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debrajo
debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member

Ladies, I am seriously getting worried about Moli!  She has not posted since the day before surgery.  Nothing public or private that I can find!  If anyone has heard, just give us a thumbs up!  Moli, if you are reading this, I am on the hunt for you!  
God, I miss Alexandra and her KGB skills!  Debra

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  • TeddyandBears_Mom
    TeddyandBears_Mom Member Posts: 1,814 Member
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    I was thinking about her this

    I was thinking about her this morning as well Deb.  Now, she did say that if something happened she had arrangements for someone to let us know. So, I'm counting on no news being good news and that her major major surgeries "just" knocked her on her butt.

  • Editgrl
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    I'm not worried yet...  I

    I'm not worried yet...  I agree with Cindi.  She's had major surgery and could still be well out of it on pain meds, etc.  Holding her close and waiting to hear.

  • ConnieSW
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    Editgrl said:

    I'm not worried yet...  I

    I'm not worried yet...  I agree with Cindi.  She's had major surgery and could still be well out of it on pain meds, etc.  Holding her close and waiting to hear.

    I agree

    alexandra had the same surgery and she said it was really rough.

  • Abbycat2
    Abbycat2 Member Posts: 644 Member
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    I keep checking to see if Moli has posted

     She is probably so sedated and not really able to communicate with us yet. Looking forward to hearing from Moli soon.

  • Editgrl
    Editgrl Member Posts: 903 Member
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    I picture us all

    I picture us all in this virtual waiting room...

     

  • Lou Ann M
    Lou Ann M Member Posts: 996 Member
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    Thinking of you, Moli.

    Hugs and hugs and lots of prayers headed your way Let us know when you can and in the mean time dream of Moli in the bikini. Sending love, Lou Ann

  • debrajo
    debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member
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    Editgrl said:

    I picture us all

    I picture us all in this virtual waiting room...

     

    Chris

    That's exactly how I feel!  Not good at waiting...my mind goes to places it shouldn't.  Really, for me, the worst part of this whole cancer journey has been the endless waiting for everything!  Debra

  • Sandy3185
    Sandy3185 Member Posts: 229 Member
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    Editgrl said:

    I picture us all

    I picture us all in this virtual waiting room...

     

    That's it exactly!

    As always on this journey the waiting is the hardest part! Moli we're all here in the waiting room rooting for you and inpatient as H***!

  • EZLiving66
    EZLiving66 Member Posts: 1,483 Member
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    I'm worried too!!  I went to

    I'm worried too!!  I went to sleep last night thinking that for sure, she'll have posted this morning.  I keep telling myself she's probably out shopping for that thong bikini.  I sure hope she's ok and just too tired to visit right now (((Moli))).

    Love,

    Eldri

  • Abbycat2
    Abbycat2 Member Posts: 644 Member
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    This is becoming more difficult, as Debra and Sandy said

    "The waiting is the worse part of cancer!" Oh, dear, dear Moli, please let us know how you are doing? We are hoping and praying that you are recovering from your surgery. Know that if we could be there with you, we would be! I have come to know you, understand you and your circumstances and have come to love you, as you have been there for each of us in our darkest hours and you have unfailingly protected your girls from knowing about your condition. I get it, even though it took me much contemplation to grasp why you took this position.

    We all have to figure out how to make room in our lives for cancer. I read once the following: He made room for his depression the way you make room for a stranger on a crowded bus. Wow! That's how it felt to me with my Ca diagnosis! I was forced to make room for cancer in my life, begrudgingly, accepting it.

    We have all done it and are better for it.

    Blessings,

    Cathy

  • debrajo
    debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member
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    Abbycat2 said:

    This is becoming more difficult, as Debra and Sandy said

    "The waiting is the worse part of cancer!" Oh, dear, dear Moli, please let us know how you are doing? We are hoping and praying that you are recovering from your surgery. Know that if we could be there with you, we would be! I have come to know you, understand you and your circumstances and have come to love you, as you have been there for each of us in our darkest hours and you have unfailingly protected your girls from knowing about your condition. I get it, even though it took me much contemplation to grasp why you took this position.

    We all have to figure out how to make room in our lives for cancer. I read once the following: He made room for his depression the way you make room for a stranger on a crowded bus. Wow! That's how it felt to me with my Ca diagnosis! I was forced to make room for cancer in my life, begrudgingly, accepting it.

    We have all done it and are better for it.

    Blessings,

    Cathy

    So very true....

    Making room for a stranger......completely true.  I had to learn to not only "make room" for cancer and this heart thing, but for extreme grief.  The best description I could ever find was the statement "  You can never put grief behind you, it's not possible, you can't put grief out if front of you, it will distroy your soul.  The best you can do is learn to let grief walk beside you, ever there, but not in control".  Best, Debra

  • Abbycat2
    Abbycat2 Member Posts: 644 Member
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    debrajo said:

    So very true....

