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I wish I could call him or see him

Elfshark
Elfshark CSN Member Posts: 1 Member

My brother died a few weeks ago from brain cancer. He was taking care of our elderly mother. I had to go get her soon after his death and put her in assisted living. I've been talking to lawyers about her situation and how to afford assisted living. It's insane how much it costs or even how much the lawyers want to even help. It's a complicated situation and I find myself feeling all alone. My brother and used to talk about our family and our Mom. I wish I could talk to him about this. It felt like we were the only ones that understood Mom and what she is going through. I've also felt like I haven't had a chance to really grieve the loss of my brother because of everything I have to do now to take care of Mom. It feels like a lot and I wake up every day feeling nauseous. It's hard to eat. I get angry at my kids when they don't help out more or throw their teen drama around the house like it is the end of the world. The best I feel I can do right now is to tell myself to deal with each day at a time.