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Oh My,
I am so sorry, you
Oh My,
I am so sorry, you are going through too much all at once! I don't know why anyone would tell you that you are going to die.
No one knows that and I am mad that anyone would say that to you. As far as your daughter goes, that's probably a shock but it can be dealt with as soon as your stronger.
Please try and concentrate on yourself right now and be strong to get through this.
I wish you all the best.
Hugs,
Wanda0 -
Go ahead and vent
Go ahead and vent.You have every right.Sad to think your husband and sister in law tell you that you are dying.I don't think so.I am going to pray over and over things are going to be OK.
It has to be hard when your daughter at 17 tells you she's preg with all the other things going on.
I've been going through some rough things but never tell my family.Just alot with testing all the time, worry with the outcome, other medical things I need to get done.Seems like lately I've got nothing but tests or doc appt. It makes me nervous.I like you need to relax but HOW????
It will all come out for the best.Prayers to you.Hope your husband changes.There are times I feel my husband thinks the same about me.Not going to make it.But we will.I've been 2 1/2 years cancer free but not long enough.
Lynn Smith0 -
UGH!!
I am so sorry about such tough situation and frustrations! What got me upset the most was what you mentioned about your husband and sister in law? They keep telling you what?! WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!!?!?!? I am so upset for you. Seriously?! That's it not supportive in my eyes. I know that people are "different" and "special" in their own ways, but some things are very inappropriate and unacceptable. I'm very sorry you had to deal with such non-sense from people. But what else can we do? Just try to ignore the comments, forgive them and concentrate on getting better. You can also open up to them - when you feel well enough - and tell them those words hurt you and they are toxic. That you don't understand what the intentions behind them are, to please elaborate. Or you can choose to just let it go and stay strong for yourself. This is amazing. We are here for you. And prayers are always with you. And God is the ONLY one who knows and decides when we go. No one else. Ok?
About your daughter, yes, this is difficult. And it is the wrong timing and she is way too young. At the same time I can't help to think it's a blessing. A child is always a blessing (I don't have any
. I know for every mom is concerning to have a daughter getting pregnant at such young age. And although it is the wrong time, and she is not ready for this, and this adds stress to your current situation, let's try to take a deep breath. Please try to stay calmed as you are still recovering from all of this. You come first right now. You can talk to your daughter later.
And you're so right. No one deserves this. No one deserves anything bad to happen to them. I wish this world was different. That we all learn to get along and love one another. And to top it all we have illnesses, like this one hurting not only older people, but babies too. It's just something we can't understand and never will, at least not in this life. But we are here. We are trying our best, everyday, to recover. To live. And we are not alone. We have each other.
Please hang in there. Try to relax and not to focus on anything negative. It's important you have your rest.
I hope things get better for you at home. I wish your daughter well. I know this is very upsetting, but things will get better sister.
BIG HUG0 -
You vent ALL you want! We
You vent ALL you want! We are here for you. First of all, it would be good to announce to your husband and sister in law, to keep whatever NEGATIVE thoughts they may have to themselves...you don't need to received that as truth. As for your 17 year old? She'll have to adapt to being a mommy.
Do whatever you need to do to find that place to relax. Whether it's a book, a bible study, a day at a nearby hotel...whatever. Some women are very blessed to have attentive people around helping them through all this, others are not. YOU ARE NUMBER #1 right now with what you are going through. If I was your neighbor, I'd take you out for a full day of pampering. Maybe there's someone you feel comfortable enough to reach out to and just have them visit.
I know this can be hard with the diarrhia. Is there something you can take? Ask the doctor. I know I had that really bad with the meds...
I'm praying for you. I hope you find your little bit of peace and relaxation,
Hugs,
Sylvia0 -
Vent, vent, and vent some moresea60 said:You vent ALL you want! We
You vent ALL you want! We are here for you. First of all, it would be good to announce to your husband and sister in law, to keep whatever NEGATIVE thoughts they may have to themselves...you don't need to received that as truth. As for your 17 year old? She'll have to adapt to being a mommy.
Do whatever you need to do to find that place to relax. Whether it's a book, a bible study, a day at a nearby hotel...whatever. Some women are very blessed to have attentive people around helping them through all this, others are not. YOU ARE NUMBER #1 right now with what you are going through. If I was your neighbor, I'd take you out for a full day of pampering. Maybe there's someone you feel comfortable enough to reach out to and just have them visit.
