A Happy Post

fishmanpa
fishmanpa Member Posts: 1,227 Member
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

I met Marcia, my "Chiquita", on-line in October of 2010. We started by corresponding by email and chatting on line. I was taken by her beauty and also by the way she wrote as I could hear her accent in her words. We began speaking by phone and she sounded exactly as I imagined. To this day hearing her speak makes me smile :) I had planned on flying out to meet her in Minnesota in the Spring of 2011. She called me shortly before Christmas of 2010 and asked what I was doing the week between Christmas and New Year. I asked why and she said she wanted to come meet me. So, I ended up picking her up in Pittsburgh, PA on December 26th 2010 becuase her flight was grounded due to a snow storm that I drove through to get her. We spent the week together getting to know each other. I knew then she was a very special lady. I did fly out to see her in April of 2011 and it only solidified our feelings for each other. 

She moved to Virginia the end of July 2011 and we began a life together. It was wonderful and I knew she was the "one" I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I had planned to propose to Marcia, Christmas of 2012. Then came my 2nd heart attack and stents in October of 2012. Shortly afterwards a diagnosis of cancer. Marcia stood by me through it all. I don't know how she did it as I was a difficult patient at best. She was there when I rang the bell on April 24th after 6 weeks of brutality and got my PEG two hours later. She was there grinding up pills and pouring them through a syringe into my stomach. She made sure I stayed hydrated and got my "food". Slowly but surely I recovered and I'm still doing so. The side effects are many and difficult but I'm here and doing Ok. Eight months after finishing treatment, I proposed to my Chiquita Christmas of 2013 and she said "Yes" through tears of joy.

We planned an elopement here in Virginia and married on her 50th birthday Saturday June 7th. Many here were part of my journey and I want to say as I have before "Thank You" for your support and encouragement. I don't post much anymore but I do pop in to see how many of you are doing. Forgive me for my lack of participation but I find it difficult to see so many newbies and those we have lost. I've found it hard to deal with the side effects, both physical and psychological and try to gain my life back adjusting to the "new normal".

All that aside, I want to share with you a video that Marcia put together of our wedding day. Thank you again for all the support and encouragement. I hope this brings some smiles and offers those struggling some encouragement. As hard as this disease, treatmnet and recovery are, there's light at the end of the tunnel and sometimes it's as bright as it was prior to cancer.

Positive thoughts and prayers

"T"

Our Wedding



Comments

  • MarineE5
    MarineE5 Member Posts: 1,034 Member
    #2
    "T" & "M"

    Simply Beautiful  Laughing

    My Best to Both of You

  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,724 Member
    #3
    looking good

     

    Hi ”T”,

     

    Thanks for sharing, the wedding was very nice.

     

    Congratulations!

     

    Matt

     

  • LumpinmyThroat
    LumpinmyThroat Member Posts: 98
    #4
    Love This!

    Love! Best wishes for a happy life ahead! 

  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #5
    its absolutely beautiful, T. 

    its absolutely beautiful, T.  Marcia did an outstanding job with the video.  i'm so happy for both of you and pray you have many, many years ahead of you.

    God bless you,

    dj

  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #6
    T & M, Congratulations.
    What

    T & M, Congratulations.

    What a beautiful wedding and a beautiful couple. May God bless you both with a long and happy life together.

    Debbie

  • ahollie
    ahollie Member Posts: 84
    #7
    so stinking awesome!

    God always has a plan! Such an amzing testimony! Wishing you many years of good health and happiness!

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #8
    jim and i said:

    T & M, Congratulations.
    What

    T & M, Congratulations.

    What a beautiful wedding and a beautiful couple. May God bless you both with a long and happy life together.

    Debbie

    Mr. & Mrs. "T"

    Thank you so much for sharing this special day with all of us. A beautiful bride, a handsome groom, a beautiful setting, and LOVE. What more could you ask?

    "Live long and prosper"

    Luv,

    Wolfen

  • jackflash22
    jackflash22 Member Posts: 524 Member
    #9
    Wedding

    Thank you for inviting me to your wedding. Such a romantic love story with a happy ending, your woman is a special lady. May you have many happy years together.

