Shout out to sweetvickid - how are you holding up, how can we help?

TraciInLA
TraciInLA Member Posts: 1,994 Member
in Breast Cancer #1
I've been thinking about you ever since your post last week about your husband signing up for online dating....how are you holding up? Let us know how we can support you?

(Personally, my vote is for Double Whammy's son-in-law Guido, but maybe that's just me.)

Traci
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  • tgf
    tgf Member Posts: 950 Member
    #2
    I agree
    Guido has my vote too. Why can't all men be like our brother Joe? Some men are just plain jerks no matter how you look at it. I do agree that counseling might help ... but I think I'd also be checking into a very good attorney and take the jerk of a husband for every penny possible!

    I still have regrets that I trusted my ex-husband ... when I really should have just hired a detective to see what the lying-cheater was up to.

    We're here for you.

    hugs.
    teena
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #3
    tgf said:

    I agree
    Guido has my vote too. Why can't all men be like our brother Joe? Some men are just plain jerks no matter how you look at it. I do agree that counseling might help ... but I think I'd also be checking into a very good attorney and take the jerk of a husband for every penny possible!

    I still have regrets that I trusted my ex-husband ... when I really should have just hired a detective to see what the lying-cheater was up to.

    We're here for you.

    hugs.
    teena

    Yes, I've been thinking about you as well --
    Vicki,

    How you doing? Also, I am taking up donations .. just in case there is a need to hire "Guido".

    Vicki Sam
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    #4
    VickiSam said:

    Yes, I've been thinking about you as well --
    Vicki,

    How you doing? Also, I am taking up donations .. just in case there is a need to hire "Guido".

    Vicki Sam

    Thinking of you too Vicki!

    Thinking of you too Vicki!
  • jessiesmom1
    jessiesmom1 Member Posts: 915 Member
    #5
    Donations for Guido
    I don't think there has been a single post on this Board that has distressed me more than the one about sweetvickid's louse of a husband. Guess he has forgotten what the content of his marriage vows mean. I would like to be the first one to make a contribution to the "virtual" Guido Fund. Let me start the ball rolling with $100.

    IRENE
  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 Member Posts: 806
    #6
    jessiesmom1 said:

    Donations for Guido
    I don't think there has been a single post on this Board that has distressed me more than the one about sweetvickid's louse of a husband. Guess he has forgotten what the content of his marriage vows mean. I would like to be the first one to make a contribution to the "virtual" Guido Fund. Let me start the ball rolling with $100.

    IRENE

    I'll see your
    I'll see your virtual donation and raise it another $100, Irene.

    I'm so sorry Vicki but while I realize they're the "fixers" in the relationship (so we're told) and this is just as hard on them as us if he felt so darn out of control there's about a million other things he could have done.

    I hope everything works out for you just as you wish it to. We're here for you.

    marge
  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
    #7
    Yes, we are waiting to hear from you
    I too hope you are doing better and understand that you have done NOTHING
    wrong. I hope he has come to his senses and realized just how much he hurt
    you and you two can get past it.

    Sending love, love, love
    Ayse
  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    #8
    mwallace1325 said:

    I'll see your
    I'll see your virtual donation and raise it another $100, Irene.

    I'm so sorry Vicki but while I realize they're the "fixers" in the relationship (so we're told) and this is just as hard on them as us if he felt so darn out of control there's about a million other things he could have done.

    I hope everything works out for you just as you wish it to. We're here for you.

    marge

    Hoping that you are feeling
    Hoping that you are feeling better and that everything works out however you want it to.


    Hugs, Lex
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #9
    aysemari said:

    Yes, we are waiting to hear from you
    I too hope you are doing better and understand that you have done NOTHING
    wrong. I hope he has come to his senses and realized just how much he hurt
    you and you two can get past it.

    Sending love, love, love
    Ayse

    bumping up ...
    ....
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    #10
    VickiSam said:

    bumping up ...
    ....

    Pink buses and Virtual Guidos
    Aren't we just the best at our imaginary resources?

