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Toni08
Toni08 Member Posts: 39
in Head and Neck Cancer #1
Hello to all. Im a little embarrassed to admit that I have followed your posts religiously for months without saying a peep. Im contacting you all on behalf of my dad, Tony, a 64 yr old man diagnosed in february 2010 with stage 4 cancer of the tonsil with spread to lymphnodes. I am one of his 8 daughters, 25 yrs old. And i did not want to share at first because my dad is old school and wants privacy/ is apprehensive about privacy and the web.

Anyhow, I have followed all of your stories and advice religiously since my dads diagnosis. He hsnt been very open to suggestions but my family and I look to all of you for assurance to know whats next and what to expect. Hondo and Sweetblood, you two especially I would like to thank for being so dedicated in responses and for being consistent and so sincere. But each of you posting have been heard. Arndog, we have been in the same place at the same time.

My dad is almost 2 weeks out from radiation. It actually became 8 due to his missed treatments because of sickness and hospitalization from chemo. My dad has experienced it all and spent much of it in the hospital whether from blood clots, fever, dangerously low white blood counts, muscle spasms, severe constipation and nausea, dehydration etc. Hes lost a lot of weight but thankfully has a peg and has relied on it from week one. His chemo sessions have left him hospitalized for about 2 weeks each. And he has 2 left beginning soon. This time he will be automatically admitted due to complications. Thank god he is a veteran, and is being treated at Hines VA in Illinois.

He had spent much of the last two weeks asleep, nauseated, and in severe pain. Nonetheless, tonight he ate a hot dog and a cupcake he has been craving. Granted, in his words, it tasted like s**t. But his desire and effort means the world. His nose runs constantly and he spits "foam" regularly but hes hangin in.

To all of you who post, we are a family of faith always but now more than ever and we pray for you all. Nwsunni, you are not alone as I have made sure rheough prayer. Well wishes to you all and so much love

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  • josh r.
    josh r. Member Posts: 264 Member
    #2
    Hang in there Tony
    Two treatments to go Tony. Hang in there. It sounds like you have family behind you as well as we survivors. Prayers are headed your way. josh r.
  • josh r.
    josh r. Member Posts: 264 Member
    #3
    Hang in there Tony
    Two treatments to go Tony. Hang in there. It sounds like you have family behind you as well as we survivors. Prayers are headed your way. josh r.
  • connieprice1
    connieprice1 Member Posts: 300 Member
    #4
    Toni, We will be wishing for
    Toni, We will be wishing for a full recovery. Although, as your Dad said, food probably doesn't taste too great but it is the best medicine. Just tell him to keep up the good work. We will keep your Dad in our thoughts and prayers. Homer & Connie
  • tonyb
    tonyb Member Posts: 69
    #5
    hang on , your in the home
    hang on , your in the home stretch. It'll be finished before you know it and getting better will start. I had much the same diagnosis and finished treatment back in feb. of this year. I know you guys have been through a lot but hang in there, It's gonna get better.
    And taste buds do come back, mine are getting there. His will too.
    Tonyb
  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #6
    praying
    It is ok to stay sillent. Some of us deal with stress verbally and some in silence. I am however happy you decided to write because now I can pray for you and your father by name.

    May God hold your father in the comfort of his healing hands. May God surround you and your family with peace and comfort.

    Debbie
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #7
    Hi Toni
    Sorry I missed this post somehow as I am outside of the US and it is sometimes hard to get connected. I am very glad to hear your Dad is eating hotdogs already and tasting them, all a good sign of the healing process. Just a word of cautious when he start to feel good don’t let him Overdue it. His body needs to come back on line a little at a time to his new normal.

    All the best to you and Dad
    Hondo

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