Need to see an oncologist?

Minnesota Girl said:

Just do it
K -

As you can surmise, I DID go ahead with an oncologist. It was clear in meeting with the urologist this week that the oncologist is being MUCH more aggressive in follow-up than the urologist would have been. That alone reinforced we made the right choice.

Additionally, my oncologist participates in a lot of research, so he knows the latest on trials, drug therapies, etc. He talked about a recent study they completed that is now being analyzed. If it shows promise in preventing recurrence, he will get me on the protocol.

So, I say GO FOR IT!

Kwilliams630 said:

Sounds like we are almost in
Sounds like we are almost in the same boat! Where should i post my area? start a new discussion? Sorry like i said i'm new to this LOL. I never would have thought to look for an oncologist with a "specialty", wasn't aware they existed, just thought an oncologist was an oncologist. Ive learned so much today!

Our kids are the same age. I'm so grateful for the early diagnosis as well. Thanks for all your help and i'm always here as someone who can relate! Don't forget that! I wish you peace and comfort and laughter beyond what is considered normal..laughter until your belly hurts...thats the real antidote for any situation in life. It hurts me to laugh right now because of the pain but by God i do it anyways!

K

Liora4queen said:

Same boat
K-
I'm new to this site too. I'm 36 and also have 2 kids - aged 6 & 3. I'm waiting for my surgery, which is scheduled for 12/7 and am pretty scared.
How are you coping with the kids since your surgery?

Liora4queen said:

the kids
Hi BG,
Thanks for your post - I think my anxiety about my kids is actually higher than my anxiety about the surgery and tumor. I have told my kids that I have a boo boo that is inside my body so I have to have an operation to take them out.
They seem to be OK with that idea.
I'm wondering...how did your kids handle seeing you in the hospital the day after surgery? I know I'll be missing mine like crazy, but was concerned that the hospital/seeing me looking sick, might be scary for them.
I'm having a laparoscopic partial and am hoping that I wont be in too bad shape. Is that a realistic hope?
Liora

BG said:

Hi Liora,

I had the partial, laproscopic with the davinici robot. My daughter (5 years) was ok with the visit, my 3 year old did not come by choice of my wife, probably a good call. However, I feel he would have been fine. I was fine in the hospital, had an IV, but no pain, so my daughter handled things well and we kept the visit short. My wife stayed in my room the first night.

My anxiety was and still is in part due to my children. I have no desire to leve them at such a young age, so of course your mind starts reeling. Once I got home, the added battle was telling the kids I cant give piggy back rides, lift them, and have them crawl all over me. This is an adjustment you will need to get use to, no fun in addition to the surgery.

You will not be in too bad of shape, a childs love will help you heal. Their kisses are better than the pain meds.... But still take the pain meds. Get a stool softeneer med, eat lots of fruit and veggies, cut back on red meat if you can since the pain meds tend to constipate you. At the hospital, try to walk, it will be difficult at first, use your breathing tube thing to work your lungs, and push yourself to use the restroom once catheter is out.

If you have a high anziety, request a valium or 2 once you get to your nurse. They gave me 2, and the next thing I knew my wife was by my side in the recovery room. My daughters visit was later, she helped me eat my pudding!

I wish you well, and will send prayers your way.

BG