Praying for a friend.

lp1964

My oncologist introduced me to a 32 year old man who had the same rectal cancer as I and ended up with colostomy. He was after the surgery and we became close friends. I gave him advise about the colostomy bag and started preparing him for the chemo. However he wasn't getting better. Consent blockages and pain. They took a PET scan and now  2 months after the surgery the cancer  is all over in his abdomen and a inoperable place in his liver. He is 32 and skin and bones. How could the be that they did not notice anything 2 months ago. The thought that the surgeon who operated on him would have been my surgeon since that hospital was 5 minutes from my house. I did not trust him from the minute he stepped into the room. I decided to go to Los Angels 2 hours away and I found a surgeon that liked and still love. I know every situation is different and I'm very concerned about my friend. I'll do everything I can to help him out, but it doesn't look good. 

Laz

Trubrit

I am so sorry for your friend

I hate when I hear that that Cancer is 'all over'. I met a woman this week who told me that her mothers Cancer was everywhere, even in her brain; and she was desperate for me to tell her that everything was going to be OK. 

I had a fairly similar expereine to yours, in that a lady at church, after heraring me tell people over 50 to get a colonoscopy, was diagnosed. Her expreince was so vastly different to mine, that I continue to this day to be shocked at how she is treated. I could have easily been reffered to her Oncology team, and thank the Lord that I wasn't. Thankfully her Cancer is at bay, but her treatment over the past few years defies descriptoin. 

I pray that your friend will recover his strenght and fight on, but it does sound bad. 

Sue - Trubrit

NewHere

Sorry To Hear This

Thoughts are with you and your friend.   I have been in the same place as you in terms of a friend who became sick and where it spread quickly.  It is not easy.  

Fight for my love

It's so hard to read this

It's so hard to read this kind of stories. I will keep your friend in my prayers and thoughts.

LindaK.

First oncologist makes all the difference

I am certain my husband's first oncologist did him harm.  Laz, I am glad you went with your gut feeling to seek another doctor.  I wish we had known more at the beginning.  Bad hospital + bad oncologist = bad experience.  We can all say "what if" but it does no good.  There was no one to guide us except to the clown we first went to - what did we know back then?  I have such bad memories, I'm trying to shake them, but finding it difficult.  I'm sure you will be able to help your new friend as best you can.

Linda

UncleBuddy

I'm sorry for your friend...

I always wonder whether some of these doctors or just schmucks or if the cancer can actually spread that quickly. That's such a sad story, he's so young. 

Hoping things improve for him. 

Stay well.

Lin