Struggling

caseyj
caseyj Member Posts: 29
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I have Small Intestine cancer they found it in September when they did surgery. I got better they been doing test blood work to make sure its not back. then I started having stomach pains. Its like I am right back where I started before I got sick. I went to see the surgeon about the pains he was so mean he said suck it up deal with the pain. he said I can't open you up everytime you have a belly pain. I only went to him once when they found the cancer its not like I go to him all the time for stomach pain. I was so mad. I am having a hard time dealing with the cancer and I feel so alone I don't talk about cancer much I keep how I feel inside its hard sometimes to talk but writing better but it gets pretty alone. Sometimes I think I don't want to go through this alone I mean I have family and they help with doctors and all but It's like I don't have the emotional support. I keep how I feel inside.

Casey

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  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
    #2
    Casey
    So sorry to hear your having problems. Did you have any chemo or radiation treatments? I can't believe your doctor told you to suck it up! Maybe you should go for a second opinion someplace. Try talking to your family and tell them how you feel. Don't try and go through this alone. Also maybe you could go see a counselor to help you deal with this.
    My husband died last March and he had only been sick 2 months. He had a rare reaction to one of his chemos (Avastin) and hemorraged. It was a horrible death and I had a very hard time dealing with it. I went to a counselor from April till February of this year. Also was on meds which I'm now finished with but it helped alot.
    I'm sure once you have cancer, it's common to think everytime you have a pain that it's back.
    You just keep coming here to vent, we're all here to support you & help you make it through.
    Take care Casey! "Carole"
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #3
    New Doctor
    Find a new dr. Also, ask someone to go with you for your next appointment. It always helps to have someone else listening to what the dr. says. I can't believe how many times my husband and I heard different things at his appointments. Good luck in your future treatments. Fay
  • tears2overcome
    tears2overcome Member Posts: 98
    #4
    grandmafay said:

    New Doctor
    Find a new dr. Also, ask someone to go with you for your next appointment. It always helps to have someone else listening to what the dr. says. I can't believe how many times my husband and I heard different things at his appointments. Good luck in your future treatments. Fay

    Hey CaseyJ
    I sure know how you feel. Although just recently my doc said something I didn't like, I blame him now for breaking my spirit. I am learning to get it back. I am keeping my same doc only cuz I have heard and no he's best of the best in my area. He's never had a bad bed side manner,which shocked me. I will see him a week or so and face to face will tell him what he did. In meantime you know Im on reoccurance treatment only in remission for about 7 months and I was so proud of myself. I hated the thot of reoccurance then and hate it now. I am a very strong fighter but now Im struggling to rebuild what I had. I will get there one day and so will you,if you believe in yourself,friends and family. U are blessed unlike me I have no family around me, or even close, I have my husband whom actually we are separted but he came around to help me thru first round, he is here again helping me thru.
    Who likes to talk about cancer all the time I sure don't, it can get depressing and a downer. We know we have it and we know its always going to be in the back of our minds....but we do try and go on.......
    Find what it is that makes you happy, a new doctor or be honest with the one you have and tell him his words are disappointing and not supportingh. Do what you have to ...bring your smile back.....
    All the best now and always.......
  • caseyj
    caseyj Member Posts: 29
    #5
    3Mana said:

    Casey
    So sorry to hear your having problems. Did you have any chemo or radiation treatments? I can't believe your doctor told you to suck it up! Maybe you should go for a second opinion someplace. Try talking to your family and tell them how you feel. Don't try and go through this alone. Also maybe you could go see a counselor to help you deal with this.
    My husband died last March and he had only been sick 2 months. He had a rare reaction to one of his chemos (Avastin) and hemorraged. It was a horrible death and I had a very hard time dealing with it. I went to a counselor from April till February of this year. Also was on meds which I'm now finished with but it helped alot.
    I'm sure once you have cancer, it's common to think everytime you have a pain that it's back.
    You just keep coming here to vent, we're all here to support you & help you make it through.
    Take care Casey! "Carole"

    Thank You
    Thank you and yes I found another family doctor. My cancer doctor is sending me on test for Monday then on Wednday will find out results but I been hurting with stomach pain over a month Wednesday wil get results thanks.
  • caseyj
    caseyj Member Posts: 29
    #6
    tears2overcome said:

