Neurologist appointment

sandysp
sandysp Member Posts: 868 Member
in Anal Cancer #1
Oh gosh, what an experience. Unfortunately my appointment with the Neurologist was a bust. What a jerk. When I told him I was recovering from Anal Cancer he said: "ANAL CANCER!" I suddenly felt very small and unfortunately ashamed! It was not the worst of it. He grilled me about my daughter's death too. Making matters worse, it's close to her birthday and I am always more sensitive this time of year. I didn't cry in his office like I usually do on first visits to a doctor when the subject comes up but the tears keep coming back when I think of it. I have a call into the referring physician. I am scheduled for Neurological tests with his office, but I will call and cancel. We need health care professionals who are compassionate. Leaving Sloan Kettering I am back in the "real world" of medical "care" I guess now. Not pretty.

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  • Phoebesnow
    Phoebesnow Member Posts: 600 Member
    #2
    Appts
    Go to your appts, u r number one.

    Take a few deep breaths.

    Often I find the technicians are wonderful, caring people. You can have your tests forwarded to another physician. Once my neurologist, (who was wonderful) explained to me it was nerve damage, I just felt so relieved. One leg has almost completely healed. I am 10 months out. However my groin pain on my left side has increased. So here I go around again. Answers = relief for me.

    I am sorry to hear of your daughter and understand this is a difficult time for you.

    There should be a course in human relations and common sense before you are accessed any kind of medical degree. Often you find the most intelligent people really lack people skills.

    Don't punish yourself for others shortcomings.

    Carrol
  • z
    z Member Posts: 1,414 Member
    #3
    Phoebesnow said:

    Appts
    Go to your appts, u r number one.

    Take a few deep breaths.

    Often I find the technicians are wonderful, caring people. You can have your tests forwarded to another physician. Once my neurologist, (who was wonderful) explained to me it was nerve damage, I just felt so relieved. One leg has almost completely healed. I am 10 months out. However my groin pain on my left side has increased. So here I go around again. Answers = relief for me.

    I am sorry to hear of your daughter and understand this is a difficult time for you.

    There should be a course in human relations and common sense before you are accessed any kind of medical degree. Often you find the most intelligent people really lack people skills.

    Don't punish yourself for others shortcomings.

    Carrol

    Sandy
    Wow what a jerk, I wish we could have all been there with you, Carrol is right a lot of the drs don't have people skills, and I have come across a couple, but I'm one to come back at them if they upset me. I hope you will find a neurologist that you like, and not have to deal with him again. Please let us know. Lori
  • RoseC
    RoseC Member Posts: 559
    #4
    Wow
    That's all I can say - wow...

    He's an idiot-rat-imbecile-insensitive-unprofessional-JERK. I'm so very, very sorry you had to go through this. After waiting all that time - and you get THIS?!?!? Unbelievable.
  • shirlann54
    shirlann54 Member Posts: 162
    #5
    Sandy
    What a jerk.It will come back on him someday .He sounld'nt be a Dr.So sorry you had to go thru that.You,ll find a Dr with compassionate . shirley
  • shirlann54
    shirlann54 Member Posts: 162
    #6
    Sandy
    What a jerk.It will come back on him someday .He sounld'nt be a Dr.So sorry you had to go thru that.You,ll find a Dr with compassionate . shirley
  • mp327
    mp327 Member Posts: 4,440 Member
    #7
    shirlann54 said:

    Sandy
    What a jerk.It will come back on him someday .He sounld'nt be a Dr.So sorry you had to go thru that.You,ll find a Dr with compassionate . shirley

    Hi Sandy
    I'm so sorry you had this terrible experience. The guy is such a jerk! If you do nothing else, go to the Vitals website (vitals dot com) and do a rating on this guy. By doing this, you may save someone from having the same bad experience that you had. I have rated all of my doctors on that website--good or bad. Luckily, all but one of mine have been very good.

    I hope you find another doctor who has some compassion. Hugs.
  • RoseC
    RoseC Member Posts: 559
    #8
    mp327 said:

    Hi Sandy
    I'm so sorry you had this terrible experience. The guy is such a jerk! If you do nothing else, go to the Vitals website (vitals dot com) and do a rating on this guy. By doing this, you may save someone from having the same bad experience that you had. I have rated all of my doctors on that website--good or bad. Luckily, all but one of mine have been very good.

    I hope you find another doctor who has some compassion. Hugs.

    Thanks Martha
    for the link to vitals dot com. I have wanted to somehow rate my oncologist, Dr Keith Stuart from Lahey Clinic in Burlington MA. He's the best, most compassionate doctor in the world. If anyone is from the New England area and is looking for a new oncologist, I highly, highly recommend Dr Stuart.

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