Support/ghosting

waken420bacon
waken420bacon CSN Member Posts: 2 Member
in Emotional Support #1

Hello all, I'm kinda new to this forum. I was diagnosed back in 2023 with testicular cancer, I had my testicle removed shortly after finding out. I still needed chemo because there was another mass on my lymph nodes farther up sitting on my urethra which made me have to get another surgery a few months after I got done with chemo. This surgery was the worst of everything, they told me it was supposed to be 4-6 hours and it ended up being a 12 hour surgery with complications afterwards that I had to deal with for another month or so.

Going through chemo was one of the hardest things for me with all this thinking back. I would see everyone else with someone else whether it be a significant other, husband/wife, friend, kids; but not me 95 percent of the time I was alone and to hear people say "I will come sit with you" and never show up kills me to this day. I just wish I had more support going through all this. The mental aspect of this afterwords is the hardest thing for me to deal with.

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  • Paul_Cancer_Survivor
    Paul_Cancer_Survivor CSN Member Posts: 11 Member
    #2

    Good Morning, Waken.

    Yes, our lives sure change as we battle cancer. I am a 7 year survivor and learn this lesson in new ways every day.

    There are no silver bullets. Our true friends will remain and perhaps we will grow even closer. Fair weather friends will fade away.

    We can't be envious or jealous of people with better health. We have no control over this and these thoughts do us no good.

    Best wishes.

  • mak1970
    mak1970 CSN Member Posts: 17 Member
    #3
    https://csn.cancer.org/discussion/329407/support-ghosting

    I am so sorry you have to go through this and alone no less. I had no one, 100% on my own including driving myself. Try not to dwell on it and really be thankful for the time a friend did show up. You will get through this.

  • NowwhatinSC
    NowwhatinSC CSN Member Posts: 15 Member
    #4

    Hi Baconfriend! I'm sorry you had to go through that by yourself! I know it's hard to even have the thought that inevitably run through our crazy brains but you've already taken the first step to find some support. That's awesome. My bestie did the same as soon as I had my surgery and I'm glad I don't have to worry about her drama anymore. Lol thank goodness for these places, I'm literally just starting and already feel better. Physically and spiritually I'm doing fine but I'm at a loss about actual daily life right now. I would love to meet some new friends

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