Hi, I'm new here. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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Jack Catalano
Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
edited December 2017 in Uterine/Endometrial Cancer #1

My mom has been in the hospital since late July. She had uterine cancer which was taken out in early August. She was in ICU for 4 1/2 weeks. Now, she's been back and forth beteween The Hospital and Rehab. Now, to make a long story short, my mom isn't in good shape. They said she's probably going to die. Here's my problem/questions. She has blood clot in her legs and lungs and her kidneys are failing and the cancer is back and spreading. Do you think there is ANY CHANCE my mother can survive? I did hear maybe going for chemotherapy but I have a feeling if she does that it will kill her. But can it work? Is there a flicker or gliimmer of hope that she can at least pull through? Or should I  just accept The Doctors prognosis and accept she's going to die?

 

Please help. 

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  • TeddyandBears_Mom
    TeddyandBears_Mom Member Posts: 1,814 Member
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    Jack, So sorry to hear about

    Jack, So sorry to hear about your Mom. Your questions are not easy to answer. We are not doctors and our comments on this board are based mostly on our own experiences. Your Mom sounds like she is in really bad health and that she may not be strong enough to go through the chemo. I can tell you, it isn't easy on our bodies. I hope you have a good rapport with her doctors and can ask them to help guide you. There is always hope. And, I believe her doctors will provide you the best options for her.

    Your Mom is lucky to have you by her side. I'm sure she feels better just knowing you are there to support her.

    Take care and please come back with questions or let us know how she is doing.

    Love and Hugs,

    Cindi

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
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    Thank You Cindi for answering

    Thank You Cindi for answering and I'm glad your ok. 

  • NoTimeForCancer
    NoTimeForCancer Member Posts: 3,388 Member
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    Dear Jack, I am so sorry to

    Dear Jack, I am so sorry to hear about your mom.  She really has a lot going on and that is never easy.  I think Cindi hit it all on the head and I agree she is so lucky to have such a loving and caring son.  

    It is hard to watch the ones we love suffer but I am sure she loves having you with her.  

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
    edited December 2017 #5
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    Thank you. We are going to

    Thank you. We are going to see The Doctors on Monday to see our available options.  I hope she is strong enough for chemo or even dialysis.

  • Northwoodsgirl
    Northwoodsgirl Member Posts: 571
    edited December 2017 #6
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    Your Mom

    Jack, You are a brave and strong son. Your Mom and her doctors, nurses and other medical professionals are doing everything they can to help your Mom out of this crisis.  Treatments and protocols for cancer have a lot is standardization to it and sometimes there are variations to the treatments based on the individual‘s co-existing conditions that make treatment difficult. This is likely the case for your Mom.  Many of us on this discussion board will keep your Mom and you in our prayers.  Hope is something you share with your Mom. Please take care of yourself so you can be there for your Mom.  I am glad you found this discussion board. Please check in again to let us know how you and your Mom are doing. 

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
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    That's very nice of you even

    That's very nice of you even though I just joined the board today. I thank you for keeping my mom in your prayers.

  • dgrdalton
    dgrdalton Member Posts: 161 Member
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    So sorry for what you and

    So sorry for what you and your mom are going through. Prayers for you both. 

  • Avidreader
    Avidreader Member Posts: 4
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    to please help me

    Hi Jack, I'm sorry for what you and your mom are going through. And I understand it as that is the battle I am waging. I have recurrent uterine cancer and have been on chemotherapy since April. My doctor calls it "recurrent." The paliative care team calls it "terminal." So, I hope and pray for the best outcome, a total healing, and enjoy friends and family. In the meantime I try to consider and do the things that will make it easier for my family if I die in the next few months. But basically we are all in denial and cannot consider that while I look fine, I could be dying. It's such a paradox. If your mother can still make decisions for herself, ask her how to handle things. What is important to her now, if these are her final days/months/year? Be positive. Miracles happen.

