Post radical prostatectomy sex.

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Weswill
Weswill Member Posts: 2
edited June 2024 in Prostate Cancer #1

Six weeks ago, I had a radical prostatectomy due to prostate cancer. After my resent doctor's appointment (over the phone) he gave me the green light to have sex. My question is, what will it be like? Will having an orgasm be painful? Will getting and maintaining an erection be a problem? What consideration should I bestow upon my partner as we both explore something that is new to the both of us? Before the prostatectomy, I loved giving and receiving oral sex, is this still possible? Please I would appreciate any feedback on these questions and anything that I may have overlooked concerning this topic.
Thanks.

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  • Rob.Ski
    Rob.Ski CSN Member Posts: 191 Member

    Most of these questions you can answer yourself. How continent are you? Some people leak with orgasm so, you might want to know that before hand. Otherwise, if things are working, it can be like before with less mess. If you have ED, depends on how bad it is. Viagra may be in order. For some that isn't enough.

    I didn't have any pain or leakage.

  • Clevelandguy
    Clevelandguy CSN Member Posts: 1,336 Member

    Hi,

    You will find out when you have sex what works and what doesn’t. Don’t be surprised if you have no erection at all for a while, it could take months. Folks here have reported weeks to months to never, everyone is different. Good luck exploring……..

    Dave 3+4

  • Marlon
    Marlon CSN Member Posts: 179 Member

    I haven't had it yet, but my doctor told me that since the prostate makes the majority of fluid, orgasms would be mostly dry. But you can still have them as sex is mostly in your head. But don't be afraid of needing viagra or cialis.

  • Steve1961
    Steve1961 CSN Member Posts: 692 Member

    why sont you find out for yourself and report back .. seems like you’re more worried about sex than you are if the cancer is gone

  • centralPA
    centralPA CSN Member Posts: 417 Member

    Worth a read…

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7705983/#:~:text=One%20of%20these%20complications%20gaining,being%20closer%20to%20approximately%2030%25.
  • CraigGrant
    CraigGrant CSN Member Posts: 4 Member

    This is more of a comment about myself. Hello, Had radical prostatectomy in August of 2024, getting close to a year later and I am still having issues with incontinence and I am very disappointed in the erections I have had post surgery. When I take 20mg of cialis and use a penile pump I can get a fairly descent erection, I have had something that feels similar to an orgasm which I usually have leakage at the same time. I would say it is 15% of an original one. I have been using a vibrator to achieve this. I am saddened by this because I really enjoyed having an orgasm prior to surgery. I suffer from anxiety and depression and haven’t felt the best these last month because I am getting close to a year since surgery and I thought I would have improved. Any help would be deeply appreciated.
    Thanks

  • Wheel
    Wheel CSN Member Posts: 243 Member

    Craig,

    You are just coming up on a year.it sounds like the Cialis is a big help. Sex will not be the same. One analogy was prior to the prostatectomy your volcano would erupt spewing lava. Now it still can erupt but no lava spurting out. It still feels good. I don’t know your age, but for me in my early 70’s my days, months, years ? were numbered anyway. Most in their 70’s are having issues prior to any prostatectomy but likely would not admit it, that is why the millions and millions of Cialis and Viagra prescription’s. Don’t let anyone fool you that their sex life is always coming up roses. Try not to get depressed. My wife and I both still play around like when she was a virgin so we both can still feel good.