I'm crying lot :(

Merna Al-Shimy

Hello everybody

I'm girl 19 student in AOU in Kuwait study English Litereture. I'm Egyption but living in kuwait all my life.

My problem is I'm crying alot and feel sad alot without any reason. Although I get supporting from my family, my friends and my teachers in unversity.

My story with canser is :-

In the last yeaar when I was in the university suddenly I feel pain in my stomec musles and I  ignore it. at the summer vication I told my uncle what happen to me and told doctors in his hospital in Eygpt and I do alot of x-ray.

At the end I do operation and remove my right kidney. I get a conser in it.

After on month I start take chemo theropy and I lose all my hair and my look. Since that I cry alot and when my session be near I start to cry and don't want to go

Although I'm finish red one I don't know what is the name of that medical and start another chemo session.

Please anyone have any suggest and help please please post it

great thank for all

grandmafay

Crying

Crying is not a bad thing. You are dealing with a difficult disease, and crying is one way to help you cope. Have you talked to the doctor or the chemo nurse about it? They might be able to give you something to help deal with your depression. Counseling might help, too. Cancer is scary stuff especially when you are so young. You are grieving for the life you planned, the one without cancer. That's perfectly normal, whatever normal is. Hang in there. Take care of yourself. Find someone you can talk to about your feelings. Know that many of us here are reading your post, and we care. Hugs, Fay

Merna Al-Shimy

grandmafay said:

Crying

Crying is not a bad thing. You are dealing with a difficult disease, and crying is one way to help you cope. Have you talked to the doctor or the chemo nurse about it? They might be able to give you something to help deal with your depression. Counseling might help, too. Cancer is scary stuff especially when you are so young. You are grieving for the life you planned, the one without cancer. That's perfectly normal, whatever normal is. Hang in there. Take care of yourself. Find someone you can talk to about your feelings. Know that many of us here are reading your post, and we care. Hugs, Fay

Grandmafay

Thank you alot for your advice

but I talk to my Dr. about that and send Practitioners psychotherapist to help me and give me his number to talk to him because my fiamly don't want me to go and meet him

So I talk withhim on phone without my family know he is old not young, but he traveled to his country

Some times I talk to my frinds and my English teacher about that, my English teacher give me a hope and told me your strong woman

I'm happy because he support me. Before all that happen I like to talk to him he is a good man and always say to me "Smile Merna when you smile all the world smile with you"

But my sad and my fear still in my heart and my mind (((

grandmafay

Merna Al-Shimy said:

Grandmafay

Thank you alot for your advice

but I talk to my Dr. about that and send Practitioners psychotherapist to help me and give me his number to talk to him because my fiamly don't want me to go and meet him

So I talk withhim on phone without my family know he is old not young, but he traveled to his country

Some times I talk to my frinds and my English teacher about that, my English teacher give me a hope and told me your strong woman

I'm happy because he support me. Before all that happen I like to talk to him he is a good man and always say to me "Smile Merna when you smile all the world smile with you"

But my sad and my fear still in my heart and my mind (((

Of Course

Of course you are sad and afraid. You would really need a psychologist if you weren't. Tell the doctor that your parents object to you talking to a psychologist. Ask him if there is a mild anti-depressant you could take to help you get through this. Come here and write to us when you need someone to talk with. By the way, I am old, too, but that doesn't mean I can't listen. I'm glad you have friends to support you and a teacher. Hang in there. Fay

Merna Al-Shimy

grandmafay said:

Of Course

Of course you are sad and afraid. You would really need a psychologist if you weren't. Tell the doctor that your parents object to you talking to a psychologist. Ask him if there is a mild anti-depressant you could take to help you get through this. Come here and write to us when you need someone to talk with. By the way, I am old, too, but that doesn't mean I can't listen. I'm glad you have friends to support you and a teacher. Hang in there. Fay

Thank you grandmaFay

Great thank for you GrandmaFay

No your not old you still young

If you keep dreaming and have this great hope you still young if you stop dreaming in this time you'll be old

I'm really happy to comment and help me God know how much I'm happy

God bless you and protect you and all your family

LHM63

A website suggestion for you

There is a website I have seen that is only for teens going through cancer. The website is one from the United Kingdom   http://www.teenagecancertrust.org .  There you will get to connect with other teens going through the same thing you are.  I think maybe it would help you feel that you are not so alone.  I am 63 years old, so it has been a very long time since I was a teenager. My husband has stomach and liver cancer. Our children are 33 and 30 years old.  Although we all have the same need to be loved and understood, as a teen you have other special needs that someone much older does not.  Where you get treatment probably has a special oncology social worker you can talk to. And, as Grandmafay has said, you can always come talk to us.  In my heart I am always ageless.   Hope this helps.