Please pray for my father...

myparentsdaughter said:

hi Laura, your dad is
hi Laura,

your dad is definitely a fighter. So is my dad, who is currently fighting stage IV lung cancer mets to the spine. My dad is coughing and wheezing in his sleep as I'm typing out my comment. The poor guy has lost his wife, my mom less than a year ago to cancer as well. We didn't really get to grief her death yet and now we on another battle.

Laura, just believe he will beat this. He's been through so much and he beat all those odds. If our fathers are fighters, we can't give up on them so easily. You and your father are in my thoughts.

best wishes,
niki

myparentsdaughter said:

hi Laura, your dad is
hi Laura,

your dad is definitely a fighter. So is my dad, who is currently fighting stage IV lung cancer mets to the spine. My dad is coughing and wheezing in his sleep as I'm typing out my comment. The poor guy has lost his wife, my mom less than a year ago to cancer as well. We didn't really get to grief her death yet and now we on another battle.

Laura, just believe he will beat this. He's been through so much and he beat all those odds. If our fathers are fighters, we can't give up on them so easily. You and your father are in my thoughts.

best wishes,
niki

myparentsdaughter said:

Hi Laura, Hearing that your
Hi Laura,

Hearing that your dad has been fighting from stage 4 since 2009 gives me a lot of hope about my father. I don't know if my dad doesn't really understand the severity of his disease or he is just plain hopeful. I hope and pray that will power to live will get him through this.

He is currently very fatigue after 4 months on Tarceva, which did not work. He has pleural effusion and had to have his lung fluid drained once every 2 weeks. I feel like it was a mistake to encourage him to take Tarceva. He was doing fine with chemo. My sister in-law did researched and found out about some molecular drug that extended her aunt's life by 14 years and kept pushing us and the doc to have my dad on it. I had no idea what it was. Turned out it was tarceva. Soon after, his condition seems to deteriorated. It's so depressing and heart breaking to see my dad in so much suffering. As if he didn't suffer enough, having to care for my mom and seeing her body get weaker and weaker. He was her soul caretaker. He barely slept and ate while taking care of her. Little did we know he was already living with cancer. Sorry I'm just rambling on... I'm just so tired and completely heart broken that my parents have to suffer like this.

Thank you for your info on Zometa. I've never heard about it. I'm posting from Canada where we have free public health care. However, we don't get to choose who our oncologist is. The one we have is very knowledgeable doesn't honestly I don't feel that he cares about cancer patient nor their families. He seems to just go about doing his job, but will not go the extra mile to help us. The last visit we had with him, his tone was rude and inconsiderate. They did a pet-scan on my dad and had known the results but did not book to see to him until 3 weeks after. During this time, my poor dad was in pain, coughing, had difficulty sleeping and all the other nasty cancer stuff he was feeling when the doc couldn't have had him in sooner and started his chemo sooner. When we finally saw him, he was rude and disrespectful to my father and somehow assumed that we wanted to cease all treatments. We never once said that or imply that we wanted to cease treatment. What on earth was he on?? Then he went on saying how my father's generation (he's 62) refuse to take pain meds even when they need to. Yes I have a feeling my dad is denying the level of pain he's experiencing and probably tries not to rely so much on pain meds. Honestly no matter what a patient does, it is completely up to them and understand that it's not easy having to deal with cancer emotionally. Why do these people go into the medical field when they don't care about emotional well-being of their patients or even have any respect for people in general?

Sorry Laura for being so negative and going completely off topic. I'm just so exhausted and feel completely alone in this whole situation. Sometimes I think I need help myself. Our family is broken because of cancer. Before I moved out, my sister and I used to spend our weekends with my parents. Now mom is gone and dad is fighting for his life. I now live in another province in Canada. I had to bring my 2 year old to live with my father so that I can care for him. Poor Livvy keeps saying she wants daddy and wants to go home. How do you respond to a child who is too young to comprehend. She was with my for 8 months last year to spend time with my mom. Again, her dad had missed out a chunk of her growing up. My sibblings are either too young or too immature to really provide any support. Before my mom got sick, my parents had a lot of friends who used to call and spend time together. Now I don't see any of them nor receive one phone call from them. It just disheartening how when we are struggling the most, people turn their back on you. I wonder if there is such thing as true friendship and kindness in this world. I find that I receive kindness more often now from strangers than from people who we thought will be there for us.

Thank you for sharing your dad's name. His name resonates to me as a warrior and he will beat this beast called cancer! My dad's name is Nam. I pray and hope the same for my dad too. I love him too much to see him suffer.

Dawn50 said:

May God give you, your
May God give you, your family, and your father the peace and guidance you need. I pray he looks down upon your father and blesses him with a cure for this terrible pain he is experiencing.