    Making room for a stranger......completely true.  I had to learn to not only "make room" for cancer and this heart thing, but for extreme grief.  The best description I could ever find was the statement "  You can never put grief behind you, it's not possible, you can't put grief out if front of you, it will distroy your soul.  The best you can do is learn to let grief walk beside you, ever there, but not in control".  Best, Debra

    Your statement about grief struck

    a cord, Debra, in my heart. When you force grief to walk beside you, as an equal, it cannot dominate and control your life. I am sorry to hear about your walk with grief and wish for you a life filled with wonder, peace and joy. Cancer has made each of us grapple with our own mortality and that's a tough inevitability for all of us, whether we have cancer or not. Cancer has changed me, I think mostly for the better. I just try not to sweat the small stuff anymore. I find myself watching people with a certain level of detachment and am dumbfounded over the inconsequential crap people focus their lives and emotions on. So what if you gained a pound; your polished fingernail chipped; you have a slight cold; you got a long overdue speeding ticket or you are just having a bad hair day!

    Really? REALLY?

    Try on having a body that you are "trapped in" that may kill you with your own genetical mutated, immortal and rapidly multiplying cancer cells. I would SO rather have a slight cold or just a bad hair day instead.

    The point is that life takes a HUGE turn when diagnosed with cancer, heart disease or any other life-threatening disease or illness. 

    Sadly, my cancer journey has marred my soul as I cannot prevent myself from interpreting the aimless and often meaningless behavior of others as frivolous (plain nonsense!). Don't they realize that their biogical clock is ticking away moments of their lives?  For example, at work I observe the addictive and oddly obsessive compulsive behavior (OCD) of the 30 to 50-year-old staff members fiddling with their smart phones all day long- texting, e-mailing, having phone conversations and checking repeatedly to count how many friends "liked" whatever they posted on Facebook. The work ethic among the young is gone! They get paid to do a 40 hour a week job that they attend to probably less than half that time.

    Last Wednesday, I traveled to Orlando for my job and the driver, in her 40's and in upper management, was texting-can you believe it?-with three passengers in the car with her as she pressed down on the peddle on Interstate 4! OMG!

     

     

     

     

  • EZLiving66
    EZLiving66 Member Posts: 1,483 Member
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    Abbycat2 said:

    Your statement about grief struck


    a cord, Debra, in my heart. When you force grief to walk beside you, as an equal, it cannot dominate and control your life. I am sorry to hear about your walk with grief and wish for you a life filled with wonder, peace and joy. Cancer has made each of us grapple with our own mortality and that's a tough inevitability for all of us, whether we have cancer or not. Cancer has changed me, I think mostly for the better. I just try not to sweat the small stuff anymore. I find myself watching people with a certain level of detachment and am dumbfounded over the inconsequential crap people focus their lives and emotions on. So what if you gained a pound; your polished fingernail chipped; you have a slight cold; you got a long overdue speeding ticket or you are just having a bad hair day!

    Really? REALLY?

    Try on having a body that you are "trapped in" that may kill you with your own genetical mutated, immortal and rapidly multiplying cancer cells. I would SO rather have a slight cold or just a bad hair day instead.

    The point is that life takes a HUGE turn when diagnosed with cancer, heart disease or any other life-threatening disease or illness. 

    Sadly, my cancer journey has marred my soul as I cannot prevent myself from interpreting the aimless and often meaningless behavior of others as frivolous (plain nonsense!). Don't they realize that their biogical clock is ticking away moments of their lives?  For example, at work I observe the addictive and oddly obsessive compulsive behavior (OCD) of the 30 to 50-year-old staff members fiddling with their smart phones all day long- texting, e-mailing, having phone conversations and checking repeatedly to count how many friends "liked" whatever they posted on Facebook. The work ethic among the young is gone! They get paid to do a 40 hour a week job that they attend to probably less than half that time.

    Last Wednesday, I traveled to Orlando for my job and the driver, in her 40's and in upper management, was texting-can you believe it?-with three passengers in the car with her as she pressed down on the peddle on Interstate 4! OMG!

     

     

     

     

    I think the same thing, Abby.

    I think the same thing, Abby.  Right now two of the ladies I have met on FB have gone into hospice and things don't look good.  I really don't sweat the small stuff anymore and as the saying goes - most of it is small stuff.  I'm worried about Moli too - any surgery is dangerous.  

    I think cancer has made me a kinder, gentler version of the old Eldri.  It's also made me freer.  I appreciate the little things more.  And I make sure to tell the people who have helped me how grateful I am.  

    Love,

    Eldri

    Come on, Moli!!!  Post to let us know you're ok!!!

