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Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3
Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3 CSN Member Posts: 3,831 Member
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I expect that I will be a one-time visitor here.  I myself have experienced advanced stage III lymphoma and, years later, an unrelated stage II prostate cancer.  I am currently in full remission with both.  I have met BC visitors at the lymphoma board, writing about relatives with lymphoma...

A dear friend at church died Friday of BC.  She was diagnosed at late Stage 4, with metastatic disease into the sternum and bone. She did not know she was sick at diagnosis, never felt a lump anywhere.  Her disease was "triple negative," which I looked up, and I understand that it is an aggressive strain.  From what I read, her chances with stage 4 triple-negative were around 25% or less.

She was treated at a large, regional cancer center. She was put on TAC chemo, which knocked the tumors way back. Shortly after chemo, she had the left removed surgically, and was planning either surgery into her sternum, or radiation of the area, or both. 

After surgical removal, she went to MD Anderson in Houston for a second opinion about further treatment.  They did a scan, and said it was so bad that they would do nothing, except palliative care. She chose to end all treatments, based on what MD Anderson told her.   Between diagnosis and her passing was less than one year.

My question is: Is stage 4 triple-negative normally this bad ?  Did she have options that were not told to her ?

I, and all who knew her, will miss her terribly.

max

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  • VickiSam
    VickiSam CSN Member Posts: 9,079 Member
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    Max I am so sorry to hear about

    Your friend -

    We have several Sisters in pink on our board here - currently dealing with stage 4 ...  I can not add anything about their pain journey or struggles 

    Hoping a fellow sister walking this path can add her comments 

    Vicki Sam

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  • button2
    button2 CSN Member Posts: 421 Member
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    I am so sorry to hear about

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. No one can really know what could have been, but I hope you get some peace by knowing that Anderson is an amazing center and she was in the best of hands. I'm glad your friend had people like you who loved her dearly. Peace to you....

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  • Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3
    Max Former Hodgkins Stage 3 CSN Member Posts: 3,831 Member
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    button2 said:

    I am so sorry to hear about

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. No one can really know what could have been, but I hope you get some peace by knowing that Anderson is an amazing center and she was in the best of hands. I'm glad your friend had people like you who loved her dearly. Peace to you....

    appreciated

    Thanks to the both of you. I realize that her case was much worse than most.  Best of luck to you all,

    max

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