Views from 2 survivors

donna_lee
donna_lee Member Posts: 1,041 Member

Today, I had brunch with my dearest friend, who recently underwent a double mastectomy. The doctor had been monitoring something on one side and then found the tumor on the other. She's still experiencing post surgical "problems" that time should resolve.

We agreed that perhaps our age, and the life threatening diagnoses have rearranged our life priorities.  Without the diagnoses, life expectancy would be another 15-20 years, at least.  With cancer, and what we've done to beat it, it could be the same expectancy.  

So why put up with crap in your life just to accomodate others. We want to enjoy our families and take time to enjoy what we want to do.  We don't mind working, as we both still do, but we want to be recognized for our contributions to family owned business and treated accordingly.  We want to be involved in organizations and active in grouops (sometimes the same one), but don't want to lead the charge.  We want to work with those to are given a task and will follow through on the responsibility.  In other words, those who don't follow thru need not apply.

After discussing recent trips, wedding plans for her son, and catching up on other news, we parted on a funny note...kind of a jab at someone we have both dealt with...

"What's the difference between a Twit (the blonde who is rude to us) and a Twerk."  Well, at least Mylie gets 'er done!

Donna

 

Comments

  • Alexandra
    Alexandra Member Posts: 1,308
    I agree with Donna. Life is too short to put up with crap.

    I had to google "Twerk", either because I'm too old or because English is my third language. The Miley video got me so excited, that I immediately had to attempt twerking. Don't try it at home especially if you're over 200 lbs. Broke a vase and threw out my back. When I'm able to get up, I will google "Twit". Smile

  • Jojo61
    Jojo61 Member Posts: 1,309 Member
    Alexandra said:

    I agree with Donna. Life is too short to put up with crap.

    I had to google "Twerk", either because I'm too old or because English is my third language. The Miley video got me so excited, that I immediately had to attempt twerking. Don't try it at home especially if you're over 200 lbs. Broke a vase and threw out my back. When I'm able to get up, I will google "Twit". Smile

    You go, girl!!!
    (that is

    You go, girl!!!

    (that is meant for both Donna AND Alexandra!!)

  • Jan4you
    Jan4you Member Posts: 1,330 Member
    Donna, thanks for posting

    Donna, thanks for posting your experience with your friend and yourself. Women can only be stronger when other women step up and support us! We are often the teachers for some men to learn from these teachable moments.

    Attitude and deciding what we want to spend our energy on changes as we get older. We learn what to work on and what to let go of. Phew.. thank goodness!

    Thanks for sharing this story.  You and your friend are testiments to the strength that comes from pure love and care!

    Give your friend a gentle hug from me to you both!

    Warmly, Jan

  • twinthings
    twinthings Member Posts: 409
    Jan4you said:

    Donna, thanks for posting

    Donna, thanks for posting your experience with your friend and yourself. Women can only be stronger when other women step up and support us! We are often the teachers for some men to learn from these teachable moments.

    Attitude and deciding what we want to spend our energy on changes as we get older. We learn what to work on and what to let go of. Phew.. thank goodness!

    Thanks for sharing this story.  You and your friend are testiments to the strength that comes from pure love and care!

    Give your friend a gentle hug from me to you both!

    Warmly, Jan

    thank goodness for change

    Very well said, Jan!   

    Change comes with maturity and life experiences, and thank goodness for good girlfriends with which to share them.  As I prepare mentally for turning 50 this year, I realize, my BFF today is the same lady I met the first day of Kindergarten enrollment as we signed our kids up.  We were both first time school moms, anxious to sign up for PTA and it was in that PTA line that we struck up a conversation and the rest is history.  We've been BFF's ever since.  That was 25 years ago.  We've seen each other through the worst of times and celebrated happy times.  And many times, we fought like sisters.  Friends are blessings!

  • twinthings
    twinthings Member Posts: 409
    Cheers to girlfriends

    She sounds like a good friend, Donna.  I hope her post surgical issues clear up and her recovery is fast and complete.  It's nice that the two of you have each other to lean on and draw strength from. 

    I am going to work on taking less crap from people. Yell

     

  • donna_lee
    donna_lee Member Posts: 1,041 Member

    Cheers to girlfriends

    She sounds like a good friend, Donna.  I hope her post surgical issues clear up and her recovery is fast and complete.  It's nice that the two of you have each other to lean on and draw strength from. 

    I am going to work on taking less crap from people. Yell

     

    A Twit

    Is a silly, annoying person. (Webster's Dictionary)  An airhead.  A "dumb blond."  Someone who's life revolves around only her (or his) interests and says some of the things that just leave you with your mouth open.

    And now that you have leaned how to Twerk, have fun.  I never could use a hula hoop.  They didn't come out until I was in college and my low back just doesn't move that way.

    Thanks for all your comments.  And yes, we do enjoy our friendship.

    Donna

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924 Member
    Alexandra said:

    I agree with Donna. Life is too short to put up with crap.

    I had to google "Twerk", either because I'm too old or because English is my third language. The Miley video got me so excited, that I immediately had to attempt twerking. Don't try it at home especially if you're over 200 lbs. Broke a vase and threw out my back. When I'm able to get up, I will google "Twit". Smile

    Alex, you crack me up!  I

    Alex, you crack me up!  I hope the vase was not an antique! HA!  Miley Circus doesn't know what she started! <3  The little TWIT!  LOL

  • Srashedb
    Srashedb Member Posts: 482 Member
    donna_lee said:

    A Twit

    Is a silly, annoying person. (Webster's Dictionary)  An airhead.  A "dumb blond."  Someone who's life revolves around only her (or his) interests and says some of the things that just leave you with your mouth open.

    And now that you have leaned how to Twerk, have fun.  I never could use a hula hoop.  They didn't come out until I was in college and my low back just doesn't move that way.

    Thanks for all your comments.  And yes, we do enjoy our friendship.

    Donna

    holoa hoops were in the

    holoa hoops were in the 50's.... What do you mean college? 

    Sarah

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    Srashedb said:

    holoa hoops were in the

    holoa hoops were in the 50's.... What do you mean college? 

    Sarah

    She meant

    hoop skirts and that was in the 1800s.

  • garym
    garym Member Posts: 1,647
    foxhd said:

    She meant

    hoop skirts and that was in the 1800s.

    Not that I don't believe ya, but...

    we should probably confirm that with the iceman since he was there in personWink

  • danbren2
    danbren2 Member Posts: 311
    garym said:

    Not that I don't believe ya, but...

    we should probably confirm that with the iceman since he was there in personWink

    They do try!

    And this why we love our men friends, they do try so hard! You just gotta love them, whether they are twits trying to twerk or just being there!

                                                    Love and prayers of good health,

                                                     Brenda