Mother's trip?

Tdy423

My mother just lost my father to cancer Last week.  This was very unexpected and he passed within two weeks of leaning he even had cancer. they had a long trip planned to go over seas. Her friends are telling her to take the trip with them. She is asking me what I think. I have no idea what to tell her. Has anyone had to deal with something like this?  Thank you. 

Ladylacy

Trip

Sorry to learn of your father's passing.  Your mother should go on her trip as planned.  I remember when my Aunt passed away a year ago.  She, my uncle and their granddaughter had a trip planned for overseas.  Well my uncle and their granddaugther went and from what I understand he really enjoyed the trip. 

My husband passed away 2 months ago from cancer and if it was me, I would go, it would be something he would have wanted me to do.  It is hard enough learning a new way of life and the trip just might be something she needs to do for herself.

 

Tdy423

Ladylacy said:

Trip

Sorry to learn of your father's passing.  Your mother should go on her trip as planned.  I remember when my Aunt passed away a year ago.  She, my uncle and their granddaughter had a trip planned for overseas.  Well my uncle and their granddaugther went and from what I understand he really enjoyed the trip. 

My husband passed away 2 months ago from cancer and if it was me, I would go, it would be something he would have wanted me to do.  It is hard enough learning a new way of life and the trip just might be something she needs to do for herself.

 

Thank you

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OO7

It's difficult to say....

I too just lost my father, two weeks after he passed away and one week after his mass I took my mother on a trip with me and my family for a few days.  It was very difficult for her and she wished she didn't go.  I was away for two weeks she was only there for two nights.  I planned this trip a year in advance and it was hard for me as well.  Everyone around me was happ  I was not...... 

I made it work because I was diagnosised three weeks before my father with cancer too.  Stage 4 incurable.  We both had/ have lymphoma.  I still keep this secret from my family.  I guess I became a master at hiding my feelings.

 

Your mom will know what to do,  I hope she is on a better place and can benefit from a trip with family/friends and loved ones....

 

Good luck, God Bless and so sorry for your loss.