Prayers and Thoughts to Jan101 in the loss of her husband

TerryV
TerryV Member Posts: 887
in Esophageal Cancer #1
A dear friend and former coworker, Jan101, has lost her husband to a Stage IV battle with EC. Jan brought me to CSN when she heard of my husband's EC diagnosis. She has been a silent reader here during her husband's Stage IV journey. I know Jan followed many posting the Stage IV path here.

Jan's husband was recently able to enjoy a "retirement" party at work. Many coworkers and others whose lives he had touched were able to attend. I'm told it was a very special day for him.

My prayers and condolences to Jan and her family.

With much love and great sorrow,

Terry

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  • Unknown
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  • sangora
    sangora Member Posts: 213
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    Am So Sorry Jan
    Knowing that your loss is profound at this time, also know that many of us on this board will be thinking of you and praying that you can find peace and understanding as you go thru this difficult time. I am an EC patient and am traveling down the same path you and your husband have already been. Know that you nor he will be forgotten. Sam
  • Ginny_B
    Ginny_B Member Posts: 532
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    God be with you and your
    God be with you and your family.
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
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    Jan,
    My thoughts and prayers
    Jan,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Please accept my condolences to you and your family.

    Cindy
  • jojoshort
    jojoshort Member Posts: 230 Member
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    Dear Jan,
    My sincere sympathy in the loss of your husband. I hope you find peace in the coming days and weeks.
    Jo-Ann
  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    #7
    Our prayers
    We offer our prayers for you family. I will remember him at All Souls Mass on Tuesday.

    So much sad news.
  • annalan
    annalan Member Posts: 138
    #8
    So very sorry for your loss
    So very sorry for your loss Jan. Thinking of you and your family. Ann (2)
  • JimboC
    JimboC Member Posts: 264
    #9
    I am always so pained to
    I am always so pained to read that we've lost another one of our brothers or sisters in arms against this horrible disease. Please share our love and sorry with her for her husband's passing.
  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #10
    Hi Jan,
    Terry said you're a reader here so I thought I'd write directly to you. I, too, just lost my husband of almost 42 years on October 24th to this beast of a cancer. As you know, grief comes in waves. Sometimes you're feeling okay with life and then in comes the tsunami of grief and you completely lose control of all your emotions. This is okay! It's fine! It's normal!! I will pray for the Lord to give you peace and comfort in knowing that he's in a better place, pain free and still watching over and protecting you.
    Hugs to you
    Rita
  • mrsbotch
    mrsbotch Member Posts: 349
    #11
    I Am so sorry Jan
    I know how you feel Jan. Losing your other 1/2 is the most painful thing you will ever go thru. I lost mine in Feb of this year. It is a heartbreak like no other. As Rita said the grief comes in waves. I had been doing o.k. up until the last month. Now I find myself crying all the time. Maybe its the approaching holidays or maybe its just part of the process. Please try to be kind to yourself.

    I know I have beat myself up a thousand times and still do it. I think of the what ifs. Its taken a toll on me lately. I truly think I was better at the beginning of this journey.No one wants to be here and I am sorry we all are.

    Take care and know how much we all care

    barbara
  • mrsbotch
    mrsbotch Member Posts: 349
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    I Am so sorry Jan
    I know how you feel Jan. Losing your other 1/2 is the most painful thing you will ever go thru. I lost mine in Feb of this year. It is a heartbreak like no other. As Rita said the grief comes in waves. I had been doing o.k. up until the last month. Now I find myself crying all the time. Maybe its the approaching holidays or maybe its just part of the process. Please try to be kind to yourself.

    I know I have beat myself up a thousand times and still do it. I think of the what ifs. Its taken a toll on me lately. I truly think I was better at the beginning of this journey.No one wants to be here and I am sorry we all are.

    Take care and know how much we all care

    barbara
  • Jan101
    Jan101 Member Posts: 6
    #13
    Memorial Service
    Today was Scott's memorial service and it was very moving. Many friends, family and co-workers shared a memory about my Scott (including the Cancer Survivors family). I miss him terribly but am so thankful that the suffering is over. His was a ten month fight with stage iv. Actually he was eating fairly well and not in much pain until about the last two weeks. Thank God for hospice. I am posting the words he chose to include in his memorial. They are Bob Dylan's "Every Grain of Sand"

    In the time of my confession, in the hour of my deepest need
    When the pool of tears beneath my feet flood every newborn seed
    There's a dying voice within me reaching out somewhere
    Toiling in the danger and in the morals of despair.

    Don't have the inclination to look back on any mistake
    Like Cain, I now behold this chain of events that I must break
    In the fury of the moment I can see the master's hand
    In every leaf that trembles, in every grain of sand.

    Oh, the flowers of indulgence and the weeds of yesteryear
    Like criminals, they have choked the breath of conscience and good cheer
    The sun beat down upon the steps of time to light the way
    To ease the pain of idleness and the memory of decay.

    I gaze into the doorway of temptation's angry flame
    And every time I pass that way I always hear my name
    Then onward in my journey I come to understand
    That every hair is numbered like every grain of sand.

    I have gone from rags to riches in the sorrow of the night
    In the violence of a summer's dream, in the chill of a wintry light
    In the bitter dance of loneliness fading into space
    In the broken mirror of innocence on each forgotten face.

    I hear the ancient footsteps like the motion of the sea
    Sometimes I turn, there's someone there, other time it's only me
    I am hanging in the balance of the reality of man
    Like every sparrow falling, like every grain of sand.


    Thank you Terry for posting Scott's passing.
  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 Member Posts: 236
    #14
    Jan101 said:

    Memorial Service
    Today was Scott's memorial service and it was very moving. Many friends, family and co-workers shared a memory about my Scott (including the Cancer Survivors family). I miss him terribly but am so thankful that the suffering is over. His was a ten month fight with stage iv. Actually he was eating fairly well and not in much pain until about the last two weeks. Thank God for hospice. I am posting the words he chose to include in his memorial. They are Bob Dylan's "Every Grain of Sand"

    In the time of my confession, in the hour of my deepest need
    When the pool of tears beneath my feet flood every newborn seed
    There's a dying voice within me reaching out somewhere
    Toiling in the danger and in the morals of despair.

    Don't have the inclination to look back on any mistake
    Like Cain, I now behold this chain of events that I must break
    In the fury of the moment I can see the master's hand
    In every leaf that trembles, in every grain of sand.

    Oh, the flowers of indulgence and the weeds of yesteryear
    Like criminals, they have choked the breath of conscience and good cheer
    The sun beat down upon the steps of time to light the way
    To ease the pain of idleness and the memory of decay.

    I gaze into the doorway of temptation's angry flame
    And every time I pass that way I always hear my name
    Then onward in my journey I come to understand
    That every hair is numbered like every grain of sand.

    I have gone from rags to riches in the sorrow of the night
    In the violence of a summer's dream, in the chill of a wintry light
    In the bitter dance of loneliness fading into space
    In the broken mirror of innocence on each forgotten face.

    I hear the ancient footsteps like the motion of the sea
    Sometimes I turn, there's someone there, other time it's only me
    I am hanging in the balance of the reality of man
    Like every sparrow falling, like every grain of sand.


    Thank you Terry for posting Scott's passing.

    Dylan says it all
    Such poignant words from an icon. May God be with you in the days to come Jan.
    Hugs to you
    Rita

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