surgury tomorrow

joannaw81
joannaw81 Member Posts: 185 Member
in Head and Neck Cancer #1
For those who are familiar with my mom's story. We decided to go with the surgury. I called Sloan Kittering and they had told me that in my mom's case if she is a candidate for the surgury like her doctor said it is the best treatment option for her and delaying it it's not such a good idea. they also said to fax them over the pathology report after the surgury so their dotor's can review and see if she should receive any further treatment and if it will do any good in her case. Today I am praying to God so that the tumor is small enough that they do not have to remove much of her tongue and that all margins will be negative. Hobo, Tesa and anybody else who has dealt with a recurrance please tell me what treatment did you or yor families had for the recurrent cancer, I'm not sure what to exect. Overall I try to stay positive and my mom seems positive as well although I think she just trying not to show it so I don't worry too much. I worry about her and she worries about me. I don't really care if I have to spend the rest of my life worrying about her and not knowing what the next day will bring as long as she is here with me. I love my mom. Please pray that the surgury goes well tomorrow. I will keep you posted.

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  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #2
    Thoughts & Prayers
    Coming your way.....

    John
  • connieprice1
    connieprice1 Member Posts: 300 Member
    #3
    We will be praying for your
    We will be praying for your Mother. Hopefully everything will be ok, she has a very loving daughter to help her through this which will make a big difference in her recovery. We are sorry that anyone has to go through this as it is heart breaking. C. has NO conscience and continues to take lives for no rhyme or reason. God willing she will come through this and you will have her for many years to come. God Bless, Homer & Connie
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #4
    Prayers
    Keeping your Mom in prayer that all goes well today please let us know as soon as you can how she is doing

    Hondo
  • luv4lacrosse
    luv4lacrosse Member Posts: 1,410 Member
    #5
    POSITIVE VIBES HEADED YOUR WAY
    Best of luck today. I am thinking of you.

    Mike
  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #6
    prayers
    Praying for your mom and for you. Stay positive.

    Debbie
  • joannaw81
    joannaw81 Member Posts: 185 Member
    #7
    jim and i said:

    prayers
    Praying for your mom and for you. Stay positive.

    Debbie

    update

    Thank you all for prayers. So as per the doctor the surgury went well yesterday. It lasted about 1 and a half hours. As per the doctor the margins were negative but the pathology report will have to reconfirm. Mom's tongue is swollen and she is in pain. Why does she has to suffer like that???? why????? I wish I could take the pain away from her for at least few minutes to give her some break. She was strong though, she did not show fear before going in, although after I came into the recovery room she started crying, not sure if it was releave tears that she went through it and that she is awake, or it was pain tears.... not sure...So can anybody tell me what else we will find out from the pathology report? I forgot to ask the doctor as I was very stressed out yesterday.
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #8
    joannaw81 said:

    update

    Thank you all for prayers. So as per the doctor the surgury went well yesterday. It lasted about 1 and a half hours. As per the doctor the margins were negative but the pathology report will have to reconfirm. Mom's tongue is swollen and she is in pain. Why does she has to suffer like that???? why????? I wish I could take the pain away from her for at least few minutes to give her some break. She was strong though, she did not show fear before going in, although after I came into the recovery room she started crying, not sure if it was releave tears that she went through it and that she is awake, or it was pain tears.... not sure...So can anybody tell me what else we will find out from the pathology report? I forgot to ask the doctor as I was very stressed out yesterday.

    Hi Joanna

    Glad that your Mom did so well on the surgery and hope she now continues to heal. On the crying I can understand that as sometimes we are just relived to have it over or in my case a little depression may set in and I just need someone to be there for me. I am so blessed to have my Wife Caregiver who has never left my side all through out my many treatments. And your Mom might feel the same way just happy to have you there for her when she needs you the most.

    On the pathology report you might just need to wait and see, I know its hard but that is what’s going to tell you everything, if it is cancer and what type of cancer it is.

    Continuing to keep you both in prayer
    Hondo
  • Dav1965
    Dav1965 Member Posts: 132
    #9
    joannaw81 said:

    update

    Thank you all for prayers. So as per the doctor the surgury went well yesterday. It lasted about 1 and a half hours. As per the doctor the margins were negative but the pathology report will have to reconfirm. Mom's tongue is swollen and she is in pain. Why does she has to suffer like that???? why????? I wish I could take the pain away from her for at least few minutes to give her some break. She was strong though, she did not show fear before going in, although after I came into the recovery room she started crying, not sure if it was releave tears that she went through it and that she is awake, or it was pain tears.... not sure...So can anybody tell me what else we will find out from the pathology report? I forgot to ask the doctor as I was very stressed out yesterday.

    Pain
    I had about 95% of my tongue removed and replaced with part of my thigh it was not that bad. The swelling was terrible. I did stay in a self induced coma for a week so i would not hurt the new tongue and veins. I am pretty sure they were tears of joy instead of pain. I am in more pain now after radiation than i was after the tongue surgery. Prayers for you and your mom. David
  • arndog64
    arndog64 Member Posts: 537
    #10
    Dav1965 said:

    Pain
    I had about 95% of my tongue removed and replaced with part of my thigh it was not that bad. The swelling was terrible. I did stay in a self induced coma for a week so i would not hurt the new tongue and veins. I am pretty sure they were tears of joy instead of pain. I am in more pain now after radiation than i was after the tongue surgery. Prayers for you and your mom. David

    hoping your mom is feeling
    hoping your mom is feeling better today. Have a great weekend..
  • Kent Cass
    Kent Cass Member Posts: 1,898 Member
    #11
    joannaw81 said:

    update

    Thank you all for prayers. So as per the doctor the surgury went well yesterday. It lasted about 1 and a half hours. As per the doctor the margins were negative but the pathology report will have to reconfirm. Mom's tongue is swollen and she is in pain. Why does she has to suffer like that???? why????? I wish I could take the pain away from her for at least few minutes to give her some break. She was strong though, she did not show fear before going in, although after I came into the recovery room she started crying, not sure if it was releave tears that she went through it and that she is awake, or it was pain tears.... not sure...So can anybody tell me what else we will find out from the pathology report? I forgot to ask the doctor as I was very stressed out yesterday.

    Joanna
    Hope it's a better day for your Mom, and you. They should be able to minimize the pain, some- all depends on what they give her. This is 2011, and most of the C med community is on the same page w/pain management. If your Mom has trouble conveying her suffering to the Drs or Nurses, perhaps you can do that for her. Don't assume they know how bad it is for her.

    Prayers are with you and your Mom, Joanna. Great to hear SK is now in the mix with her care, and I hope she'll be confident enough to keep it in the Positive. Does help.

    Believe

    kcass

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