I am here to help

xcancer

Hi everyone, 

Cancer has effected my life in many ways through out the years. I try to come on here as often as possible to see if I can help anyone answer questions or be there for support. I have had to do my own cancer research for years and battle with doctors. All the things that come with trying to help someone fight cancer. We all face these negative things when we either have cancer or trying to help someone with cancer. If anyone needs somoene to just talk to or have any questions don't hesitate to ask. I have gone throught a lot so just based on experience I can maybe help someone avoid the mistakes I have made. I am here to help. 

 

Thanks 

gardens

feeling abandoned by family

feel so alone family don't seem to want to act as even care about what i am going through

 

johnb1964

I'm sorry you feel your

I'm sorry you feel your family is not supporting you.   Care to talk? 

chux

Life Changes

  Four months ago, at a hospital ER, I was diagnosed with colon cancer - stage 4. That moment was devistating, created anger, depression, and started me on a very different life. From 150 lbs down to 112. Have had four sessions with "chemo" carrying the "pump", which IMO has done nothing but create more medical issues for me. The oncologist stated in the beginning of treatment to "make my life better - not more miserable". LOL  Each day/night is a roller coaster ride - some ups, but many more downs. Tasteless food/drink, tingling fingers, headaches, mouth sores, and continually stomach pains. Very few family and friends in my life now, and only some of those are concerned with my changable attitude. Still the major question in my mind - why me? Any input is appreciated. chux

JerzyGrrl

chux said:

Life Changes

  Four months ago, at a hospital ER, I was diagnosed with colon cancer - stage 4. That moment was devistating, created anger, depression, and started me on a very different life. From 150 lbs down to 112. Have had four sessions with "chemo" carrying the "pump", which IMO has done nothing but create more medical issues for me. The oncologist stated in the beginning of treatment to "make my life better - not more miserable". LOL  Each day/night is a roller coaster ride - some ups, but many more downs. Tasteless food/drink, tingling fingers, headaches, mouth sores, and continually stomach pains. Very few family and friends in my life now, and only some of those are concerned with my changable attitude. Still the major question in my mind - why me? Any input is appreciated. chux

Hi, Chux

Sorry to hear you've joined the club. You certainly got thrown into the icy cancer waters at the deep end. Some of us get to wade in slowly from the shallow end, but no matter how we arrive it's still miserable to swim in and not the pool we would've chosen. 

Unfortunately, your reactions and side effects aren't uncommon. Has your oncologist spoken with you about ways to address the side effects of the chemo? Have you read the cancer-specific forum to see how folks with similar journeys have coped with the stuff you're going through? I know many folks have felt a connectedness - and gotten some good pointers - by taking those routes. 

It's hard to be / stay connected with family and friends who don't really get it. Sometimes they don't know what to say, sometimes they rattle on, sometimes we rattle on or clam up, sometimes we're jerks or think they are (or vice versa). The forums are good for venting, sharing, etc. Also, I find they help when I'd like to target somebody close to me with a rant or a zing or who knows what. 

As for "why me," I find that either drives me a tad angry/crazy or reminds me of my humanity. Or both. 

Was it too much Cheese-Wiz consumed in our teens, pollution, bad karma, or not thinking enough positive thoughts? Or maybe one (only ONE, mind you) cell that gets wonky all on its and the next thing you know, divides, divides, divides, until one day you're looking at cancer. Beats me. But you end up with a future you did not plan, that's for sure. Cancer stinks, it's not fair, stupid stupid cancer. 

Of course the overall survival rate for this thing called life is 0%, so being here at all shows we've beat the odds for now. Some of us have harder times at different places along the way. So I guess we could even say, "Why NOT me?"

I'm not sure that I've done much but ramble. Perhaps some of my chatter has been a help. At any rate, know that the forum folks can be a great resource.

Hang in there -- !