Our journey has ended

cher76
cher76 Member Posts: 292
in Esophageal Cancer #1
Wednesday morning around 5:30am, my best friend, husband, father of my children, and life long love lost his courageous battle with the beast. It was 15 months to the day from his initial diagnosis. He died peacefully at home with his family around him, and is now free from all the pain he had been suffering. He reached his goal of making it through Christmas and getting to see all the family together and we made some wonderful memories. The pain from the bones mets was constantly with him and we were never able to find the balance between the methadone and pain. Either he was awake and in pain or sleeping and pain free. His feet and hands had been very swollen for several weeks and he could not get comfortable in bed in order to raise them up. He had spent the last month pretty much in the recliner and then getting up and moving from chair to chair around the house trying to find a comfortable position. On the last day we had convinced him to get into the bed to sleep, and he never woke up again. We always knew from the beginning that there would be no cure, and so we prayed for time. I believe while God could not take this horrible beast away, he did grant us the time we prayed for. Rickie and I got married 35 years ago when we were just 19; we faced good times and bad together, and always worked as a team. We raised 3 wonderful children and always taught them that if you made a commitment to something then you stuck by your commitment. I was proud to be his wife. Rickie and I made a commitment to fight the beast together, and we never gave up. Thank you all for all the support and guidance you have given during this journey. We could not have made it this far without you. Rickie's journey has ended and mine will continue on until we met again in heaven to enjoy eternal life.
Cheryl
Wife of Rickie, dx stage IV EC, October 2010
mets to bones and brain
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  • sangora
    sangora Member Posts: 213
    #2
    I am so sorry
    You know, its hard to loose someone we love but in the case of this disease and the difficulties it brings, sometimes its a relief to let go. I have followed you and Rickie's journey and you have to know that from the outside looking in, it was obvious that you were behind him all the way. I hope in the coming months, you can gain some peace about all this. Praying for you and your children as you go thru this difficult time. Sam stage IV
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #3
    very sad to see this
    Dear Cher,
    So sad to see this. Glad that Rick is not suffering anymore but know how much you loved him and will be missing him for a long time to come. You did your best for him. I am sad to hear about the pain at the end, it doesn't seem fair at this day and age anyone should have to suffer like that. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all and your family. He was a standup guy and you raised your kids right. Glad that you did have your Christmas together. many hugs from afar,
    Donna70
  • jss2011
    jss2011 Member Posts: 132
    #4
    Cheryl
    I am so sorry for your loss. You described a wonderful life together with Rickie, 35 yrs of making memories. Sounds like you are soul mates and will surely meet again.
    My prayers of comfort are with you.

    Hugs,
    Julie
  • annalan
    annalan Member Posts: 138
    #5
    Cheryl I am so sorry for
    Cheryl I am so sorry for your loss but as you say he is free from pain now. You have been married a long time and have your wonderful memories and family to help you. I send my condolence to you all.

    Ann (2)
  • chrissiebass
    chrissiebass Member Posts: 56
    #6
    annalan said:

    Cheryl I am so sorry for
    Cheryl I am so sorry for your loss but as you say he is free from pain now. You have been married a long time and have your wonderful memories and family to help you. I send my condolence to you all.

    Ann (2)

    cheryl
    I had seen the comments from others on your facebook page, but wanted to hear something from you first. You have and always are in my prayers. I was thinking of you all day yesterday when i read the beautiful messages some had wrote on your page. I wish I was there to give you a big hug.

    I am happy to hear that all of the family was able to be there for x-mas and make some lasting memories for you.

    Please keep in touch and know you are never out of my thoughts..... thinking of you

    chrissie
  • Wife of patient 50378
    Wife of patient 50378 Member Posts: 124
    #7
    Cheryl, I am so sorry you lost the love of your life.....
    Rickie was so courageous ... all the way through his EC journey. Your love for him, shone brightly through within your words of every post. Cheryl, you were an amazing advocate for your husband. He was so lucky to have you at his side.

    Take time and grieve.... for as long as you need to. There is no time limit.

    Take care my Friend, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sal
  • MissusB
    MissusB Member Posts: 111
    #8
    Wife of patient 50378 said:

    Cheryl, I am so sorry you lost the love of your life.....
    Rickie was so courageous ... all the way through his EC journey. Your love for him, shone brightly through within your words of every post. Cheryl, you were an amazing advocate for your husband. He was so lucky to have you at his side.