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
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    My mom passed away this past

    My mom passed away this past Sunday. I'm sorry I didn't get back to you as it's been crazy. Ironically, at 2:20pm in room 220. She was at Hospice for 4 days before she died. It was pretty sad to your mom not know where she is and can't even talk. I'm not even that sad as I've been preparing for this for about 10 days. She didn't suffer which was a good thing as she's suffered enough. She was at peace.

     

    Avidreader, I felt the same way. On December 7, I found out she was going to die and ever since then I've been in a fog. Also, Avidreader, I send you tons of strength and prayers and positive thoughts your way.Smile

  • ckdgedmom
    ckdgedmom Member Posts: 166 Member
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    My mom passed away this past

    My mom passed away this past Sunday. I'm sorry I didn't get back to you as it's been crazy. Ironically, at 2:20pm in room 220. She was at Hospice for 4 days before she died. It was pretty sad to your mom not know where she is and can't even talk. I'm not even that sad as I've been preparing for this for about 10 days. She didn't suffer which was a good thing as she's suffered enough. She was at peace.

     

    Avidreader, I felt the same way. On December 7, I found out she was going to die and ever since then I've been in a fog. Also, Avidreader, I send you tons of strength and prayers and positive thoughts your way.Smile

    So sorry

    So very very sorry for your loss...very hard to lose your mom and most especially at this time of year...

    Glad she didn't suffer at the end and is now at peace and without pain...

    prayers for you and your family

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
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    Thank You.

    Thank You.

  • CheeseQueen57
    CheeseQueen57 Member Posts: 933 Member
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    So sorry

    So sorry for the loss of your mother, especially this time of year. May God wrap his arms around you. 

  • ConnieSW
    ConnieSW Member Posts: 1,681 Member
    edited December 2017 #14
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    Jack,

    Thank you for letting us know. I've been wondering about you both.  Take care. 

  • evolo58
    evolo58 Member Posts: 293 Member
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    I am so, so sorry to read of

    I am so, so sorry to read of your loss.

  • NoTimeForCancer
    NoTimeForCancer Member Posts: 3,388 Member
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    My mom passed away this past

    My mom passed away this past Sunday. I'm sorry I didn't get back to you as it's been crazy. Ironically, at 2:20pm in room 220. She was at Hospice for 4 days before she died. It was pretty sad to your mom not know where she is and can't even talk. I'm not even that sad as I've been preparing for this for about 10 days. She didn't suffer which was a good thing as she's suffered enough. She was at peace.

     

    Avidreader, I felt the same way. On December 7, I found out she was going to die and ever since then I've been in a fog. Also, Avidreader, I send you tons of strength and prayers and positive thoughts your way.Smile

    Jack, I am so sorry to hear

    Jack, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom.  

  • TeddyandBears_Mom
    TeddyandBears_Mom Member Posts: 1,814 Member
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    Jack, I'm so sorry for the

    Jack, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. I hope you can find peace and comfort knowing that you brought her strength and love when she needed it. She is pain free now. May she rest in peace. Thank you for coming back and letting us know.

    Love and Hugs,

    Cindi

  • Soup52
    Soup52 Member Posts: 908 Member
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    Prayers to you Jack. I’m so

    Prayers to you Jack. I’m so sorry about your mom’s passing.

  • dgrdalton
    dgrdalton Member Posts: 161 Member
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    So sorry

    Jack, so sorry you lost your mom. Prayers for you and family.

  • Jack Catalano
    Jack Catalano Member Posts: 16
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    Thank You Everyone. The thing

    Thank You Everyone. The thing is that I'm not even sad because I have NO REGRETS. We were there for her for 5 months in The Hospital. Plus, not to mention, the 5 Years I helped take care of her. I was stretched everyway possible. I feel good because like I said I have NO REGRETS. If I did, I'd be more upset but I'm glad I did it. I just can't wait for The Holidays to end.

  • DKK
    DKK Member Posts: 8
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    I understand about wanting the holidays to end,

    my Dad died of prostate cancer on Chrstmas Eve 2005....,