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Hope66G
Hope66G CSN Member Posts: 9 Member
in Lung Cancer #1

Hello,

Have you encountered any family member(s) who grill you about your condition, your treatments, etc. or the person you're caring for, in such a way that after the conversation, you feel…worse? I am wondering how to shut down such discussions, w/o being rude. Any tips? Can you relate? Thanks…

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  • eDivebuddy
    eDivebuddy CSN Member Posts: 157 Member
    #2

    haven’t personally experienced that, so I can’t truly say I understand what it feels like
    But maybe try just setting boundaries ahead of time. Something like,

    “I know you care, but right now I really need a break from all the cancer talk."

    Or

    "Thanks for asking, but I really need to get my mind off all this medical talk."

    Hopefully someone with more direct experience can chime in.

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  • Hope66G
    Hope66G CSN Member Posts: 9 Member
    #3

    I just don't appreciate being "interrogated," like I'm some sort of criminal on trial, etc.

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  • Gina_lynn
    Gina_lynn CSN Member Posts: 1 Member
    #4

    During my treatment and post surgery, my sister would ask me questions that I just didn’t want to answer. I knew the concern was coming from a place of love, but it was like I was trying to make her feel better about my cancer. I chose to limit access which is probably not the best way to handle this but it helped me to concentrate on my recovery.

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