I know this can be hard with the diarrhia. Is there something you can take? Ask the doctor. I know I had that really bad with the meds...
I'm praying for you. I hope you find your little bit of peace and relaxation,
Hugs,
Sylvia
You vent all that you want and need to. We are all here with you and I'm sending you a big hug. It upsets me about your husband and SIL, they should never say things like this to you. Unfortunately many people equate cancer with dying. Please inform them both that you are probably the strongest, bravest woman that they will ever encounter & ONLY God knows when our time is up & then ask them what THEIR life sentences are. Remind them both that we don't know what the next breath holds.
I'm sure that you must have a multitude of feelings over your daughters announcement. I truly understand your feelings. My daughter also announced 6 years ago at 17, a senior in high school that she was pregnant. Oh what a mess it was at the time. We live in a very conservative small town where your neighbor knows what your doing before you actually do it. To say that we were embarrassed & very scared for our daughter & unborn grandchild is an understatement not to mention that my husband was furious. Once we got over the initial shock & i got over the fact that i was gonna be a grandma at 39, we realized that our daughter was a good girl she just made a very bad choice of having sex & she caught. And while her life was not over it had just been rearranged. We soon became very excited about our unborn granddaughter & I bought everything in all the baby stores from Texas to Oklahoma. Today, 6 years later I am so thankful for my little Rylie Nicole that our daughter blessed this family with. Take a deep breath & know that in the end it's all going to work out.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Hugs,
Dawne0 -
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We all need to vent, we are all angry and we all will stand beside each other here and give all the support we can and even lend an ear or two when needed. I became outraged when I read this!!! The nerve of them. If it was me I would have sit up and told them both that I will probally out live both. My way of thinking maybe it would piss them off! None of ask for this, but I look at it this way... we all have been chosen by our great creator to become his great warriors! We are in training to stand by his side when our time does come. It is an honor that your husband and sister in law will not get from him. This training teaches us to become strong and never give up.....FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT!!!! In 2008 I had stage 2b breast cancer and now I have lung cancer and just had lung surgery 4 weeks ago...just starting my new journey on this one. I am not only a SURVIVOR, but I am a GREAT WARRIOR! You are to my friend. When we are all called back home,( which I am sure we all have a long time here yet) I will hold my head up high and be very honored and proud to stand next to you! Never mind anyone else....you focus on you and you only! Get Well and vent always!
Ellen
In Peace you will find Love, in both you will find Eternity!0 -
Beyond
I would be too! I had my older teenager rearrange my living room . Centrally located the couch with the coffee table in front of the couch. My 5 year old and I could build with legos and blocks, color and draw together, read and play onthe computer without me having to get on the floor or move to much. We watched a lot of PBS kids shows and animal planet-I told everyone else in the house to watch tv inthe other rooms if they didn't like it. Six months later(I can't believe it's been 6months) he's acquired quite a vocabulary and yelled at me for throwing a soup can away(I was told I had to recycle it). I hope your husband doesn't say that in front of the 4 year old. Sometimes when I was really bad I took little one and stayed with family member for a night or two. My 17 year old dropped out of school at beginning of my chemo- it certainly took my mind off of my first chemo. I told her I didn't have the strength to fire cancer and help her- she signed up for GED and found transportation on her own. She passed in December. Hang in there . I wished I lived closer- I'd send my mother over to straighten your family out and help you like she did for me. Shes72 and still going strong.
Prayers and love to you.
Jennie0 -
Yes, vent all you want. I
Yes, vent all you want. I wish I could be there to give you a hug. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Sending cyber prayers and (((hugs)))0 -
Well said Dawne.Texasgirl10 said:Vent, vent, and vent some more
You vent all that you want and need to. We are all here with you and I'm sending you a big hug. It upsets me about your husband and SIL, they should never say things like this to you. Unfortunately many people equate cancer with dying. Please inform them both that you are probably the strongest, bravest woman that they will ever encounter & ONLY God knows when our time is up & then ask them what THEIR life sentences are. Remind them both that we don't know what the next breath holds.
