Stage 4 melanoma

tritzy83
tritzy83 Member Posts: 2
My boyfriend of the past three years has just been diagnosed with ecstatic melanoma. They haven't done the test to see if it has spread but by the depth of the tumor the pathologist is fairly certain. Up until this point he had sorta been in denial. i was hoping he would stay that way. Lately he is getting more and more angry. The other night he woke up sweating so bad he soaked the bed. After that his anger has multiplied. He is angry at me for nothing. Keeps saying really hurtful things . i understand why he is so angry but its just really hard to hear things like your not good enough to go out in public because your so crazy. I don't know who to talk to about this. None of my friends understand. iI don't wanna fight with him. I know that will just make it worse. I want to be there for him. He is the love of my life. I need someone's help please.

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  • Lilly2013
    Lilly2013 Member Posts: 12 Member
    Melanoma Stage 4 Survival

    What I have learned about melanomas and cancer in general:

    1. If he does not want to have surgery, there is another way to get rid of the melanoma and the skin will heal and go back to normal.

    2. At stage four, depending on how long he has had it, and how deep the melanoma invaded the tissue, it may or it may not have already metastasized. If tumors are cut into, they metastasize more rapidly (generally speaking) than if they are left alone.

    3. If the Stage 4 has not metastized, then if you treat the whole body NOW, it is likely the cancer will die off and then all you need to do is watch for the next 10 years to make sure it doesn't return.

    4. If there is a confirmed metastatic disease in another part of his body, the fight is on. It's not a death sentence as doctors tell you. There is hope. There is a way to stop it.

    5. If you are interested, or should I say, if he is interested in fighting the cancer without chemo, or sometimes people use chemo but also use alternative methods in conjunction with conventional medicine, I will give you all the information I have at my disposal.

    6. I am fighting it also. I do know that, aside from wasting, I am doing fine. Not sick, not tired, not weak, I work. I iive an otherwise normal life.

    The night sweats are a part of the symptomology. Not everyone experiences them right away. Usually a stage four melanoma means that it has been growing 3-5 years before diagnosis. These things grow fairly slowly depending on the location.....

    Please answer me if you want to know how to beat this thing. And stop the night sweats. And, heal the skin. It's very inexpensive, compared to conventional methods. It does not require you to suffer from drug side effects. There are no side effects. The energy level goes up; there is a feeling of well-being, but you just have to watch what you are doing while treating the cancer.

  • tritzy83
    tritzy83 Member Posts: 2
    Lilly2013 said:

    Melanoma Stage 4 Survival

    What I have learned about melanomas and cancer in general:

    1. If he does not want to have surgery, there is another way to get rid of the melanoma and the skin will heal and go back to normal.

    2. At stage four, depending on how long he has had it, and how deep the melanoma invaded the tissue, it may or it may not have already metastasized. If tumors are cut into, they metastasize more rapidly (generally speaking) than if they are left alone.

    3. If the Stage 4 has not metastized, then if you treat the whole body NOW, it is likely the cancer will die off and then all you need to do is watch for the next 10 years to make sure it doesn't return.

    4. If there is a confirmed metastatic disease in another part of his body, the fight is on. It's not a death sentence as doctors tell you. There is hope. There is a way to stop it.

    5. If you are interested, or should I say, if he is interested in fighting the cancer without chemo, or sometimes people use chemo but also use alternative methods in conjunction with conventional medicine, I will give you all the information I have at my disposal.

    6. I am fighting it also. I do know that, aside from wasting, I am doing fine. Not sick, not tired, not weak, I work. I iive an otherwise normal life.

    The night sweats are a part of the symptomology. Not everyone experiences them right away. Usually a stage four melanoma means that it has been growing 3-5 years before diagnosis. These things grow fairly slowly depending on the location.....

    Please answer me if you want to know how to beat this thing. And stop the night sweats. And, heal the skin. It's very inexpensive, compared to conventional methods. It does not require you to suffer from drug side effects. There are no side effects. The energy level goes up; there is a feeling of well-being, but you just have to watch what you are doing while treating the cancer.

    Thank You

    Oh jeez thank you for repling! I will gladly take ANY/ALL information that you have. his tumor was 3mm deep but they ut trhough it. it makes me extremly angry to know that can increase chance of mestasis. From what i read on the pathologists report its very aggressive. he has noticed the mole growing for the past year. From where they cut it it has started to grow back. Thats all the information we know. I much apriciate your help. I feel so alone and I know I cant even imagine how and you feel. o

  • Lilly2013
    Lilly2013 Member Posts: 12 Member
    tritzy83 said:

    Thank You

    Oh jeez thank you for repling! I will gladly take ANY/ALL information that you have. his tumor was 3mm deep but they ut trhough it. it makes me extremly angry to know that can increase chance of mestasis. From what i read on the pathologists report its very aggressive. he has noticed the mole growing for the past year. From where they cut it it has started to grow back. Thats all the information we know. I much apriciate your help. I feel so alone and I know I cant even imagine how and you feel. o

    Melanoma Stage 4

    His melanoma is deeper than mine. I was only a 1.56.

