Caregiver Coping

jdybarra8604
jdybarra8604 Member Posts: 1
in Multiple Myeloma #1
My dad was just diagnosed yesterday with MM. He is a relatively healthy 51 year old man with no chronic issues/diseases. This comes at a total shock. I am angry with everything, every one, anything, etc. I'm not angry with my dad, but I'm 'angry with the world'. My faith has been shaken, and I know that now is when you need faith. I'm tired of people telling me to have faith, because I'm so mad. I can't have faith right now. I'm an only child and a nursing student, so I have a lot of weight on my shoulders. I DO NOT resent my dad. If anybody, I want to be the one taking care of him. But I feel alone because I have to be strong for my family.

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  • TheWifeWithTheNotebook
    TheWifeWithTheNotebook Member Posts: 1
    #2
    honesty
    I hope you can learn early the importance of being honest about your feelings and your experience. Try to discover how much stronger you can be for your family when you share with them your feelings of anger and loss and fear.

    I've been almost a year dealing with my husband's MM and it's still hard not to shut people out. Good luck.
  • moms_the_best
    moms_the_best Member Posts: 7
    #3
    Be strong!
    I've been a caregiver for my Mom who had been battling cancer (non-hodgkins - MM) for 3 years. There are lots of ups and downs.

    I had also gone through with the angry stage where I was asking 'Why' all the time (I still am). However, all my anger has gone away. Be strong, and be an unwavering pillar of support regardless of what happens since attitude is all that matters. If you are showing signs of anger/sadness, remember - it's not only yourself going through it and you are also affecting everyone around (your dad, your family, siblings, family friends). I'm not going to lie, and it's quite hard, but it's the least we can do to make everyone around us feel better.

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