    Seriously, I hope you're healing, sweetvickid. Life will never be the same, darlin', but sometimes that isn't always a bad thing. Be strong, keep your eyes and mind open for whatever comes your way. There is no acceptable excuse for the deed, but it happened whether you choose to stay together or separate. Only you know if there are enough good things to help you get through the initial pain.

    Suzanne
  • sweetvickid
    sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
    #11
    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.
  • laughs_a_lot
    laughs_a_lot Member Posts: 1,368 Member
    #12
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    good going
    You have protected your interests. Now to just pray for guidance on what to do.
  • CAchick
    CAchick Member Posts: 277
    #13
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    You go girl!
    We are intelligent, resourceful women...and we don't have to take it!
    Good for you in protecting your assets and in letting him know that you know.
    As for protecting your heart, you are in my prayers.
    Love and Hugs,
    Sybil
  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
    #14
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    It sounds to me like you're
    It sounds to me like you're doing all the right things. I would also recommend a credit card in your name only, and perhaps a post office box for separate mail.

    I'm really happy to hear that you aren't letting him put this on you. Please let us know if you need anything.

    Hugs,

    Linda
  • sparkle1
    sparkle1 Member Posts: 242
    #15
    You go girl! I love a
    You go girl! I love a sister who takes charge. We are survivors!!!
    Sparkle
  • BMS
    BMS Member Posts: 127
    #16
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    What?
    "Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy."

    The guy signs up for online dating and tries to put the blame on you? Oh, you made him do it? He had no choice but to do it because you are ill? Sorry, but I wouldn't put up with crap like that. I am glad you are protecting yourself, but he is an uncaring, untrustworthy man...

    Bonnie
  • jennytwist
    jennytwist Member Posts: 896
    #17
    sparkle1 said:

    You go girl! I love a
    You go girl! I love a sister who takes charge. We are survivors!!!
    Sparkle

    Good for you!
    Sounds like you have the situation in hand! We are strong, beautiful women!!!! Keep us posted and know we are all here for you!
    -Jenny
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #18
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    :-/
    It sounds like you are doing all the right things to make sure you are taken care of and protected in this situation. It was probably a good thing to let him know you are aware, it gives him something to chew on the next time he has unusual ideas. You are right you did nothing wrong to deserve this, you simply worked like the dickens to survive so you could have a life with him. Keep striving to survive girl, hugs!!!

    RE
  • poplolly
    poplolly Member Posts: 346
    #19
    sweetvickid said:

    I am doing ok.
    I am doing ok. Sister-in-law and I had a long talk. With losing my father on 5/10 this wasn't what I needed. But...I will move forward, asked husband if he wanted a divorce and he said NO! What ever made you ask that? Then I told him I knew. IN his defense he had not paid to become an active member or have his profile viewed. Of course tried to twist it around and put the blame on me which I wouldn't buy. Going forward I have saved my proof, placed a key logger on the computer so that I can monitor him even if he changes his passwords. I have opened a new checking account and transferred money over into it.

    Smart girl, Vic. Keep his
    Smart girl, Vic. Keep his to-do list long and keep him extra busy. At least he did try to weasle out of it!
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
    #20
    jennytwist said:

    Good for you!
    Sounds like you have the situation in hand! We are strong, beautiful women!!!! Keep us posted and know we are all here for you!
    -Jenny

    Sending you HUGS!
    I wish we could go for coffee. I'm glad you confronted him Vicki. I pray for your peace and strength in your decisions.

    Love you!

    Sylvia
  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    #21
    RE said:

    :-/
    It sounds like you are doing all the right things to make sure you are taken care of and protected in this situation. It was probably a good thing to let him know you are aware, it gives him something to chew on the next time he has unusual ideas. You are right you did nothing wrong to deserve this, you simply worked like the dickens to survive so you could have a life with him. Keep striving to survive girl, hugs!!!

    RE

    I am glad to know that you
    I am glad to know that you told him. He needed to know so that he will hopefully stop this and whatever else he might be doing. You come first Vicki!


    Good luck,

    Jan

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