    I wish I could communicate with you through a direct email, as I need to send you documents.

    PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT ALL CONVENTIONAL AND ALTERNATIVE HEALING PROTOCOLS REQUIRE PATIENCE AND TIME. Do not get discouraged because you seem not to get the results quickly. The cancer took time to develop and grow. It will take time to heal the body.

    However, I will do my best to communicate with you via this website, and hope that I cover the bases.

    Step 1  DETOX. DETOX. DETOX. The body is contaminated with all types of chemicals via our food, air, water, and anything else that permeates our bodies. Too much sun causes skin cancer. GMOs cause cancer. Pastuerized milk can cause cancer. Alcoholic beverages will kill cells faster than anything else. That's why people who drink get liver and pancreatic cancers. DO NOT USE OVER THE COUNTER DETOX PREPARATIONS!!

    Step 2  There are various protocols that address cancer. The natural protocols all involve ingesting chemicals that are natural to our bodies: NUTRIENTS. Those nutrients keep us alive. When the foods we eat are deficient in the nutrients, our bodies begin to deteriorate. It's an individual rate of deterioration. Some people are old before disease consumes the body.

    Websites that will give you information and protocols:

    DETOX: www.aboutclay.com and www.livingclayco.com - He must before starting any type of treatment, detox using Calcium Bentonite Clay both exterally and internally. if you go to the first website, it will have information about clay and the benefits. You can also go to Amazon.com to buy the small book which will tell you just about everything you need to know. Also, join the chat room. You can ask the author of the book question and she will answer you, and so will other people who have been using the clay.

    Clay baths are crucial to detox. The website should tell you how to do that. But make sure that the clay is premixed before you put it in your bathtub because the undissolved clay will clog your pipes and could damage your pipes. Clay baths should be done at least twice weekly, if not more at the beginning. Not daily, as it would dry out the skin.

    Internal detox: the instructions are on the aboutclay.com website.

     

    1. www.naturalnews.com - this website is dedicated to reporting and recommending healthy lifestyle changes and reports on research. He also sells products. Most of the products you can probably find for less at other stores, or mail order. But it gives you a list to work from.

    2. www.gerson.com  - best our culture has to offer!! This will teach you how to eat a healthy diet to prevent and treat disease.

    3. www.burzynskiclinic.com/ - He has a conventional approach to treat cancer, but it is customized to the person and it is not like most cancer treatmetns that "one-size-fits-all". He also adds a chemical compound he says people who get cancer are deficient in. He restores that chemical compound, and the cancer heals, along with the customized drug regimen. People who were told to go home and die walk out of his treatment program cancer free. He's expensive, but if you have insurance, should be no problem. What is life worth?

    4. www.IP-6.net - Everyone should take this, healthy or otherwise. This is a miracle breakthrough nutrient compound. Get the small book so you understand the research and how this nutrient compound will nourish the body. People with stage 4 cancers are supposed to be feeling tired, rotten, and sick. I don't feel tired. In fact, my energy level went through the roof!! And, as a side benefit, it started healing "other conditions" in my body. It does not work real fast, and a person has to stay on it consistenly.

    Do not start out slow. He needs to take 6 capsules twice daily on a 12-hour schedule on an empty stomach. Wait at least 2 hours before and after taking IP6. If you eat heavily, wait 3 hours for digestion to finish emptying the stomach. I take mine at 10AM and at 10PM. I found out that if I take the IP6 earlier in the evening, my energy level is too strong to sleep at night. So take it at bedtime and the IP6 can work while you are sleeping.

    5. www.megafoods.com  - he needs a good multivitamin. You can find these in your health food stores, or get them online. Do not get the ones with herbs in it. I take MegaFood 100%whole Food ONE DAILY. Do not take anything with soy, or other fillers or preservatives like guar gum or other "gums". These are neurotoxins. Last thing he needs is a neurotoxin battling with an already weakened immune system.You can buy the MegaFoods brand locally.

