How to meet other young survivors friends/relationships etc

Damek
Damek Member Posts: 4
in Young Cancer Survivors #1
I'm 21 years old and I'm cancer free for 2 and half years now. I would like to meet and make friends with other survivors. I have no friends who are survivors and I also know no one who is a survivor. I find it hard to have a relationship with someone who has not been through what I have been through. Fighting for your life really changes everything about you, atleast for me it did.
Anyway, how do I find other young survivors? I feel very alone. Lately this has been depressing me, and I'm a happy person!
Girls/women usually don't imagine their ideal mate to be a cancer survivor with scars etc lol :D


Thanks friends

PS: I checked out cisforcupid but it seems like their website is down. Are they down for good?

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  • Damek
    Damek Member Posts: 4
    #2
    BTW
    I'm in southern
    BTW
    I'm in southern NH
    Anyone near there? Nashua area? I go to school in gardner, MA.
  • Chemo_Princess
    Chemo_Princess Member Posts: 105
    #3
    C is for crap
    C is for cupid didn't have anyone in my city!! I checked it out a few months ago.
    Dating is hard-- like you said your outlook on life changes and it would be nice to find another survivor who understands this. I wish you luck!
  • Damek
    Damek Member Posts: 4
    #4
    Chemo_Princess said:

    C is for crap
    C is for cupid didn't have anyone in my city!! I checked it out a few months ago.
    Dating is hard-- like you said your outlook on life changes and it would be nice to find another survivor who understands this. I wish you luck!

    Thanks.
    You summed up my
    Thanks.
    You summed up my point of view perfectly.
  • caseyj
    caseyj Member Posts: 29
    #5
    Hello I am not as young as
    Hello I am not as young as you but am single and looking for friends too. I have small intestine cancer. It gets pretty lonely and I been through alot and this month found out that They did not find no more cancer. they said They can't say I am cancer free but are still doing all the test. I have stage 4 cancer. I get really lonely and no one to talk to about all this and don't have alot of friends so if you want an old person for a friend would love to be your friend hahahh I am 48 years old.
  • jbendola
    jbendola Member Posts: 6
    #6
    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer
    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer survivor. None of my friends are survivors and i do at times feel like they dont get it... even the ones im closest to. and dont let the scars get you down. i have a huge one over a foot long on my stomach from near my lady parts to almost up to my breasts.
  • sdav12
    sdav12 Member Posts: 3
    #7
    Chemo_Princess said:

    C is for crap
    C is for cupid didn't have anyone in my city!! I checked it out a few months ago.
    Dating is hard-- like you said your outlook on life changes and it would be nice to find another survivor who understands this. I wish you luck!

    hey
    Im from Mass, I know C is for cupid is pretty wac, the website doesn't even work for me, Where are you from?
  • sdav12
    sdav12 Member Posts: 3
    #8
    Chemo_Princess said:

    C is for crap
    C is for cupid didn't have anyone in my city!! I checked it out a few months ago.
    Dating is hard-- like you said your outlook on life changes and it would be nice to find another survivor who understands this. I wish you luck!

    hey
    Im from Mass, I know C is for cupid is pretty wac, the website doesn't even work for me, Where are you from?
  • rathgirl
    rathgirl Member Posts: 138 Member
    #9
    hi
    hi im a 20 yr. old leukemia survivor. i know what you mean completely. im welcoming new friendships all the time :) so feel free to message me on here.

    krysten
  • Chemo_Princess
    Chemo_Princess Member Posts: 105
    #10
    sdav12 said:

    hey
    Im from Mass, I know C is for cupid is pretty wac, the website doesn't even work for me, Where are you from?

    I'm from Kentucky.

    I'm from Kentucky.
  • Chemo_Princess
    Chemo_Princess Member Posts: 105
    #11
    jbendola said:

    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer
    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer survivor. None of my friends are survivors and i do at times feel like they dont get it... even the ones im closest to. and dont let the scars get you down. i have a huge one over a foot long on my stomach from near my lady parts to almost up to my breasts.

    Yep
    I was diagnosed stage 3C ovca at age 30. I have the same scar, plus more. I've had 4 surgeries. Nobody could possibly understand what we have been thru unless they have experienced it themselves.
  • ajetsonronald
    ajetsonronald Member Posts: 7
    #12
    jbendola said:

    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer
    I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer survivor. None of my friends are survivors and i do at times feel like they dont get it... even the ones im closest to. and dont let the scars get you down. i have a huge one over a foot long on my stomach from near my lady parts to almost up to my breasts.

    Hi
    I am 28 testicular cancer
    Hi
    I am 28 testicular cancer survivor, I am originally from India currently doing PhD in Italy. I under went 2 surgeries I have a scary scar in the chest. I have shown to few of my friends and they were shocked. It is an issuse I take lot of efforts to hide, I like to swim but now I even avoide that because of this scar.
  • ajetsonronald
    ajetsonronald Member Posts: 7
    #13
    Chemo_Princess said:

    I'm from Kentucky.

    I'm from Kentucky.

    Hi
    Hi
    I am 28 testicular cancer survivor, I am originally from India currently doing PhD in Italy. How do you do? you seem quite interesting and would like to know more about you.
    good luck
  • kurtis
    kurtis Member Posts: 17
    #14
    Hi
    I'm 18 and in treatment for colon cancer, so I know how you feel. I'm engaged and my girlfriend has always been there for me regardless of the cancer and scars, you just have to find the right one!
  • sunshine0406
    sunshine0406 Member Posts: 65
    #15
    try asking at the Hospital
    I go to a young cancer survivors group. I got a business card for the one I go to when I started my treatment. Have you asked at the nearby hospitals cancer centers? sometimes they know about support groups in the area or they might even have one (the hospital I go to has cancer support groups, mostly older people, but the one I go to is in a nearby town). You could even start one. we only meet once a month at a hospital cancer center classroom. nothing fancy just a bunch of women sitting around talking about different things going on in our lives. We are all in different stages of survivor-ship. Hope this helps.
  • BMTBohoBabe
    BMTBohoBabe Member Posts: 9
    #16
    I really like scars actually
    I completely understand where you are coming from. After going through everything you've gone through you're different. I don't think its a bad thing. I like who I became after everything. I'm a little punk with all my scars. I changed a bit from being really happy just because its hard. I'm still kind of angry about everything I've had to deal with. I know a lot of people who aren't survivors don't get it. I would love to get to know you and talk. Hope to hear from you.

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