A Early New Survivor of IDC Breast Cancer

Daisy45

I had gotten diagnosed with IDC from high grade dcis 3 in September and then I had a lumpectomy surgery in October didn't have clear margins so 7 weeks ago from tomorrow I had to go through a bilateral masectomy. Due to that I got free from cancer and at my last appointment with the surgeon she was like with a slip on the mind said that she could have gotten the rest amount in the reexcision that I didn't really need to have a masectomy ten days after it was already done. I thought it was pretty insensitive and inappropriate. I did not get any reconstruction and even without the reconstruction I did not realize that how much struggle I would have with a masectomy. As I had my son with me for the first week but he didn't think that I would be in my room earlier on after surgery so when I woke up from surgery I Woke up To No One being there so I think that it motivated me to get to be out of the hospital because I didn't want to be Family Alone as he was like much better being with me when I had my hysterectomy in October 2024. He did show up later on. So I got to go home the day of my masectomy. My son did help me out with the drains for four days and I got to get rid of them on the 4 th day after surgery the day before he had to go back to his college stuff that is a couple hours away. On day 10 I didn't have to wear my compression brace anymore. The sad thing is that I would have loved to get some meal help but I don't think that people thought this type of surgery was going to be tough so I have spent most of the two months just ordering food from door dash and Uber eats. As without drains I still had arm stretching struggling just to try to get a plate in the microwave and out . I only had like one cousin but me a meal as a door dash gift meal, a cousin that sent me a gift box, a friend who got me and my son a Pizza. A friend who dropped off a meal for me and my son.That was it only on the first week of my recovery. Then these two family friends invited me to eat breakfast out when I was like only three weeks post masectomy and I had to sit down in a chair with no support and no arm rests plus get this I had to Pay for my Breakfast.

I did have one great family friend that helped me out with transportation to appointments and to the store. She did get me meals after my appointments but it was like just when I had them and just once a week even helped me out with play shows to get to.

The plays were a bit distracting and gave me some laughs as I needed it but it was so sore and tough to be in the theater chair for so long.

I am almost 49 years old and my parents have passed away and we don't have any grandparents even my son doesn't have a grandpa or grandma when he is only 21. My mom Three years ago passed away from terminal brain, lung and bone cancer and my dad passed away 38 years ago.

I do have my brother but not one to come to check in on me when he is like only five minutes away.

It's like me who did the updating to people but I didn't get asked how things are and it is annoying.

I don't get visitors because I have been living in a not well maintained and to low income place that just doesn't make people comfortable with visitors. Plus I don't feel comfortable with having people in my apartment because I would have loved people to visit with me but my place just is a fall apart poor place.

I wish that I had a better place but I don't.

I just remain alone with just my 6 pets Peaches Three years old cat, Guinea Pigs Miss Coco Coconut, Toffee, Scooter, Mocha and S'mores.

My son does come to visit with me when he is able to as I am hoping that he will be here during his spring break next month.

I did get finished with PT on Wednesday so I am like going to be trying to get back to doing a little bit of gym to help me out with my moods and to get me back in motion to hopefully physically help me out.