    6. He needs to take serrapeptase. But first read http://www.newswithviews.com/Howenstine/james174.htm information so you can make an informed choice. REMEMBER THIS: enzymes break down food in your digestive system. If you take too much of the fat burners, it can cause too much weight loss. Do not lose weight. The cancer will cause you to do this anyway.  This enzyme destroys the fibrogen that protects the cancer cell from getting zapped by our natural killer cells (T cells) from our immune system. If you want to determine if he needs more than one enzyme, please check with a medical professional.

    7. Vitamin D3. 1000 IU twice daily. Check with a doctor first. But research consistently shows that we can take up to 2000 IU daily without any side effects. Vitamin D has shown to kill cancer. Get it from MegaFood because it doesn't have any additives. 

    The multivitamin already has 400 IU, so taking 1.5 Vitamin D3 will make up the difference. That would equal 1,900 IU.

     

    8. Vitamin B12 - If you take the recommended multivitamin listed above, it gives you 250mcg of Methylcobalamin. Do not take the synthetic form, Cobalamin. Synthetic vitamins and substances promote cancer. They are test-tube substances. Check with a medical professional for proper dosage.

    9. The treatment includes a radical change in foods a person with cancer eats. Actually, at first no red meats, or fowl. Oily fish are permitted. This is because meat and even fish are highly acidic foods. One reason we get cancer and other diseases is because the body becomes too acidic. The human body must be at least 7.3 - 7.4 to maintain health. Anything less is a death spiral. When we are sick, we need to go higher on the pH scale to balance our pH again. we have to raise the bar because the body, when it feels acidic, will take from our bones or anything else available in the body to return it to a normal pH.

    Foods to consume: high alkalaine foods. 80% of foods consumed must be alkaline; 20% are acidic because we must also have acids in the body for the body to function normally.

    EAT ORGANIC FOODS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. The pesticides on conventional foods only create more problems, and cause cancer.

    10. I forgot to add to the treatment list:   CHINESE MEDICINE. The Chinese have figured out how to cure cancer with herbs and other treatments without chemo and our American pathological methods of drugs and chemo and surgeries. If you can afford it, they can add to your arsenal in your fight to kill the cancer.

    MELANOMAS are not "normal" cancers. They are very aggressive and very difficult to kill and survive. But there is hope. I was told about a woman who had a melanoma in the corner of her eye next to her nose. After 10 years she was still alive and well. I don't know if she metastasized. Not everyone dies from a melanoma. Senator McCain had 3 removed and he is still alive.

     

    The sweating your boyfriend experiences is just one of the symptoms the body experiences. I don't know right now of anything that alleviates that symptom. You can google it. Or, check with a Chinese doctor to see if they have any herbal remedy.

    Another nasty symptom is lean mass wasting. If he starts to lose weight and muscle and starting "thinning" quickly, he is wasting. That is more dangerous than the cancer. Cancer cells have a higher metabolism than a normal cell. They require more energy and will take the energy from healthy cells, thus the wasting from the cancer stealing energy.

     

    The key to surviving any illness is knowledge. Alot of the information I gave you has taken me almost 5 years to discover and put together like pieces to a puzzle. I am technically dying as I write this.

    If I think of anything else, I'll write again.

    Find a really good Chinese doctor, a nurtopath, or someone who is an expert in treating disease and illness by natural means. I'm not a medical profesional. The information I gave you is for your education and research purposes. I don't know for certain that a Stage 4, three cm melanoma will respond to only the information I suggested.

     

    http://skincancer.about.com/od/diagnosis/a/clark_breslow.htm  if you want to know the staging of melanomas. Melanomas are not a dark hole you cannot unacquire. It can heal. It's knowing what chemical compounds the body needs to restore the body to health.

    I would be interested in knowing how your friend is progressing. I hope this information will help. Conventional doctors will tell you that it wasting your time and money. Don't listen to their lies. They are fresh out of ideas, and the AMA establishment is too proud to admit there are other alternatives to conventional treatments. If you elect to go the conventional route, you will need a very good dietary regimen to offset the destructive forces of chemo drugs and radiation.

    Almost forgot, although I'm not sure this is a significant aspect of killing a melanoma. www.phkillscancer.com  this is the story of an older man who beat cancer using baking soda and molasses. It will raise the pH level, but it takes awhile. At Stage four, there isn't alot of time to waste. But you can try it and see if it raises the pH level. To test, get pH testing strips. follow  the directions.