    Take time and grieve.... for as long as you need to. There is no time limit.

    Take care my Friend, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sal

    Cher - I grieve with you -
    and I pray that you will find the strength I know you are going to need in the coming days, months and years. I'm going through the same thing as you right now, I lost the light and love of my life on December 17th, so I know no words are adequate to express what we've shared with these wonderful men. Know that I feel your pain and send love - Kim
  • rose20
    rose20 Member Posts: 258
    #9
    Oh Cheryl, so very sorry
    Sounds like he was in no pain that he just went in his sleep, that is one great comfort. So thankful for the time God gave you both.
    You will be in my prayers.
    Rose
  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #10
    Our deepest condolences.
    Our deepest condolences. Thank you for letting us know. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. BMGky
  • Cora11
    Cora11 Member Posts: 173
    #11
    BMGky said:

    Our deepest condolences.
    Our deepest condolences. Thank you for letting us know. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. BMGky

    Dear Cheryl
    My heartfelt sympathy for your loss. Seems there is too too much loss here these days. I am touched by your courageous fight with Rickie. Now it is time for peace and healing and taking comfort from those around you. An unimaginable loss for you and your family. I know Ricky is at peace and I grieve with you. I am so sorry for your pain right now.
    Blessings,
    Cora
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    #12
    I am so sorry to hear that Rickie has left us
    Cheryl,

    I am very sorry to hear about Rickie, the two of you have battled this disease with grace and courage. I am happy that Rickie got to spend the holidays with his family, and that he was at home with you at the end.

    May God wrap Rickie in his loving arms and give you support and peace during this difficult time.

    With my deepest condolences,

    Paul Adams,
    McCormick, South Carolina
  • JaneO
    JaneO Member Posts: 40
    #13
    Dear Cheri
    So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.
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  • bingbing2009
    bingbing2009 Member Posts: 177
    #15
    So sorry
    Cheryl,

    Our deepest condolences go out to you and your family. While this is never the news any of us wants to hear, at least Ricky is now at peace and pain-free. May God wrap you in His arms and give you comfort. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Melinda and Vaughn
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #16
    Cheryl, I pray for God to
    Cheryl, I pray for God to hold you and the family close ,surrounding you with peace and comfort during this difficult difficult time.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you,
    Sandra
  • Mazj
    Mazj Member Posts: 42
    #17
    sandy1943 said:

    Cheryl, I pray for God to
    Cheryl, I pray for God to hold you and the family close ,surrounding you with peace and comfort during this difficult difficult time.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you,
    Sandra

    Dear Cheryl
    I am so, so sorry to read of Ricky's passing. I know there are no words to ease your pain but I hope you can take some comfort from the love we all send to you from afar. Many hugs and heartfelt condolences,
    Marilyn
  • Rick0311
    Rick0311 Member Posts: 38
    #18
    I am Sorry
    Cheryl
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Richard (Rick) Watson
    Neoga, Illinois

    DX – 0411
    EC – T2N2M0
    MIE – 083111
    Barnes Hospital, St Louis
    Dr Brian Meyer
    NED
  • T-Bird
    T-Bird Member Posts: 25
    #19
    Rick0311 said:

    I am Sorry
    Cheryl
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Richard (Rick) Watson
    Neoga, Illinois

    DX – 0411
    EC – T2N2M0
    MIE – 083111
    Barnes Hospital, St Louis
    Dr Brian Meyer
    NED

    I am so sorry
    Dear Cheryl;

    I am so sorry to read of Rickie's passing. May you be surrounded by loved ones during this very difficult time. Sending thoughts & prayers to your family.

    Teresa
  • froggerjen
    froggerjen Member Posts: 28
    #20
    My deepest condolences
    Cher, I just joined this group today but wanted to offer my prayers and condolences for your loss of Rickie. JEn
  • JReed
    JReed Member Posts: 428
    #21
    We are so sorry
    Dear Cheryl and Family:

    We are very sorry to hear of Rickie's passing away. May God comfort you and wrap you in His loving arms. Thank you for your contributions to our group - Don and I are fairly new to this and we have gained so much knowledge from you and we truly appreciate what you have given to all of us on this site.

    God Bless You,
    Judy & Don

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