     

  • 2changes
    2changes Member Posts: 24
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    hello
    I have vaginal cancer I know I'm not on the right blot desperate for help. Ive had pelvic. Radiation in the past (29) about a year ago.due to a lesion I noticed in December on my left lower vulva had a dreadful biopsy it showed I had recurring cancer same spot but the lesion didn't I went back in radition(12) its been 7 wis the side affects are horrible burning when urinating; swellen on the entire vulva the skin is very hard and bumpy difficulties walking due to pain and swelling and leakage from my rectum gross ive tried soaking zinc oxide bad reaction prescribed pain meds. Please are there any suggestion has any one had similar result. Does it take long to heal? If anyone can please help PlEAsE
  • 2changes
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    pet
    So I have PET scan on 24th cross hour fingers its scan #7 I'm tired scared and very frustrated wih this horrible radioation.
    Moli I wish you well I see that your friends are worried about you
  • debrajo
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    On the Fence

    I am of two minds, as usual.  Cancer has opened my eyes to a lot of things I would have rather stayed "blind" to.  I don't sweat the small things as much, but my temper has reached new heights of uncontrolability over the injustice of things(ie, children born with defects, cancer, ect who never did anything to deserve it) while some child molesting scum gets off on a technacality!  Stuff like that, I question.  I have literly had to hold my hands together to keep from slapping some people silly! I hate that that clock Cathy was talking about is just about ticked out, but I'm not really afraid.  I'm a mess most time, but grief is the hardest part...the "why"  I have a lot of questions for God if I ever get to heaven.  I know you aren't a religious person Eldri, but there has to be more...I so want to see my baby son!  

    I am beside myself about Moli.  I was afraid of the surgery for her, knowing some of what Alexandra went through.  I am also afraid she won't want to let us know the out come if it's bad news.  Moli, if you read this, no matter the outcome, please let us know...we can take it.  It's the not knowing that we're losing sleep over!  Love to all...Debrajo

  • debrajo
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    2changes said:

    pet
    So I have PET scan on 24th cross hour fingers its scan #7 I'm tired scared and very frustrated wih this horrible radioation.
    Moli I wish you well I see that your friends are worried about you

    Board for 2changes

    You are ALWAYS on the right board with us!  There is a long thread on the Gyn board about your particular cancer.   Type in Vulver Cancer.  Some are old, but still good info.  My sister in law had this type twice.  It is horrible and can be a very long process.  She got the most relief from slightly warm water with an easy stream in a spray bottle WHILE she was using the bathroom and after. I hope you can find more help than I can give, but that old thread is really a great sorce of info!  Best, Debrajo

  • Kaleena
    Kaleena Member Posts: 2,088 Member
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    Abbycat2 said:

    Your statement about grief struck


    a cord, Debra, in my heart. When you force grief to walk beside you, as an equal, it cannot dominate and control your life. I am sorry to hear about your walk with grief and wish for you a life filled with wonder, peace and joy. Cancer has made each of us grapple with our own mortality and that's a tough inevitability for all of us, whether we have cancer or not. Cancer has changed me, I think mostly for the better. I just try not to sweat the small stuff anymore. I find myself watching people with a certain level of detachment and am dumbfounded over the inconsequential crap people focus their lives and emotions on. So what if you gained a pound; your polished fingernail chipped; you have a slight cold; you got a long overdue speeding ticket or you are just having a bad hair day!

    Really? REALLY?

    Try on having a body that you are "trapped in" that may kill you with your own genetical mutated, immortal and rapidly multiplying cancer cells. I would SO rather have a slight cold or just a bad hair day instead.

    The point is that life takes a HUGE turn when diagnosed with cancer, heart disease or any other life-threatening disease or illness. 

    Sadly, my cancer journey has marred my soul as I cannot prevent myself from interpreting the aimless and often meaningless behavior of others as frivolous (plain nonsense!). Don't they realize that their biogical clock is ticking away moments of their lives?  For example, at work I observe the addictive and oddly obsessive compulsive behavior (OCD) of the 30 to 50-year-old staff members fiddling with their smart phones all day long- texting, e-mailing, having phone conversations and checking repeatedly to count how many friends "liked" whatever they posted on Facebook. The work ethic among the young is gone! They get paid to do a 40 hour a week job that they attend to probably less than half that time.

    Last Wednesday, I traveled to Orlando for my job and the driver, in her 40's and in upper management, was texting-can you believe it?-with three passengers in the car with her as she pressed down on the peddle on Interstate 4! OMG!

     

     

     

     

    Kat to Cat - Why can't they "get it"?

    Cathy, you are so right.   I have wondered why some people just don't "get it".   However, even though my husband was beside me all through my treatments, appointments, etc., and when I was tired and exhausted from doing nothing, and although he understood, he really didn't understand.  That is, until he himself was diagnosed with cancer.   Now he understands that the funny feeling in his stomach (not quite nausea, I call it pre-nausea) and other stuff like extreme tiredness.   Although he believed I was going through the stuff and supported me, he now understands everything.  It really changed his attitude towards other people - he "gets it" now.

    It really bother's me to hear people complain about little stuff that really has no meaning.   I also know what you mean about certain employees that you work with or that wait on you.   Unbelieveable.

    So as others have said on these boards - Live Life to the Fullest.   Remember when it was fun just to jump in a puddle of water..........

    Hugs!

    Kathy