Hello friends

jen2012
jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1

Its been a long time since I've been here and I just started thinking of you all.   I'm happy to see there are still some folks here that I remember :)

This April will be 2 years since my husband died.  I stayed around for a while to lend support to others, but when Jeff Anderson passed I realized I needed to move on.   I'm happy to still connect with AA on FB :)

Yesterday was my husband's birthday. Or should I say yesterday would have been my late husband's birthday??  I still cant say late husband..sounds so odd to me.    It was such a hard day, but today feels lighter.   Our kids are now 20, 17 and 6 and it's been a difficult almost 2 years, but I've managed to keep us busy and moving and distracted and I'm not sure if that's been the right way to handle it.  I don't really know what the right way is.  Life should come with better instructions.

I'm happy to see trubrit and Phil and Tans still posting.  I haven't gone through many posts to see who else is here, but I do think of you all and pray for a cure.  

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  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    edited February 2018 #2
    Hi Jen:

    I remember you well.   My George passed away shortly after you joined.  Unfortunately, many who were active when you and I were are no longer with us.  John23 and Pete Lost At Sea have also passed away.  I am with you, I wish life came with better instructions to get through the very difficult times.  I hope you children are doing well and moving on with their lives.  Our lives, well, sometimes I wonder if they will ever feel normal again.  I can tell you as time passes it does get a little easier, but the lonely days and evenings persist.  I find things like going to a wedding, going out for dinner, holidays by yourself the hardest.  Being invited out to dinner is so nice but not when you are the only single in the group, everyone else is a couple.  I am still in contact with Living in NH (Cynthia) and we text and talk often.  She is doing well. 

    I wish you and your family the best.   Life as we knew it changed for us but please remember to keep on living.   I do not dwell on my George's death like I used to.  I used to question if I did everything possible.  After time I realized, yes I did do everything I could and so did his doctors.

    Take care - Tina

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #3
    Hi Tina - I remember you well

    Hi Tina - I remember you well also!  For the most part, we are happy.  I try to stay positive and keep the smile on my face, even when I don't feel it.   But like you said, those social events could be horrible.   

    Tell Cyn I said hi - I miss her!  

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #4
    jen2012 said:

    Hi Tina - I remember you well

    Hi Tina - I remember you well also!  For the most part, we are happy.  I try to stay positive and keep the smile on my face, even when I don't feel it.   But like you said, those social events could be horrible.   

    Tell Cyn I said hi - I miss her!  

    Hi!!

    Hi Jen!!  So nice to hear from you, it’s been much toon long since we connected.  I’m very glad that you and your lovely family are doing well.  I’ve missed our chats. I’m doing ok like Tina mentioned, still taking care of Mom, but I’ve called in hospice for a little extra care. Please tell Ann I said hi too!  Love, Cyn

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #5
    Sorry

    Sorry for your loss and thankful that you came back on this board 2 years later. It's sometimes very difficult for a spouse to come back on and give an update about themselves after all they've been through.  Glad that you are moving on but I'm sure difficult.  Wishing you the best.

    Kim

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #6
    geotina said:

    Hi Jen:

    I remember you well.   My George passed away shortly after you joined.  Unfortunately, many who were active when you and I were are no longer with us.  John23 and Pete Lost At Sea have also passed away.  I am with you, I wish life came with better instructions to get through the very difficult times.  I hope you children are doing well and moving on with their lives.  Our lives, well, sometimes I wonder if they will ever feel normal again.  I can tell you as time passes it does get a little easier, but the lonely days and evenings persist.  I find things like going to a wedding, going out for dinner, holidays by yourself the hardest.  Being invited out to dinner is so nice but not when you are the only single in the group, everyone else is a couple.  I am still in contact with Living in NH (Cynthia) and we text and talk often.  She is doing well. 

    I wish you and your family the best.   Life as we knew it changed for us but please remember to keep on living.   I do not dwell on my George's death like I used to.  I used to question if I did everything possible.  After time I realized, yes I did do everything I could and so did his doctors.

    Take care - Tina

    Tina

    So good to see your post.  I'm glad that you are moving on and still letting us know how you are doing.  Wishing you the best in the future.  You were always such a great contributor on this board. 

    Hugs!  Kim

  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    #7
    Welcome back

      I hope time is easing your loss. Wishing you the best for the future. Ron.

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #8
    LivinginNH said:

    Hi!!

    Hi Jen!!  So nice to hear from you, it’s been much toon long since we connected.  I’m very glad that you and your lovely family are doing well.  I’ve missed our chats. I’m doing ok like Tina mentioned, still taking care of Mom, but I’ve called in hospice for a little extra care. Please tell Ann I said hi too!  Love, Cyn

    Hi Cyn!!   Going to message

    Hi Cyn!!   Going to message you :)

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #9
    Annabelle41415 said:

    Sorry

    Sorry for your loss and thankful that you came back on this board 2 years later. It's sometimes very difficult for a spouse to come back on and give an update about themselves after all they've been through.  Glad that you are moving on but I'm sure difficult.  Wishing you the best.

    Kim

    Thanks Kim - Good to see you

    Thanks Kim - Good to see you still here.  You are always such a sweet and kind cheerleader!

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #10
    ron50 said:

    Welcome back

      I hope time is easing your loss. Wishing you the best for the future. Ron.

    Thanks Ron.  I hope you are

    Thanks Ron.  I hope you are doing well.   Nice to see some familiar faces still around.

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #11
    I'm sad to hear that John and

    I'm sad to hear that John and Pete have passed.  They both surely put up a good fight.

     

    Are Cathleen Mary, Wolfen & Danker still posting?

  • tanstaafl
    tanstaafl Member Posts: 1,313 Member
    #12
    hi

    Thanks for thinking of us. My best wshes for you and your family.  

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #13
    jen2012 said:

    I'm sad to hear that John and

    I'm sad to hear that John and Pete have passed.  They both surely put up a good fight.

     

    Are Cathleen Mary, Wolfen & Danker still posting?

    Hello Jen

    What a treat to see your name pop up. 

    Life will never be what it should have been. What we all dream of, growing old with our loved one, and watching the children grow into adults and make their own lives. I am glad though, that you get to watch them grow, in spite of the bitter-sweet of doing it alone.

     

    It has been a while since I have read anything from Cathleen Mary and Wolfen, and I miss them both. Such good women, and so many posts that have helped people along their own journey.   Danker on the other hand, posts often, and is doing very well. He is my hero, and our most senior member on this forum.  I'm sure he will see your post soon. 

    I wish you well as you move forward. Living with the joy of watching your children grow. 

    Cyber hugs! 

    Tru

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