Fears after treatment

weazer said:

Your New Normal
This is your new normal.
I have the same anxiety and fears as much of us do.
I beleave it will get better with time, but we will never be the way we were pryor to cancer.
I am two years out from my dx and still have pains and of course the fear that the beast might come back, but I'm getting too the point, to live and let live.
Spring is in the air which brings new birth, so try to keep your head up sister and if you ever need too talk your at the right place many BEAUTIFUL people hear.
Lots Of Hugs Karie

couldn't have put it any better
Couldn't have put it any better than Karie did, except to add that some days are better than others and all we can do is hope that we keep stringing those good days together so there's more of those than the scary ones.

I'm also 2 years out from dx and there are more good days than bad and I keep trying to remember that sometimes aches and pains are just that, especially at my age (57).

Good luck and feel free to vent any time here.

marge

Gabe N Abby Mom said:

I'm still in treatment, so I
I'm still in treatment, so I don't have any advice for you. But I do have cyber hugs and some pretty powerful mojo that I'll send your way.

Hugs,

Linda

Also 2 years out
I'm also 2 years out from diagnosis ... and it truly is our new normal. While I am 67 years old ... I still think every little ache or pain or any feeling out of the ordinary ... I'm just sure "it" is back. But ... then I tell myself that I am OLD ... and it's probably just normal aging ... and I just have to learn to live with my paranoia. It is what it is. I go for my regular checkups and mammograms ... so I just have to try and relax ... and not panic. That's all any of us can do. But ... if it gets to the point where you are REALLY concerned about something ... call you doctor.

Hugs.
teena

missrenee said:

I know how you feel, Stewy
I was diagnosed in Nov.'09. You're right--This disease does stink. Like some of the others--I have good days and bad days. Is it getting any better? Kinda--some days. I still find myself rolling my eyes when people around me fret about stupid, mundane things like a flat tire or a bad haircut or having a cold. I'm finding more than before diagnosis--the small things are just that--really small things. I don't seem to fret so much about the small things or the "bad" things that are happening in my life--comparatively speaking--they're not that bad.

On the other hand--I'm getting more joy from the good things--a hug from my loving husband, a good talk with my wonderful son, a sunset, a beautiful flower. I try to focus on those things. This is my "new normal" like it or not. I'm trying to embrace it.

Good luck to you on your journey, dear sister.

Hugs, Renee

Stewy; I know just how you
Stewy; I know just how you feel, finished treatment in October and it seemed like once I finished everyone expects you to just go back to the way things once were and that just doesnt happen. I get tired more easily than I used to and then I get asked why are you so tired. Trying to find the new normal is hard, something that we all have to find and it seems that it is different for all of us. You tend to notice every little pain and wonder is it coming back, and then I remember I had those pains before the cancer. I have noticed that I do not sweat the small stuff as much, and I try to laugh alot more and am told that I do. Dont let thing bother me quite as much either, it just isnt worth it anymore. I just try to enjoy life and embrace everyday that God has blessed me with. Unfortunatelly we do not know what lies ahead of us but we just need to take each day as it comes. At least that is what I do. I have learned to dance in the rain instead of just waiting for the storm to pass.

Hang in there, I am told as the days pass it gets a little easier. I know it will in time.

((((hugs))))
beetle

sorry you are going through this...
I really didnt' have this issue...but thought a suggestion of Journaling...would be of some help. SOMEONE gave me journal right away and then cancer center also...I ditn' think it would or did help...but some time after it all I LOOKED back through it and NOW I FEEL it was big help.

I had surgery (3 yrs ago this month) & 8 wks radiation-I was lucky and worked full time, no side effects to speak of (did treatments on my lunch-since work was not so nice as they started out) anyhow

HOW about therapist? I saw one on occassion at my cancer center..it helped (she even called my boss) and 3 yrs later I still stop in to see her when in the buidling for different doctor!

CypressCynthia said:

Journaling is a super idea.
Journaling is a super idea. I wish I had done that.

For me though, gardening works best. I have to be outside. I have semi-specialized in planting native plants (especially ones that provide for birds and wildlife). That makes my hobby all consuming ;-) as I really have to scrounge to find the exact plants that I want. I saved the most beautiful piece of spiderwort that was about to be bulldozed. I thought it was a goner, but now it is really thriving. It has the most vibrant blue flowers--much prettier than one I had mail ordered.

You can see this is a passion for me. Find YOUR passion--it really helps. But, if it all gets to be too muc, please let your doctor know.

And now, I have about 100 bedding plants and 2000 seeds to plant. I know I'm crazy Kindreds, but the weather is so lovely!

Cynthia@
I kill anything with roots...so good thing I used my Journals....