Cant seem to shake off this feeling

Jan King
Jan King Member Posts: 6
in Head and Neck Cancer #1
Hi everyone

Posted yesterday that I had been for my follow up check up with my consultant and he was happy with everything ...I feel I should be happy but I still have this anxious feeling in my head ...I am from Scotland UK and live alone while i wait for my canadian hubby to get the paper work done so he can come and live with me in the uk
I know I should be happy with the good result this check up and not worry until my next check up which is in 6 weeks but I find it hard to do ..I miss my new husband so much we were married in Jan and i was told i had cancer in Feb ...

Everyone tells me to relax and just enjoy this time as i had a good check up but i still feel scared of the unknown .
sorry that all my posts seem so doom and gloom i just find this after the treatment part very hard ..when i was going through my treatment I stayed as strong as I could and was so focused on getting through that ...that i never thought much about what things would be like after treatment and to be honest i feel i am not coping too well or my mind wont let me relax .

Love Jan x

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  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #2
    Groups or Counciling
    Hi Jan, have you looked into any local cancer survivor groups, or perhaps some coping counciling?

    Depression and anxiety are very common during and after treatment.

    With all that you have went through, and the fact that I'm sure you have tons of added emotions added in with your hubby being gone. It might be something that would help you enormously.

    Nobody can really relate without having went through similar.

    Thoughts and Prayers,
    John
  • ratface
    ratface Member Posts: 1,337 Member
    #3
    Skiffin16 said:

    Groups or Counciling
    Hi Jan, have you looked into any local cancer survivor groups, or perhaps some coping counciling?

    Depression and anxiety are very common during and after treatment.

    With all that you have went through, and the fact that I'm sure you have tons of added emotions added in with your hubby being gone. It might be something that would help you enormously.

    Nobody can really relate without having went through similar.

    Thoughts and Prayers,
    John

    This is normal
    You have just experienced a significant defining event in your life and are probably suffering from some level of depression. There are many questions floating around in that brain of yours to reconcile. Anti-anxiety medication can make a big difference and allow you to wrap a small level of understanding around what has happened to you and why. Please don't be afraid to ask for some medication. There are two major things going on right now. One, is you just finished treatment and have been coddled every day by doctors and nurses and caretakers and now treatment ends and everyone is gone. This is a feeling of abandonment and is normal and it will pass. Secondly you will continue to experience post traumatic stress disorder symptoms to varying degrees and this is also normal and where a little medication goes a long way. Survivorship is proving personally for me to be much more difficult than treatment. Seek out a group setting or just continue posting here. You will find you way!
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #4
    ratface said:

    This is normal
    You have just experienced a significant defining event in your life and are probably suffering from some level of depression. There are many questions floating around in that brain of yours to reconcile. Anti-anxiety medication can make a big difference and allow you to wrap a small level of understanding around what has happened to you and why. Please don't be afraid to ask for some medication. There are two major things going on right now. One, is you just finished treatment and have been coddled every day by doctors and nurses and caretakers and now treatment ends and everyone is gone. This is a feeling of abandonment and is normal and it will pass. Secondly you will continue to experience post traumatic stress disorder symptoms to varying degrees and this is also normal and where a little medication goes a long way. Survivorship is proving personally for me to be much more difficult than treatment. Seek out a group setting or just continue posting here. You will find you way!

    Hi Jan

    Agree with John & Ratface sounds like you are having some depression. A lot of times that is normal as you just been through a big change in your life and you need to talk to someone or a group that can help you.

    Praying for you
    Hondo
  • palmyrafan
    palmyrafan Member Posts: 396
    #5
    What you are feeling
    is normal. To be concerned, anxious or even fearful after treatment is normal because we can't help but wonder, "did they get it all", "how do they know it was successful", "will it come back".....etc..

    I have found it easier to believe what my doctors are telling me because I have chosen to surround myself with great doctors. I have a medical team of 8 (every kind of doctor or specialist I need) and they are all communicating back and forth together so I am confident in the treatment plan I have. My PCP (primary care physician) is the go-to guy. He handles all the day to day stuff; colds, flu, etc. while my endo handles his stuff. Luckily for me, my endo and PCP are professional colleagues as well as personal friends and they both know their stuff so I feel comfortable trusting them.

    Give it some time. If possible, immerse yourself in things that will help your husband get acclimated to his new surroundings and that way when he does arrive you both will be able to enjoy each other's company.

    Good luck.

    Hugs,
    Teresa

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