     

     

     

  • Lilly2013
    Lilly2013 Member Posts: 12 Member
    tritzy83 said:

    Thank You

    Oh jeez thank you for repling! I will gladly take ANY/ALL information that you have. his tumor was 3mm deep but they ut trhough it. it makes me extremly angry to know that can increase chance of mestasis. From what i read on the pathologists report its very aggressive. he has noticed the mole growing for the past year. From where they cut it it has started to grow back. Thats all the information we know. I much apriciate your help. I feel so alone and I know I cant even imagine how and you feel. o

    Melanoma Stage 4

    I forgot to add regarding the "growing back" of the melanoma. Get Hedd-Wyn's organic Oil of Oregano. Put at least one half dropper full on the melanoma and cover it with a bandaid. Make sure the oil does not mix with the adhesive on the bandaid or you will feel like your skin is on fire....

    Also, Oil of Oregano can be taken internally. Read the directions. The website: http://heddwynessentials.com/ooo/index.php

    It will give you more information about the oil.

    Did they recommend the "wide excision" surgery? It does not always take care of the problem, and people do metastize after the surgery. It helps a very small percentage of people.

     

    http://serrapeptase.info/?s=cancer  This website will give you more professional information on Serrapeptase. I'm trying to determine effective dosing before taking it.

     

  • 1dzRussells
    1dzRussells Member Posts: 1
    Lilly2013 said:

    Melanoma Stage 4

    I forgot to add regarding the "growing back" of the melanoma. Get Hedd-Wyn's organic Oil of Oregano. Put at least one half dropper full on the melanoma and cover it with a bandaid. Make sure the oil does not mix with the adhesive on the bandaid or you will feel like your skin is on fire....

    Also, Oil of Oregano can be taken internally. Read the directions. The website: http://heddwynessentials.com/ooo/index.php

    It will give you more information about the oil.

    Did they recommend the "wide excision" surgery? It does not always take care of the problem, and people do metastize after the surgery. It helps a very small percentage of people.

     

    http://serrapeptase.info/?s=cancer  This website will give you more professional information on Serrapeptase. I'm trying to determine effective dosing before taking it.

     

    Wow Lilly!
     
    Thank you for

    Wow Lilly!

     

    Thank you for all the detailed information.  It helps all of us, even years down the road.

    Hope your doing well.  I am also using the clay (turned mole from black, back to brown) and some systemic enzymes.  Always looking for what else can be done. Looks like I need to add ip-6 and oregano.

    I'm so glad I found this post today. Your wealth of information is much appreciated! Smile

    Sincerely,

    Karen

  • jinxygirl
    jinxygirl Member Posts: 4

    Wow Lilly!
     
    Thank you for

    Wow Lilly!

     

    Thank you for all the detailed information.  It helps all of us, even years down the road.

    Hope your doing well.  I am also using the clay (turned mole from black, back to brown) and some systemic enzymes.  Always looking for what else can be done. Looks like I need to add ip-6 and oregano.

    I'm so glad I found this post today. Your wealth of information is much appreciated! Smile

    Sincerely,

    Karen

    Alternative treatments

    Karen I currently have stage 4 metastatic melanoma. I have done all of my treatments at MD Anderson in Houston TX, I currently have 1 1/2 years cancer free. I never tried alternative treatments but I would never discourage anyone to try whatever they are comfortable with. My only advise to you would to have him also consult with an Oncologist while doing Any treatments. Within two months of being diagnosed (unknown origin) with it in my left axilla I was in such horrible shape that I left my Oncologist and went to Houston for a second opinion. Prior to that I had tremors, anxielty attacks, stuttering and sweats so bad I had to quit my job. My then Oncologist acted as if I was faking and drug seeking.

    My first appointment at MDA found that I had developed a brain tumor, which brings me to my point. Had I not had that MRI I would be dead now. Melanoma is terribly aggressive and so many deaths occur because it can have spread throughout your body unidentified until it is too late. He needs to have scans on a regular basis! Please  Do Not just go by how he is feeling and the changing colors of moles or other spots! I read everything, and I will guarantee that anyone who knows about herbs/vitamins and the such will tell you that most will all make you feel better, cancer or not. If you are not comfortable with his doctor, Change docs Immediatly and find one you are happy with.

    As far as his anger, my personal experience has been that it is like dealing with the death of a loved one. Look up the stages of grief and I feel sure it will help you understand where he is psychologically and, most of all, ways to help you to cope as well. Cancer affects the entire family, not just the person who has it.

    I wish you both the best of luck! Stay strong mentally and it will help you stay strong physicalyl! I'ts not over till it's over....never ever stop fighting!!

  • ThatSchmidt
    ThatSchmidt Member Posts: 2 Member

    Hello, I am going thru a very similar situation with my husband.... I am reaching back to you all from 2024 to see if anyone is still on here ... I hope ... thank u in advance I hope to hear from all of you