Stop the Madness
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Lisa...I think it may be too
Lisa...I think it may be too late.
Seriously, I'm guessing your sister is just doing the best she can. Somehow, doing "normal" things often makes us feel that we are not out of control, when of course, that's exactly what has happened. But I'm guessing you already know all this, considering your background and profession.
By the way, I take 200 mg of Tramadol a day (Degenerative Disk Disease) and it has saved my life. Tell your mom to stop being ridiculous and take her meds.
Carlene
PS....next time I come to NY, will you cook dinner for me? You seem to be well stocked with groceries....LOL.0 -
I get frustrated with my mom too.Hissy_Fitz said:Lisa...I think it may be too
Lisa...I think it may be too late.
Seriously, I'm guessing your sister is just doing the best she can. Somehow, doing "normal" things often makes us feel that we are not out of control, when of course, that's exactly what has happened. But I'm guessing you already know all this, considering your background and profession.
By the way, I take 200 mg of Tramadol a day (Degenerative Disk Disease) and it has saved my life. Tell your mom to stop being ridiculous and take her meds.
Carlene
PS....next time I come to NY, will you cook dinner for me? You seem to be well stocked with groceries....LOL.
She has had rheumatoid arthritis for over 25 years. She got an infected toe a couple of weeks ago because the toe is deformed at this point and rubs against her shoe. The dr gave her a rx for antibiotics. My mom got diarrhea and blamed the pills (maybe rightly so). She declared she wasn't taking anymore. I said what do you mean, how are you going to get better? Well, she says they make me sick. I bit my tongue but was thinking, yeah, I know what you mean, six rounds of chemo made me sick, major surgery made me sick, knowing I may be dead in less than five years makes me feel really sick, but I did what I had to do. And my mom would be the first to chastize me for not following dr's orders. My mom is so negative. I know she is always in pain but grousing about it doesn't help. Okay everyone has a right to b*tch about things but that is not going to help any situation. I try so hard to stay upbeat for myself and EVERYONE else so they can move on and not worry so much about me. LisaQ, we are here for you. Vent as much as you want because I know it is hard to become the parent of a parent. My mom told a nurse once that I was now the parent. Holy C what a responsilbility! Having said all this, I love my mom to death and really feel I have the best mom on earth, I just wish she could lighten up a bit for her sake and everyone else's.
Hang in there (of course I know you will).
Karen
PS: I have no siblings so I cannot give any advice on sisters, LOL0 -
LOLkikz said:I get frustrated with my mom too.
She has had rheumatoid arthritis for over 25 years. She got an infected toe a couple of weeks ago because the toe is deformed at this point and rubs against her shoe. The dr gave her a rx for antibiotics. My mom got diarrhea and blamed the pills (maybe rightly so). She declared she wasn't taking anymore. I said what do you mean, how are you going to get better? Well, she says they make me sick. I bit my tongue but was thinking, yeah, I know what you mean, six rounds of chemo made me sick, major surgery made me sick, knowing I may be dead in less than five years makes me feel really sick, but I did what I had to do. And my mom would be the first to chastize me for not following dr's orders. My mom is so negative. I know she is always in pain but grousing about it doesn't help. Okay everyone has a right to b*tch about things but that is not going to help any situation. I try so hard to stay upbeat for myself and EVERYONE else so they can move on and not worry so much about me. LisaQ, we are here for you. Vent as much as you want because I know it is hard to become the parent of a parent. My mom told a nurse once that I was now the parent. Holy C what a responsilbility! Having said all this, I love my mom to death and really feel I have the best mom on earth, I just wish she could lighten up a bit for her sake and everyone else's.
Hang in there (of course I know you will).
Karen
PS: I have no siblings so I cannot give any advice on sisters, LOL
we must have the same mother..lol.....I am hanging in there....I actually feel better because hospice is finally involved.....I will miss my mother dearly, but I abhor watching her suffer so.......now the next few weeks are devoted to good-bye....i hope it is a grand farewell for her...surrounded by her family and the people who love her most...0 -
I would like to send youLisa13Q said:LOL
we must have the same mother..lol.....I am hanging in there....I actually feel better because hospice is finally involved.....I will miss my mother dearly, but I abhor watching her suffer so.......now the next few weeks are devoted to good-bye....i hope it is a grand farewell for her...surrounded by her family and the people who love her most...
I would like to send you many hugs, Lisa
I am glad that the topic of hospice has come up, as I know that you want what is best for your mom. Hospice is a warm place, full of unique people that will treat you and your mother very warmly. Please keep us all updated.0
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