Survivor Leadership Statement: “What Are You Bringing?

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I learned early on: document everything, keep your eye on the ball, ask the right questions, and listen—really listen. You don’t have all the answers. And if you think you do, you’re not doing the job.

I’m not here to speak for every survivor. I’m here to change the conditions so we can all speak, be heard, and be remembered. I’m trying to bring us all to the table.

Years ago, I was asked in an interview: “We’re having a dinner party—what are you bringing?” I didn’t answer with a dish. I asked what was being served. Because if the main course is steak, you don’t bring another meat—you bring a dessert or a vegetable. You complement the meal. You listen, observe, and respond with intention.

That interviewer wasn’t asking about food. He was asking: Do you notice what’s needed? Do you take initiative? Do you understand your role in the system? Are you a driving force—or just another voice in the room?

Survivorship taught me that. You don’t outshine the truth—you amplify it. You don’t dominate the table—you make space for others. And you don’t wait to be asked—you show up prepared.