I'm sure that you must have a multitude of feelings over your daughters announcement. I truly understand your feelings. My daughter also announced 6 years ago at 17, a senior in high school that she was pregnant. Oh what a mess it was at the time. We live in a very conservative small town where your neighbor knows what your doing before you actually do it. To say that we were embarrassed & very scared for our daughter & unborn grandchild is an understatement not to mention that my husband was furious. Once we got over the initial shock & i got over the fact that i was gonna be a grandma at 39, we realized that our daughter was a good girl she just made a very bad choice of having sex & she caught. And while her life was not over it had just been rearranged. We soon became very excited about our unborn granddaughter & I bought everything in all the baby stores from Texas to Oklahoma. Today, 6 years later I am so thankful for my little Rylie Nicole that our daughter blessed this family with. Take a deep breath & know that in the end it's all going to work out.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Hugs,
Dawne
Well said Dawne.0 -
Vent all you Want
I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I was 41 when I first had BC. I know what you are saying. I have three children, my youngest at the time was five. I remember crawling up the stairs at night to go to bed. It had sucked the life right out of me. I had a recurrance in 2009 and it took about two years to get over that due to infections. I still have bone mets and am on hormone therapy. Fight the good fight. I'm really sorry your husband and sister-in-law aren't more supportive. They should not be saying negative things like that to you. We are here for you! Please vent anytime you need to. God Bless. Positivity.
Terry0 -
it is good to hear from youLighthouse_7 said:Oh My,
I am so sorry, you
Oh My,
I am so sorry, you are going through too much all at once! I don't know why anyone would tell you that you are going to die.
No one knows that and I am mad that anyone would say that to you. As far as your daughter goes, that's probably a shock but it can be dealt with as soon as your stronger.
Please try and concentrate on yourself right now and be strong to get through this.
I wish you all the best.
Hugs,
Wanda
Hi We have not heard from you since you have had breathing problems. it is positive to hear that you are staying strong, venting and arguing with your relatives.
let others worry about your teen pregnancy, you should Not take care of the baby. Please treat you diarrhea, it is manageable.
Please focus on what you CAN do instead of you you can not. You can still play with 4 years old even if you are on the sofa, read a book to him, watch a cartoon.,
Yes, you do not deserve it, remember tomorrow will be a Better day
Hugs0 -
I felt so bad reading your postmom62 said:Vent all you Want
I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I was 41 when I first had BC. I know what you are saying. I have three children, my youngest at the time was five. I remember crawling up the stairs at night to go to bed. It had sucked the life right out of me. I had a recurrance in 2009 and it took about two years to get over that due to infections. I still have bone mets and am on hormone therapy. Fight the good fight. I'm really sorry your husband and sister-in-law aren't more supportive. They should not be saying negative things like that to you. We are here for you! Please vent anytime you need to. God Bless. Positivity.
Terry
First of all, only God knows when the time has come to call you home. I'm also sorry people in your life are being so insensitive right now. As for your daughter--take Dawne's advice and learn from what she went through. It might seem really bad now that your young daughter is pregnant, but it will resolve and turn out all right (probably even great like Dawne).
If you don't have good support at home--we're all here for you to support you, listen to you and help you. This is a very good place to vent. Please know that we care.
Hugs, Renee0 -
Very well saidTexasgirl10 said:Vent, vent, and vent some more
You vent all that you want and need to. We are all here with you and I'm sending you a big hug. It upsets me about your husband and SIL, they should never say things like this to you. Unfortunately many people equate cancer with dying. Please inform them both that you are probably the strongest, bravest woman that they will ever encounter & ONLY God knows when our time is up & then ask them what THEIR life sentences are. Remind them both that we don't know what the next breath holds.
