Disappointment....

abrub
abrub Member Posts: 2,174 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1
My husband and I had scheduled a 30th anniversary second honeymoon/60th birthday trip(for him) to return to where we spent our honeymoon. We were scheduled to depart on the 4th anniversary of my diagnosis (April 6.) However, in light of current world events, we have canceled our trip to Japan, and are sending our good thoughts (and monetary donations) instead.

We've been looking forward to this trip for years. However, in the scheme of things, it's a minor blip for us, while Japan deals with immeasurable catastrophe. I can't feel sorry for myself, tho I can be disappointed.

Alice

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  • AncientTiger
    AncientTiger Member Posts: 130
    #2
    Happy 30th!!!!
    Thirty years..... holy cow! Congrats on that, and sorry for the ruined honeymoon plans. Hope you and hubby just POSTPONE the trip, and do something extra special for yourselves on this joyous day.
  • abrub
    abrub Member Posts: 2,174 Member
    #3
    AncientTiger said:

    Happy 30th!!!!
    Thirty years..... holy cow! Congrats on that, and sorry for the ruined honeymoon plans. Hope you and hubby just POSTPONE the trip, and do something extra special for yourselves on this joyous day.

    Thank you!
    Our 30th was back in September, but we own a business and couldn't get away then. My husband decided that for his 60th (this May) we were going back to Japan, and make the trip a second honeymoon as well. Blast and darn! However, a few years ago, we didn't expect to celebrate our 30th. At one point I was "given" 2 years, maybe 3-5 if I was lucky. I'm coming up on 4 years, and now am being told to keep up the long term planning - I'm not going anywhere! (I guess that meant Japan, too :(

    We'll probably go kayaking for D's birthday, and maybe plan a few days in the Florida Keys for some snorkeling in the next couple of months. Big trips take time to plan - we'd been working on the Japan trip since the fall.

    I, too, have a beautiful family, tho my kids are a bit older than yours (24 and 28) and quite far afield (Taiwan and Washington State - I'm an East Coaster.) Wishing you well as you move forward in your recovery.

    Alice
  • Love2Cats
    Love2Cats Member Posts: 127
    #4
    abrub said:

    Thank you!
    Our 30th was back in September, but we own a business and couldn't get away then. My husband decided that for his 60th (this May) we were going back to Japan, and make the trip a second honeymoon as well. Blast and darn! However, a few years ago, we didn't expect to celebrate our 30th. At one point I was "given" 2 years, maybe 3-5 if I was lucky. I'm coming up on 4 years, and now am being told to keep up the long term planning - I'm not going anywhere! (I guess that meant Japan, too :(

    We'll probably go kayaking for D's birthday, and maybe plan a few days in the Florida Keys for some snorkeling in the next couple of months. Big trips take time to plan - we'd been working on the Japan trip since the fall.

    I, too, have a beautiful family, tho my kids are a bit older than yours (24 and 28) and quite far afield (Taiwan and Washington State - I'm an East Coaster.) Wishing you well as you move forward in your recovery.

    Alice

    Have fun in the Keys
    Love the Fla Keys. Be sure to go swimming with the dolphins while you are there. When I went snorkeling there, I saw my first wild shark. It was a nurse shark, which are not listed as a dangerous species, but still it was thrilling.

    Congratulations on beating your 2 year diagnosis. They gave me 2 years also this last December, but I am doing my best to prove them wrong.

    Sandy
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #5
    Celebrate!
    Hey, Alice.

    I'm so sorry about your trip. Hope you can do something else lovely to celebrate your big day!

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #6
    Alice
    30 years, WOW, what a long marriage.
    I understand your disappointment, wowee, I'd be horribly disappointed. I'm glad you weren't there when it happened. There's always the bright side somewhere in that cloud lining.
    I hope you enjoy the heck out of your Florida vacation and it helps brighten the clouds that got in the way of your Japan trip.
    What an angel to think of donating to help with the Japanese disaster. But dear, please save plenty for your alternative vacation, 30 years of marriage and 60 years old, and you still being here, is sooooo WORTHY of some pamper time for both of you.
    Love to you,
    Winter Marie
  • CherylHutch
    CherylHutch Member Posts: 1,375 Member
    #7
    Happy Belated Anniversary!!
    Oh Alice... talk about a two-sided sword!! I'm so sorry that your second honeymoon/birthday/celebration plans had to be cancelled, but that doesn't take away the joy that you both have spent 30 wonderful years together... through the good, the bad, and the very scary health concerns. Yet, you are still here, ready to take off at a moment's notice to go anywhere in the world to celebrate you are still together, you are still celebrating birthdays and you have many more years of fun and happy times to enjoy and celebrate!!

    Somewhere, there has been a guardian angel (yes, I DO believe in angels!) looking out for you! Imagine if your trip had been planned for a month earlier? You would have been in Japan when this horrible tragedy occurred in Japan. I'm afraid to even ask where in Japan you were heading for and would you have been in the path of one of these tsunamis? Don't answer that... as it is, tunamis are my lifelong phobia/nightmare and I am living my nightmare out here in front of my eyes on television, NEWS, internet, etc. Even if you were not in the path of the earthquake/tsunami danger... there is now this whole meltdown of the nuclear plants. We here in North America are not getting the total truth of what's happening with the nuclear plants because of the difference in the two cultures. Here in North America, we are blunt and to the point... we want the facts, just the facts, don't sugar coat it, lives are in danger. In Japan, it is incredibly rude to be so brash and so blunt. They tend to talk around things and you have to sort of read between the lines. So to get the analysts from North America to be able to figure out what's going on to get the information from the Japanese Government/experts... it's quite the dance. Meanwhile... we DO know they have a catastrophic nuclear disaster on their hands... probably worse than Chernobyl, but we really don't have all the facts yet. So who is safe? Within 20 kms? 30 kms? 100 kms? Or is it a much, much, MUCH larger area?

    Alice, with all the various scans/xrays/etc you have had while fighting the Cancer monster... trust me, you don't need to be anywhere near a nuclear plant meltdown... and at this point, we don't even know how close is too close. Best to stay on this side of the pond :)

    Meanwhile, how very generous of you to donate some of the money that was to pay for your second honeymoon to help the people of Japan. I, too, have donated but only a small amount at the moment. I realize that once the media leaves Japan (doesn't look like that will happen in the foreseeable future), the cameras turn off, and the next "News" story takes place... the clean up and looking after of these wonderful people is going to be an ongoing thing, as it is in Haiti.... and for that matter, the Gulf and Louisanna, New Orleans, etc. The help is needed ongoing all the time ... so I make a point of donating to my favourite two charities that go to all the international disasters --- Canadian Red Cross and Doctors Without Borders. I'm sure we all have our favourites and the nice thing is... it doesn't matter who has what favourite... they all help unconditionally during these horrible natural disasters.

    So try not to be disappointed for too long, Alice. Totally understand that this was going to be a nostalgic trip as well as a huge celebration for two of you... but your angel is keeping you out of danger and you will still be able to have wonderful times together and leave work behind for a short time :)

    Cheryl
  • kristasplace
    kristasplace Member Posts: 957 Member
    #8
    oh, man...
    that's so sad! I can understand your disappointment. I pray that Japan is still there next year. Maybe you can go then? HAPPY ANNIVERSARY/BIRTHDAY, anyway!

    Hugs,
    Krista

    I pray that we're here next year, too! I wonder how much fallout we're really going to get if all those power plants melt?

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