QUESTION? Mom in pain!

Best Friend
Best Friend Member Posts: 222
in Peritoneal Cancer #1
Mom had her debulking last friday so it has only been a week. I am concerned yet I understand alot of the reasons she feels the way she does. They sent her home with dilaudid and i just don't get it. It is like dope. The pain is still there but u can't **** about it. Excuse my french. I have begun to sound like a trucker these days. Anyway, she doesn't take it cuz she says it is not like discomfort from the actual removal. She says the pain from gas and her bowels is horrible. She has had problems since I can remember with her bowels and if she doesn't go daily it is like terrifying. Well, she says she feels the pain all the way up into her chest this like gas that is stuck. And she's taking stool softeners. I told her she should drink lots of water. It is necessary. I have problems with my bowels which freaks me out anyhow cuz she says i am like on the same path she was on so she wants me to get checked for cancer atleast when i am 40 and up. Colon cancer and such runs in our family but not ovarian cancer. Anway, I love her and now the depression is starting in. I know how it feels being constipated. It makes u feel terrible. But, she feels gas pain. She has been taking gas-x for years thinking it was indigestion and gas and here it was PPC. So it seems odd to go back to that. And yes, she IS on stool softeners. I am not like aloof to tghe cures for gas pain. However, when u have tried all this with no success, what do u do? I tried to tell her they actually remove ur bowels and stuff during the surgery and worked so much in there shaving her liver and omentum and stuff that if she gets gas it will feel terrible.
I am also beginning to think about the hormonal changes that soon should probably take place. Am i correct? I mean how do u produce the necessary hormones without ur reproductive organs? I am guessing estrogen replacements and such but i am thinking that she already was in menopause so she should have already gone through with that. I love how they told her not to put anything in her vagina as if that is the first thing on anyones mind. Who knows these days! Some people are like wild animals. I don't think I would want to do anything ever again. I don't even care now and i am fine. Ha!

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  • AussieMaddie
    AussieMaddie Member Posts: 345 Member
    #2
    Not much I can add
    Hi,

    just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and your mum. For me, the combination of stool softeners, lots of fluid, fibre and glyerine suppositories remain the only way I stay on top of the constipation. If that combination doesn't help then I can only imagine that talking to the doctor about it is the only answer. You need to keep the doctor informed if your mum cannot use her bowels. It's a serious problem and, as you say, way too painful. I find that the effort to go also makes my varicose veins worse. But I keep such a close eye on how often I go now that I don't let it get that bad.

    I think you're right about hormones probably not being a factor if she's already been through menopause, but again it's always worth asking the doctor.

    For now,

    Take good care, and my best wishes to your mum,

    AussieMaddie
  • lulu1010
    lulu1010 Member Posts: 367
    #3
    AussieMaddie said:

    Not much I can add
    Hi,

    just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and your mum. For me, the combination of stool softeners, lots of fluid, fibre and glyerine suppositories remain the only way I stay on top of the constipation. If that combination doesn't help then I can only imagine that talking to the doctor about it is the only answer. You need to keep the doctor informed if your mum cannot use her bowels. It's a serious problem and, as you say, way too painful. I find that the effort to go also makes my varicose veins worse. But I keep such a close eye on how often I go now that I don't let it get that bad.

    I think you're right about hormones probably not being a factor if she's already been through menopause, but again it's always worth asking the doctor.

    For now,

    Take good care, and my best wishes to your mum,

    AussieMaddie

    You could try...
    You could try Mirlax ....gentle but effective. I used it quite a bit.
  • stella65
    stella65 Member Posts: 152
    #4
    So sorry
    Sorry to hear your mum is so uncomfortable, my mum has always suffered with constipation and after surgery it was really bad, doc gave her something and also told her to continue with senacot, she also ate anything she could think of to help things get moving! Mum had her bowel moved around quite a bit in surgery as it was stuck to other parts of her stomach, it took a good while to settle, the bowel hates being disturbed, I would say it is very early days, keep on with all you can think of to help but if your mum is worried that the pain is not run of the mill then speak with the doc.... hope things settle soon, love to you both X
  • Best Friend
    Best Friend Member Posts: 222
    #5
    lulu1010 said:

    You could try...
    You could try Mirlax ....gentle but effective. I used it quite a bit.

    She is like afraid of
    She is like afraid of miralax. From all of her colonoscopies. It brings back bad memories. I think it's more this painful wind thing.

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