I'm sure that you must have a multitude of feelings over your daughters announcement. I truly understand your feelings. My daughter also announced 6 years ago at 17, a senior in high school that she was pregnant. Oh what a mess it was at the time. We live in a very conservative small town where your neighbor knows what your doing before you actually do it. To say that we were embarrassed & very scared for our daughter & unborn grandchild is an understatement not to mention that my husband was furious. Once we got over the initial shock & i got over the fact that i was gonna be a grandma at 39, we realized that our daughter was a good girl she just made a very bad choice of having sex & she caught. And while her life was not over it had just been rearranged. We soon became very excited about our unborn granddaughter & I bought everything in all the baby stores from Texas to Oklahoma. Today, 6 years later I am so thankful for my little Rylie Nicole that our daughter blessed this family with. Take a deep breath & know that in the end it's all going to work out.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Hugs,
Dawne
I can't add anymore to that. You have all of us in your corner, that will help ward off the negative attitudes you have to deal with! Keep in mind that no matter what the circumstances, the baby can only be good. I was a grandma at 40 and I am sitting here watching Sammie play on the couch. We just got done tickling and wrestling.
Cindy0 -
you are ok
YOu are storng and think about all that you have gone through already. COngratualtions on becoming a grandmother~that is the only way to look at it~your 4 year old doesn't need you on the floor to play with him, he will climb onto the sofa to be with you...he wants to be near you, that is normal for him and good for you, once in a while...I agree that you should be concentrating on you, and venting is one good way to do that. The dying part? no one knows anything about that, and guessing is pretty silly. Well the news is everyone is going to die, no one lives forever, and no on knows when anyone is going to die, so screw that~take care of the diahrrea as soon as you can, put in a call to your doc. don't let yourself get dehydrated~I want to reach into the computer and hug you and hold you up~and glad that you are feeling strong enough to vent~let it out girl~who the hell has a better right~love to you0 -
VentIng
Venting is good. Sorry to hear that your husband and sister-in-law say that you are going to die. Actually we all will die at sometime. But to put that out there to you is negative when you need positive support. The fact that your 17 year old is pregnant could be a blessing in that you will get see your grandchild. Yes that is young but things happen for a reason. I have learned that through all my endeavors, breast cancer being one and my parents being killed in a car accident by a drunk driver as the other.
Hang in there,
Wanda0 -
Everyone gives very soundWJGardner_Dec2009 said:VentIng
Venting is good. Sorry to hear that your husband and sister-in-law say that you are going to die. Actually we all will die at sometime. But to put that out there to you is negative when you need positive support. The fact that your 17 year old is pregnant could be a blessing in that you will get see your grandchild. Yes that is young but things happen for a reason. I have learned that through all my endeavors, breast cancer being one and my parents being killed in a car accident by a drunk driver as the other.
Hang in there,
Wanda
Everyone gives very sound advice and ways to get around the disabilities. It is frustrating to feel so lousy and not be able to do the things we want to do. But you do gain some control when you add modifications and say sc@#w you to the cancer.
For your H and SIL to say these things to you is abusive and unacceptable. I would put heavy perameters on them and say they are not allowed to speak to me this way. you need to be surrounded by support. You deserve this.
What a whammy after just having brain surgery to be told your daughter is pregnant.
I had issues with the big D I used benefiber and made sure I took probiotics. A GI doc could give you some advice perhaps you have an undiagnosed infection especially if you have been on antibiotics or caught something in the hospital.
Vent away your life is stressfilled without a doubt, we are here to help. Big HUGS0 -
No one gets outa here alive!Jobi said:Vent
I am new to this site - as of today - and your post really moved me! I agree with all of the other posts! Do not listen to the negative comments! Although times are difficult now, they will get better. I will pray for you!!!
May your treatments be successful. I hope the comments made by your husband and SIL are not as we're taking them because they really sound cruel. You have way too much going on right now. I hope the new grandchild will be a blessing in disguise for you and your daughter and the rest of your family. If your daughter has the loving support of her family behind her, that child will be cherished and loved and bring joy to everyone around her. Your husband is simply going to have to step up to the plate and do the things you need him to do.
We're here to listen to your vents any time you want to vent.
Love,
Suzanne0 -
First of all
If this comment about dying comes out of your family members again you might want to say "Perhaps so, but not before I can get off this couch and do something about your mouth being disconnected from your brain."
Your son will be able to show you how well he can dance. He will be able to keep active that way without having to go for a walk.
When my daughter got pregnant before marriage I protested the only way I could without hurting another's feelings. I said if "I am going to be a grandma I don't have to look like one." I never thought until that day I would ever dye my hair but that is exactly what I did. So maybe if you already dye your hair you can do something else unexpected.0
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