The perfect example...

allmost60
allmost60 Member Posts: 3,178 Member
in Lymphoma (Hodgkin and Non-Hodgkin) #1
Hi guys,
Steve and I have a close friend that has late stage colon cancer. He's been fighting so hard for his life, but things don't look promising for him. Since joining our group last July, I have also been "lurking" on the colorectal board trying to learn as much as I can about colon cancer and the various treatments used, and what others like our friend is going through each day. I don't post there, but read their comments everyday. I've tried to talk our friend into joining that group, but he just isn't the kind to share his feelings. Anyways...the information, support, love, and humor they share daily with each other is absolutely amazing. I have to tell you...from reading their comments each day, I have found great strength in dealing with my own cancer fears, and the fear of losing our dear friend to colon cancer. Last night I went to their board and one of their members had posted a farewell message. I am blown away at the responding posts that immediately followed his posting. He is a Marine named John and has fought a very difficult battle with his colon cancer...I've followed his story since July 2010, simply an amazing man. If you get a minute go to the colorectal board and read his farewell post and the comments from his friends. It's the perfect example of how we all touch each others lives and how important it is to share, love and comfort each other during our cancer journey. The love he is receiving back from all of his colo friends is truely wonderful. I hope as years go by our group can evolve as this group has. We have a wonderful family on the lymphoma board, and I love you all...lets always stay this way. Much love...Sue (FNHL-2-3A-6/10)

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  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #2
    JOHN
    Sue,
    I have scanned that board before and like you I never posted anything. I can say they are one close knit family over there. I only read a few of the post about Goodbye,but will go back and read the rest. I am sure there will be a lot more posts. It is very sad and a real tearjerker. I guess what we have to deal with is not a lot compared to that board. Thanks for telling us about it. John(FNHL-1-4A-5/10)
  • miss maggie
    miss maggie Member Posts: 929
    #3
    Sue
    Hi Sue,

    You are the sweetest, most wonderful, and caring human being.

    I am so very sorry about your friend. Especially since his outlook is not good. That hurts when there is nothing you can do.

    Sue, I am a bit vulnerable right now. A friend of a friend passed away this past Friday. A
    young 61. Un-necessary death. The cause will be determined.

    I will not go on the colon cancer site right now. It would break my heart to read his farewell post, and all the responses.

    Love Maggie
  • COBRA666
    COBRA666 Member Posts: 2,401 Member
    #4
    miss maggie said:

    Sue
    Hi Sue,

    You are the sweetest, most wonderful, and caring human being.

    I am so very sorry about your friend. Especially since his outlook is not good. That hurts when there is nothing you can do.

    Sue, I am a bit vulnerable right now. A friend of a friend passed away this past Friday. A
    young 61. Un-necessary death. The cause will be determined.

    I will not go on the colon cancer site right now. It would break my heart to read his farewell post, and all the responses.

    Love Maggie

    Colon site
    Maggie,
    Do not go on the COLON site right now because it will tear your heart out big time. John(FNHL-1-4A-5/10)
  • allmost60
    allmost60 Member Posts: 3,178 Member
    #5
    COBRA666 said:

    Colon site
    Maggie,
    Do not go on the COLON site right now because it will tear your heart out big time. John(FNHL-1-4A-5/10)

    Thanks Maggie...
    Thank you Maggie. I'm so sorry about your friends friend. 61 is our age, and as far as I'm concerned it's not "old" at all. I always feel vulnerable when I read about people our age or younger passing away. I'm sorry you are having a difficult time right now with these feelings of vulnerability...I think it comes easily to those of us dealing with cancer. It makes us feel helpless on so many levels. Our friend is only 48. His father passed away last summer, suddenly, and he was our age and also a very dear friend to us. It's just been an emotional ordeal with both of our families...Big Si passing away...his son, little Si fighting colon cancer and then me getting diagnosed with cancer all at the same time. I try to stay up-beat for their family and of course they try to stay up-beat for me. We are like dogs chasing their tails trying to shore each other up. Somedays it can get very overwhelming. The "Farewell my friends" post on the colorectal board really hit me hard. I agree with John...don't read it because it may be a bit hard to deal with while you are feeling vulnerable. I brought it to our groups attention because I thought it could help us see how important it is to keep our communications with each other as current as possible. I do understand when people don't feel well that it's hard to sit and type out a post. I'm just the kind of person that will drag my sorry butt to the keyboard no matter what...ha! No way is everyone expected to be like me. Hang in there Maggie, and I'll keep you in my prayers for peaceful days ahead.
    Much love...Sue..(FNHL-2-3A-6/10)
  • miss maggie
    miss maggie Member Posts: 929
    #6
    allmost60 said:

    Thanks Maggie...
    Thank you Maggie. I'm so sorry about your friends friend. 61 is our age, and as far as I'm concerned it's not "old" at all. I always feel vulnerable when I read about people our age or younger passing away. I'm sorry you are having a difficult time right now with these feelings of vulnerability...I think it comes easily to those of us dealing with cancer. It makes us feel helpless on so many levels. Our friend is only 48. His father passed away last summer, suddenly, and he was our age and also a very dear friend to us. It's just been an emotional ordeal with both of our families...Big Si passing away...his son, little Si fighting colon cancer and then me getting diagnosed with cancer all at the same time. I try to stay up-beat for their family and of course they try to stay up-beat for me. We are like dogs chasing their tails trying to shore each other up. Somedays it can get very overwhelming. The "Farewell my friends" post on the colorectal board really hit me hard. I agree with John...don't read it because it may be a bit hard to deal with while you are feeling vulnerable. I brought it to our groups attention because I thought it could help us see how important it is to keep our communications with each other as current as possible. I do understand when people don't feel well that it's hard to sit and type out a post. I'm just the kind of person that will drag my sorry butt to the keyboard no matter what...ha! No way is everyone expected to be like me. Hang in there Maggie, and I'll keep you in my prayers for peaceful days ahead.
    Much love...Sue..(FNHL-2-3A-6/10)

    Thank you Sue
    Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. You also are always in my thoughts. As everyone else.

    My heart breaks to hear your friend is only 48 and losing his dad. Then you being DX with cancer. It's too much to take. You start to wonder, you and everyone around you is falling apart. So much bad news. It has to effect us.

    You tt, much love Maggie

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