    Hey CaseyJ
    I sure know how you feel. Although just recently my doc said something I didn't like, I blame him now for breaking my spirit. I am learning to get it back. I am keeping my same doc only cuz I have heard and no he's best of the best in my area. He's never had a bad bed side manner,which shocked me. I will see him a week or so and face to face will tell him what he did. In meantime you know Im on reoccurance treatment only in remission for about 7 months and I was so proud of myself. I hated the thot of reoccurance then and hate it now. I am a very strong fighter but now Im struggling to rebuild what I had. I will get there one day and so will you,if you believe in yourself,friends and family. U are blessed unlike me I have no family around me, or even close, I have my husband whom actually we are separted but he came around to help me thru first round, he is here again helping me thru.
    Who likes to talk about cancer all the time I sure don't, it can get depressing and a downer. We know we have it and we know its always going to be in the back of our minds....but we do try and go on.......
    Find what it is that makes you happy, a new doctor or be honest with the one you have and tell him his words are disappointing and not supportingh. Do what you have to ...bring your smile back.....
    All the best now and always.......

    Thank you its hard sometimes
    Thank you its hard sometimes when you feel so sick sometimes I get so tired of being sick. I am just starting to write my story and am grateful for my family and friends buts its hard and I know I need to get it out. thank you I will get back with you and write more to let you know how I am doing I have 2 test next week and get resuklts on wednesday and then he will decided what to do thanks,


    casey
  • Ladyjo
    Ladyjo Member Posts: 8
    #7
    Get a GOOD doctor
    Casey, I was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma in November and my family dr. sent me to an oncologist who she knew personally. She knew that he was an optomist and was an encouragement to all his patients and also had a good success rate. I've been going to him for 3 months and at this point will have my 5th round of chemo tomorrow. He has been so encouraging, celebrating every bit of good news that he has for me and if there is a problem he deals with it without acting like the grim reaper. If it weren't for his wonderful attitude and the total support and help from my husband I don't know if I could get through this. Find a doctor who treats you like a person. You owe that to yourself; you need someone who both celebrates your advances and works hard to fix the problems while at the same time encouraging you to keep up your hopes.
  • caseyj
    caseyj Member Posts: 29
    #8
    Ladyjo said:

    Get a GOOD doctor
    Casey, I was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma in November and my family dr. sent me to an oncologist who she knew personally. She knew that he was an optomist and was an encouragement to all his patients and also had a good success rate. I've been going to him for 3 months and at this point will have my 5th round of chemo tomorrow. He has been so encouraging, celebrating every bit of good news that he has for me and if there is a problem he deals with it without acting like the grim reaper. If it weren't for his wonderful attitude and the total support and help from my husband I don't know if I could get through this. Find a doctor who treats you like a person. You owe that to yourself; you need someone who both celebrates your advances and works hard to fix the problems while at the same time encouraging you to keep up your hopes.

    Thank You
    Thank You I did find another doctor which is a family doctor. My Oncologist He is so good and my family like him alot. The family doctor that I just got he is really nice and he is the first doctor that asked me how I was dealing with the cancer. I go tommorrow for tests so I am glad have a better doctor. thanks
  • caseyj
    caseyj Member Posts: 29
    #9
    3Mana said:

    Casey
    So sorry to hear your having problems. Did you have any chemo or radiation treatments? I can't believe your doctor told you to suck it up! Maybe you should go for a second opinion someplace. Try talking to your family and tell them how you feel. Don't try and go through this alone. Also maybe you could go see a counselor to help you deal with this.
    My husband died last March and he had only been sick 2 months. He had a rare reaction to one of his chemos (Avastin) and hemorraged. It was a horrible death and I had a very hard time dealing with it. I went to a counselor from April till February of this year. Also was on meds which I'm now finished with but it helped alot.
    I'm sure once you have cancer, it's common to think everytime you have a pain that it's back.
    You just keep coming here to vent, we're all here to support you & help you make it through.
    Take care Casey! "Carole"

    Carole,
    Thanks
    Carole,
    Thanks yeah it does help to come on here and talk because I don't talk alot about and I know I need to get it out. Its so hard for me They keep sending me on test after test. I have another one tommorrow then see the Oncologist on wednesday and see what he says. I am sorry that you lost your husband I know that has to be hard. My family don't live here but have people in the church but its still hard for me to talk about it and its now after months fromn the surgery where its sinking in. I am trying to find a support group here buts theres none. well I like coming on here it helps me vent.

    casey

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