the posting and responding. It's like we are just kind of floating up and down. Given the holidays, too.

    Also, I realize too that sometimes when we read a post it is not taken as it is read. I believe everyone can read my mind and I am not very good with putting my thoughts into words.

    Please let us know about your CT scan. Sending caring and warm thoughts your way.
    ((((AntCat)))

    Kathy

    I donn't post much anymore
    but I read everyone's posts. I am kinda in a funk and need to clear my head. Hope you will comeback..hope you are ned..val
  • poopergirl14052
    poopergirl14052 Member Posts: 1,183 Member
    #13
    Kaleena said:

    Wow. I thought I was the
    Wow. I thought I was the only one who felt that way. In fact, I was thinking about doing the same thing but I decided to keep checking back.

    Don't leave, AntCat. I believe with the recent passing of several members of this board, it has been hard for many to get back into the posting and responding. It's like we are just kind of floating up and down. Given the holidays, too.

    Also, I realize too that sometimes when we read a post it is not taken as it is read. I believe everyone can read my mind and I am not very good with putting my thoughts into words.

    Please let us know about your CT scan. Sending caring and warm thoughts your way.
    ((((AntCat)))

    Kathy

    I donn't post much anymore
    but I read everyone's posts. I am kinda in a funk and need to clear my head. Hope you will comeback..hope you are ned..val
  • jadav1956
    jadav1956 Member Posts: 95 Member
    #14
    poopergirl14052 said:

    I donn't post much anymore
    but I read everyone's posts. I am kinda in a funk and need to clear my head. Hope you will comeback..hope you are ned..val

    I agree with everone else. I
    I agree with everone else. I read a lot but to log in can be a real pain. Please stay as we all benefit from postings whether we just read or actually post comments. I sometimes feel the same but I can always read and find advice and comfort from all.
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    #15
    Antcat
    I think we have talked several times and no one want to feel like they are not wanted or what they ask or right about is not important. You are just a important as everyone on this site. It sounds like most who have answered this post have had things goin on in their lives that has made it diffecoult to respond. I am guilty of that alot because what I am going through at the time of your post or others I don't want to reply because it will be negitive, but I never think oh I don't want to answer her post I don't really care for her. We all are bound togeather by this fight and we all mean the world to each other so please don't leave and sick around so we can support and love you. By the way evertime I have read your post I may not answer but you need to know that I lift you up in my prays to give you streagth to get threw what ever battle you are fight at that time. I do that for all my teal sisters I don't want to bring anyone down by my negitive remarks so I just don't post when I am going through things.

    Anne
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    #16
    poopergirl14052 said:

    I donn't post much anymore
    but I read everyone's posts. I am kinda in a funk and need to clear my head. Hope you will comeback..hope you are ned..val

    in a funk
    oh do I know that one I hope you are doing better. My funk will end on the 30th I hope when I know if the cancer is back. If you don't hear from me that means it's back and my funk just got worst lol. I will pray that you come out of your funk just know we all love and support you.

    Anne
  • TexanByChoice
    TexanByChoice Member Posts: 44
    #17
    AnneBehymer said:

    Antcat
    I think we have talked several times and no one want to feel like they are not wanted or what they ask or right about is not important. You are just a important as everyone on this site. It sounds like most who have answered this post have had things goin on in their lives that has made it diffecoult to respond. I am guilty of that alot because what I am going through at the time of your post or others I don't want to reply because it will be negitive, but I never think oh I don't want to answer her post I don't really care for her. We all are bound togeather by this fight and we all mean the world to each other so please don't leave and sick around so we can support and love you. By the way evertime I have read your post I may not answer but you need to know that I lift you up in my prays to give you streagth to get threw what ever battle you are fight at that time. I do that for all my teal sisters I don't want to bring anyone down by my negitive remarks so I just don't post when I am going through things.

    Anne

    Add me to the list of DON'T LEAVE
    I've actually joined this group awhile back and have read all the post, but just recently felt in a good place to respond. We all care and are so fortunate to have this site and the sisters who can inform and inspire. Not everyone goes through the same things and therefore can't respond to specific questions, or as many have said we get in our own little funk...include me as I too am awaiting 2nd blood test to see if my cancer has returned for the second time. Also, some times the issue hits so close to home, it is difficult for us to addess at the moment. As you can see by all these posting, we want to hear from you....STAY

    Shirley
    TexanByChoice
    taking it one day at a time
  • azgrandma
    azgrandma Member Posts: 609 Member
    #18
    TexanByChoice said:

    Add me to the list of DON'T LEAVE
    I've actually joined this group awhile back and have read all the post, but just recently felt in a good place to respond. We all care and are so fortunate to have this site and the sisters who can inform and inspire. Not everyone goes through the same things and therefore can't respond to specific questions, or as many have said we get in our own little funk...include me as I too am awaiting 2nd blood test to see if my cancer has returned for the second time. Also, some times the issue hits so close to home, it is difficult for us to addess at the moment. As you can see by all these posting, we want to hear from you....STAY

    Shirley
    TexanByChoice
    taking it one day at a time

    Hello
    I am sorry to hear this. I think alot of us feel the same way. I have felt at times like I am not liked here also. It looks like peoplke do care, I care about you and would love to get to know you better.I do hope you will reconsider
    Hugs Lynda
  • kikz
    kikz Member Posts: 1,345 Member
    #19
    azgrandma said:

    Hello
    I am sorry to hear this. I think alot of us feel the same way. I have felt at times like I am not liked here also. It looks like peoplke do care, I care about you and would love to get to know you better.I do hope you will reconsider
    Hugs Lynda

    I am glad you posted Lynda
    You are one of the people I noticed I had seen here for awhile...you know where the mind goes. I think it is important that we all check in once in a while just to say, "I'm still here."

    Val, I see your jokes on Facebook all the time. You must be quite a character...I wish you lived closer so we could meet.

    Karen
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    #20
    kikz said:

    I am glad you posted Lynda
    You are one of the people I noticed I had seen here for awhile...you know where the mind goes. I think it is important that we all check in once in a while just to say, "I'm still here."

    Val, I see your jokes on Facebook all the time. You must be quite a character...I wish you lived closer so we could meet.

    Karen

    val
    many times has made my day better she does have a good since of humor

    Anne
  • jepsj5
    jepsj5 Member Posts: 18
    #21
    AntCat
    You know AntCat, I am involved with quite a few groups/forums/FB etc. I dont regularly respond to this group but I do read alot. Its nice for me to be able to get info and read updates from all of you. My mom(LPack) is on this board as well. Not so much anymore b.c she has been quite sick. I try to check in for her and give her updates about all of you when i can. So please dont go...you are an inspiration to many. Thanks for being you and stay strong! Fight this wicked disease! You can do it!

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