  • Duggie88
    Duggie88 Member Posts: 760 Member
    #10
    Hi T

    Thanks for sharing your sppecial day. Congradulations to you and Marcia I wish you many years of happiness.

          Jeff

  • Guzzle
    Guzzle Member Posts: 710
    #11
    Duggie88 said:

    Hi T

    Thanks for sharing your sppecial day. Congradulations to you and Marcia I wish you many years of happiness.

          Jeff

    Congrats

    will raise a glass. For once a lump in the throat which is a good thing T. All the best to you both.

  • cureitall66
    cureitall66 Member Posts: 913
    #12
    Congratulations!

    Congratulations "T" & "Chiquita"!

    God Bless you both and may you have many beautiful years together!

    ~C

  • sin9775
    sin9775 Member Posts: 199 Member
    #13
    Love abounds.

    Love abounds.  Congratulations and best wishes to you and your beautiful bride.  May you be blessed with many happy, healthy years together.  Thank you for sharing your day.

  • wmc
    wmc Member Posts: 1,804
    #14
    Thanks "T"

    "T" i'm very happy for you both and thank you for shairing it with all of us. Keep popping in as your posts do help and suport so many of us "new Normals" you will never know.  Thank you

    Bill  Oct 2013

  • patricke
    patricke Member Posts: 570 Member
    #15
    CONGRATULATIONS!

    In the words of my wife, Diane, That Was Wonderful!  Congratulations on this beautiful part of your journey; you've been through one of the worst periods in your life, and now you are celebrating, and embarking on one of the best.  We wish you all of the best in life, as you create your new normal, and new life together.  As I am want to say, Keep It Mov'in Forward........!  Big Hugs! 

    PATRICK

  • donfoo
    donfoo Member Posts: 1,773 Member
    #16
    The best

    Congrats to you both on your special day and celebrating the unique bond you share. Thanks for producing and sharing the wedding video. It is a wondeful reminder life goes on in amazing and blessed ways. Enjoy! Don

  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #17
    T

    That was beautiful my friend and I am happy that you found the love of your life. This August I will be married 40 years to the same woman, she too stuck by my side when everyone else was running away. All I can say to Caregivers to all who are real Caregivers don’t give up on us because you are our strength when we are weak. I remember Don Williams singing a song about it saying.   You're my bread when I'm hungry You're my shelter from troubled winds You're my anchor in life's ocean But most of all you're my best friend.  You brought love like I've never known you gave life to our children and most importance of all to me a reason to go on.

    God Bless you both T

    Tim Hondo

  • Greg53
    Greg53 Member Posts: 849
    #18
    Hondo said:

    T

    That was beautiful my friend and I am happy that you found the love of your life. This August I will be married 40 years to the same woman, she too stuck by my side when everyone else was running away. All I can say to Caregivers to all who are real Caregivers don’t give up on us because you are our strength when we are weak. I remember Don Williams singing a song about it saying.   You're my bread when I'm hungry You're my shelter from troubled winds You're my anchor in life's ocean But most of all you're my best friend.  You brought love like I've never known you gave life to our children and most importance of all to me a reason to go on.

    God Bless you both T

    Tim Hondo

    Congrats

    T

    Congrats to you and Marcia!  Here's to many, many, many, many anniversary parties!

    Best

    Greg

  • Goyca
    Goyca Member Posts: 220
    #19
    Lovely lovely couple :) wish

    Lovely lovely couple :) wish u all the best.

    God,bless u.  

     

    goyca :)

  • Grandmax4
    Grandmax4 Member Posts: 723
    #20
    So beautiful

    I always cry at weddings, and yours' was no exception, what a perfect day, for a perfect couple. Thank you for sharing, and may your life together be filled with peace

  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
    #21
    Grandmax4 said:

    So beautiful

    I always cry at weddings, and yours' was no exception, what a perfect day, for a perfect couple. Thank you for sharing, and may your life together be filled with peace

    Congrats!

    Happy and in love...now that is what life is all about. Thanks for sharing

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